ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Prison visitation (5/20/2009 7:40:47 AM)
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My friend fucked up, but she is not a bad person. I don't know all the details of the bad check she passed, so I can't really comment on what kind of a person she is. A lot of people in this thread seem quick to condemn her in the strongest terms for her original offense, but without knowing the circumstances, I don't think that's a fair assessment. Did she write the check with the intent to steal? Or did she just fuck up balancing her checkbook, rack up some overdraft fees, one thing led to another, and the next thing you know the bank was NSFing the check? Or was it something in between? I don't know. In the one case, I'd say yeah - she is a bad person, because she's a thief. On the other end of the range of possibilities, I could see where you'd be justified in saying she's not a bad person, but even in the most charitable interpretation of events, I think you'd have to admit she's a very irresponsible and exceedingly dumb one. So I have a hard time feeling sorry for her. Is her treatment excessive? Yes, absolutely, even if she is in fact a stone cold thief. And especially so if she's just someone who made a series of stupid financial decisions that culminated in her checking account blowing up in her face. But whatever the circumstances of the original crime, the fact is, she got a second chance then to straighten her life out and live by the rules, and she said "fuck it" and threw it back in the judge's face. She had her chance then to prove that it was just a one-time mistake, and that she was serious about living a responsible, law-abiding life. That's what probation is all about. But she decided that for whatever reason, the rules she'd been given to follow didn't apply to her, so she tossed 'em over the side and did what she wanted to do instead. Which tends to suggest that she's not a lily-white angel of purity who just fucked up once, but rather someone who doesn't have any regard for the law and who thinks that she can do whatever she likes and screw the consequences. Trouble is, judges don't like that. They like to feel that when they tell people what they're supposed to do to stay out of jail, the people are paying attention. And if the people don't pay attention, the judges usually try harder to get their attention. Now your friend's made herself a convicted felon, and she's got a year of misery to look forward to, and I have a hard time feeling sorry for her. I agree her treatment is way too harsh for a non-violent offender, but she's got nobody to blame but herself for putting herself in this situation, because the system tried to give her options and she told the system to go fuck itself. Now the system is going to make sure that one way or the other, she gets the point. Good luck to her. I hope she gets it this time. She's lucky to have a friend as good as you. That may make all the difference in whether or not she makes something positive out of this, but don't let her play you too badly. Sounds like maybe she's got a habit of that.
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