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Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:08:30 AM   
NeedaWHAPwoman


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Status: offline 		   I am becoming increasingly aware that I am no longer young......(sigh)........I guess it beats the alternative. Then again no one really can say for sure......        My question is: should I look for Domme's my own age? If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 
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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:10:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		The profile says that you are 47.  There are plenty of people in your age group.  We just take a little longer to recover from a long play session.

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:12:22 AM   
oceanwinds


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Status: offline 		That would be a choice for the Domme as well as you. Heck i am getting way up there and counting the lines on my face. What a beauty to grow older! Sir is 6 years younger then me. Late hubby was 15 years older then me. age in my reality is not relevant. What is, is maturity. i just cant submit to someone who i have little respect for.

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:32:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

  I am becoming increasingly aware that I am no longer young......(sigh)........I guess it beats the alternative. Then again no one really can say for sure......        My question is: should I look for Domme's my own age? If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 


My last slave was 18 when I collared her and 21 when we parted. I am 64 in August this year and my Wife who is also a Dominant turned 34 in Feb this year....

Finding a younger Mistress, sub or slave will depend on the social dynamic of any given location, be it a country, state, county or even just locally. here in Australia, it appears generally but with a number of exceptions, that it is ok for a younger male to seek and have a relationship with an older woman but let an older male become involved with a younger one (Younger by many years), then that older gentleman can expect vilification and in some cases, being ostracised as both Neets and I have sadly found out.


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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:33:58 AM   
STONE1944


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Status: offline 		from a Dom's perspective- there's a definite attraction for that maturity in a sub/slave- and the wrinkles and warts that it brings on the surface. One knows that with all the experiences that are contained within that the sub/slave has at this point settled into what has truly attracted her. And that is not to say that younger is not true to their calling and cause- but simply to say that younger in general seem more inclinded to be "smelling all the roses" in an effort to achieve that settled maturity that is already within their older sisters.

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:38:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: STONE1944

from a Dom's perspective- there's a definite attraction for that maturity in a sub/slave- and the wrinkles and warts that it brings on the surface. One knows that with all the experiences that are contained within that the sub/slave has at this point settled into what has truly attracted her. And that is not to say that younger is not true to their calling and cause- but simply to say that younger in general seem more inclinded to be "smelling all the roses" in an effort to achieve that settled maturity that is already within their older sisters.


Smelling all the roses, hmmmmmmmm nay i take them in and make rose oils:)

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:45:23 AM   
breatheasone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

  I am becoming increasingly aware that I am no longer young......(sigh)........I guess it beats the alternative. Then again no one really can say for sure......        My question is: should I look for Domme's my own age? If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 

Dude.... just find a Babe.... the RIGHT one at ANY age will trip your trigger!


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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:51:56 AM   
LadySweetOrSour


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Status: offline 		You're on CM, so you're already a pervert.

Seriously, age is a number. Maturity is key here, not age. I am 48 and prefer my slaves to be 30-50. Younger, and the hormones (and sex) seem to be more important than the actually slavery. Older and on the whole, not my preference physically. And the stamina level often is lower. That is just MY preference.

On the other hand, I recently met with a 25 year old slave, who appears to be more mature than many 10 years older than him.

As said dommes, like every other human being on the planet, have their own preferences. Some like those in a similar age group as themselves, others like extreme differences. It is something to work out between you and she, not you alone. You will be told pretty quickly if the domme you are pursuing considers you too old/young.

Just remember, a lot of very hot and very young domme photo profiles are scams, so if they start asking for cash, they probably aint the ones for you (or anyone else). And before anyone has a conniption, I said scammers, not ProDommes. I am not saying every hot, young domme is a ProDomme and if they are, bloody good luck to them. That is their perogative and I wish them all the very best in their chosen field, as I always have. (There is more than enough bitching and whinging about ProDommes in the threads already).

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 6:59:15 AM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		You have to find what fits and not be bothered by what others think.

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 7:51:44 AM   
Chuck48


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Status: offline 		If you think finding a female Domme. is hard, try finding a female otk spanking S/switch who wants a ltr with a 61yr. old man.

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 8:03:04 AM   
chiaThePet


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Testicle Lift.

Some pubic highlights to blend the gray.

Just avoid the whole botox thingy.

Little did we know when momma said, "Your face will freeze like that".

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 9:08:00 AM   
NihilusZero


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ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 

You say that as if the title should imply something negative.

<---Self-admitted (and comfortable with it) pervert.


