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VAcontroldom -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/19/2009 11:54:49 PM)
Following up on Greedy's post, I've run into that from time to time with someone. My suggestion to consider: communicate with her, letting her know you'd love to hear more vibrant details. Ask if she tends to be more demonstrative in phone conversations or over dinner. If it is a matter of being crisp in writing style, be patient, or suggest phone is going to be a better forum for you to communicate in.

MrDaddyFingers -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 12:29:33 AM)
Well, it is a moot point now. I tried some of the suggestions and was unceremoniously blocked for my efforts to know someone. I think she was either a guy, a fake of some variety, or one of these new breed of young slaves who don't want to have any say in anything. Either way, it was a learning experience, and I received much useful information for the next go around. Thank you all.

GreedyTop -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 12:33:29 AM)
sorry things didnt work out.. good luck in the future :)

LafayetteLady -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 12:46:52 AM)
Each hopeful potential that fails sucks. But better to know now than later. Just took quick looksee at your profile. Maybe add that you are looking for someone who is a good conversationalist will help a little bit. I doubt it, but hey it's worth a shot. Brush yourself off and see what comes down the road next. Searching isn't always easy, but in the end, when you find the right one, it was worth it. I tell myself that everyday, and hopefully will be able to state authoritatively that it's true. Good luck.

DesFIP -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 4:32:30 AM)
She may feel uncomfortable with writing, or have poor grammar and spelling skills. She might be more comfortable on the phone than writing. Ask her why she doesn't write longer letters.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 8:29:04 AM)
Short answers of one or two sentences that don't tell much about the person will earn a quick block, from me. These are wankers. Time wasters. Don't let them. Block and delete, MrDaddyFinger. Sorry you got jerked around.

GreedyTop -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 8:46:59 AM)
Dreamer.. please see my first post.. not all people who respond in one or two sentences are time wasters.

DesFIP -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 10:16:04 AM)
I love the sour grapes routine. She's obviously met someone she has clicked with so she has suddenly turned into a fake, a guy, a wanker. lol

Jeptha -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 10:18:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming Short answers of one or two sentences that don't tell much about the person will earn a quick block, from me. These are wankers. Time wasters. Don't let them. quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop Dreamer.. please see my first post.. not all people who respond in one or two sentences are time wasters. Therein lies the dilemma. 99% of the time, dreamerdreaming is correct. But how do you reality check to make sure you haven't got that 1% who might be serious, but uncommunicative? Some people expect you to write little sentences back and forth, like a chat between the elderly, forever. To want them to commit something more to the communication process (webcam? Questionairre? Meet for coffee?) is all you can do, I think. Maybe give them some options to choose from and then just forget it if they can't make a leap. (In the future, of course.)

Phoenixpower -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 10:21:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop I know that I am horrible at doing the email thing. My emails tend to be short and to the point, it's very rare that ANYONE gets more than a sentence or two. Even my husband. [image]http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_22_18.gif[/image] phew it has nothing to do with us...

Phoenixpower -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 10:23:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP She may feel uncomfortable with writing, or have poor grammar and spelling skills. lol.....I have poor grammar skills....but that still does not make me in any way uncomfortable to write [:D]

MrDaddyFingers -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 11:08:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP I love the sour grapes routine. She's obviously met someone she has clicked with so she has suddenly turned into a fake, a guy, a wanker. lol I don't know why my comment is sour grapes, I am a person who tries to understand situations and people. Someone seems interested and wants to talk, albeit briefly. I ask to hear more, for them to elaborate, tell me about their history, etc., they go silent and block. . If I was talking with someone and showing interested, but became more interested with another, I would simply tell the first person the truth. I said in the first post, this online stuff is new to me, and I do not run into people in the real world who behave this way. Either way, I appreciate the discussion.

Musicmystery -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 11:16:18 AM)
quote: What do you other Masters do when you talk to a submissive online and she seems very interested, but never says more than a sentence or two? Move on. Why would you want to spend time with a girl who can't/won't carry on a conversation?

LafayetteLady -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/20/2009 11:35:47 AM)
As I said before, if this happens again, simply tell the person you love good conversations and that at this point, there is no "protocol" she needs to follow, so she should feel free to say or ask anything she wants. If she still isn't communicative, ask if she would prefer to talk on the phone or meet for coffee. If none of that works, then tell her thank you but conversation is a big part of a relationship for you and so you aren't a match and say goodbye.

DesFIP -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/21/2009 4:32:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeptha Therein lies the dilemma. 99% of the time, dreamerdreaming is correct. But how do you reality check to make sure you haven't got that 1% who might be serious, but uncommunicative? Some people expect you to write little sentences back and forth, like a chat between the elderly, forever. To want them to commit something more to the communication process (webcam? Questionairre? Meet for coffee?) is all you can do, I think. Maybe give them some options to choose from and then just forget it if they can't make a leap. (In the future, of course.) And then there's something totally off the wall. Ask them why they only write very short letters. Someone who is much more comfortable like GT will answer truthfully, that she's awkward with email and what's your cell number?

GreedyTop -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/21/2009 6:04:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop I know that I am horrible at doing the email thing. My emails tend to be short and to the point, it's very rare that ANYONE gets more than a sentence or two. Even my husband. [image]http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_22_18.gif[/image] phew it has nothing to do with us... nope... it's me :) (what an adorable emoti!!)

oceanwinds -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/21/2009 10:52:45 AM)
Personally, i write very short emails. i try to answer the question and move on, however that is also Sir's preferrance. Me personally, i can get very bored with long drawn out emails, cmails or even posts, and lose my interest.

windchymes -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/21/2009 1:51:03 PM)
In all seriousness, maybe she just types very slowly, with one finger? I work with a woman like that....drove me out of my mind when I was training her...one key at a time, and she had to search around the keyboard for each letter as she typed stuff. So typing any more than a sentence or two might be tedious agony for her.

Jeptha -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/21/2009 2:41:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP And then there's something totally off the wall. Ask them why they only write very short letters. Someone who is much more comfortable like GT will answer truthfully, that she's awkward with email and what's your cell number? Yes, that is a very good first step. Personally I don't have a cell phone (I know, I know - that's like saying I don't have indoor plumbing. But it is what it is, for now), so if she just wrote back "I'm shy." Or "I don't do e-mail well." then I (for example - but I think there are others who wouldn't want to give their cellphone number out at semi-random, too) would have to figure something else out.

DesFIP -> RE: Uncommunicative submissives (5/21/2009 3:26:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrDaddyFingers I don't know why my comment is sour grapes, I am a person who tries to understand situations and people. Your post #22 says she's quote: either a guy, a fake of some variety . You think this doesn't scream sour grapes?

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