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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 9:09:19 AM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

I am becoming increasingly aware that I am no longer young......(sigh)........I guess it beats the alternative. Then again no one really can say for sure......        My question is: should I look for Domme's my own age? If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 

Master is many many years younger than i.
He is the most skillful, benevolent, grounded and honest Master i have ever bowed to. As i grow older my submission deepens and i become more assured in feelings of self-worth. It would be unfair of me to say that age is not an issue: in our dynamic a purely positive one.
i am also happily certain that it is not our ages whereby we would be judged perverts.



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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 9:58:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

  I am becoming increasingly aware that I am no longer young......(sigh)........I guess it beats the alternative. Then again no one really can say for sure......        My question is: should I look for Domme's my own age? If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 


(Since when is 47 not young? I turn 51 a week from today and *I* am just gettin' started !! )
 
Its not the number, its the fit!

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 9:59:45 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Are you considering an older domina because you can't get the younger domina?  (Yes my eye brow arched)  If you want a younger woman... go for the younger woman... it is your choice and you could be lucky or you could lose out, but it is your choice and you will have to live with that choice.

NO WOMAN wants to be looked at like second choice... less than someone else or to be judged on such fickle objectives.  I do not say this in a defensive way.  I say it in a way that should suggest that I find it offensive (in general... as in life, not personally) that you would consider someone you really don't want, just to get someone, because you can't get someone else.  It isn't an age thing.  It is a matter of how you view yourself, other's and how you see age on a person maybe, rather than the heart and soul and the more important things.



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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 10:28:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

   I am becoming increasingly aware that I am no longer young......(sigh)........I guess it beats the alternative. Then again no one really can say for sure......        My question is: should I look for Domme's my own age? If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 


Now see it is payback time...remember when you were young..and an older woman looked at you and you went....EEEEEWWWWWWWW...

Butch

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 10:56:39 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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ORIGINAL: NeedaWHAPwoman

  I am becoming increasingly aware that I am no longer young......(sigh)........I guess it beats the alternative. Then again no one really can say for sure......        My question is: should I look for Domme's my own age? If I pursue younger, at what age am I considered a pervert? 


On a planet with six billion people, there are scads of possibilities. Multiple people who would match up well with any given person, as long as they have enough in common. Look for people whose needs and desires, goals etc. are a good fit with yours.

No one can change what day and year they were born, but we can all adjust our ways of thinking. So: set wide age parameters, and adjust your thinking. You are young.


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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 10:56:49 AM   
GYPZYQUEEN


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Status: offline 		So you would not pursue younger
because WHO would think you are a perv?
 
WHO are  they?  do they count..? DO they affect your life?

IF you want younger pursue younger ..its your preference ..
If it is not a preference then pursue someone who is a match in all areas..
that fits for you
IF you can't GET younger and are settling for older..
then thats anothr matter..isnt it?

GQ

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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 1:32:26 PM   
PyrotheClown


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Status: offline 		too young, too old... Seems like ever one is picky one way or the other, no one is going to be content with all age groups all the time, and it seems every body here on CM has a very particular age range that they are looking for,But hell, that's what we're here for right;finding people who are compatible to our personal standards( how ever silly they may be).Me personally, not to concerned.I mean yeah, sometimes I feel like I'm trying to get lucky at a retirement home here, and it is far easier for me to relate to people my own age..but that's me.........So really it's all up to you, and you, and you......





you know what they say, age is just a number....................
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RE: Age question......... - 5/21/2009 1:45:11 PM   
Kat713


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ORIGINAL: Chuck48
If you think finding a female Domme. is hard, try finding a female otk spanking S/switch who wants a ltr with a 61yr. old man.

Ok, I'm not trying to pick on the older people here, but...I'm sorry, I must admit that I laughed at that one.

On a serious note though: Being a 19 year old switch, I get lots of messages from people older than me. And I mean, I have to be honest. I'm not fantasizing about a much older guy or anything, but you would be surprised how the world works sometimes. For example, I met a guy on here and he is 42. Although we are not in a bdsm relationship, I have met him in person, we hang out, I flirt with him a lot, and yes, I think he's cute *blush*
So, it can happen. In fact some younger people actually prefer older guys.

Now as for you being considered a pervert? Ok, here is how things work: Under 18= PERVERT. 18 and over= You're good to go, man. So don't worry about it... Now if you're holding some young girl (or even an older girl) against her will or harrassing her, yes you're still a pervert lol. But if a pretty young thing wants to be with you, fuck what everyone thinks.  I know I get a trip out of going out with my older friend and seeing the looks people give us when he's giving me a piggy back ride or something lol.

Oh, and Chuck48, as long as you have a nice ass, I wouldn't mind giving you a couple smacks  . 

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