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submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 6:38:26 PM   
jester51


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Status: offline 		 Hello my 1st post , anyhow the lifestyle intrest me , although somehow I dont understand the concept , yes maybe some kink in a relashonship , and posibly submiting  X amount of days in a time period , but anymore does seem as though plain pussy wipped for lack of better label .
  Where is the trust ? mutual respect ? compromise ?
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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 6:55:17 PM   
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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 7:33:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		OP, turn off your computer and meet people.You are thinking of the lifestyle as a bunch of physical acts.  It's a relationship, with the acts added in.


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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 7:41:09 PM   
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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 7:43:14 PM   
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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 9:35:51 PM   
FullfigRIMAAM1


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Status: offline 		So you prefer cock whipped with occasional pacifying of the lady, and a good amount of kinky sex thrown in for good measure.
I welcome you to "?the lifestyle", and though am not a betting woman, I'm going to guess you're going to come back complaining about any woman who wants interaction with you, requiring a tribute/fee first.

This is about alternative relationships, and it's perfectly okay to be a switch where you tell the world that your kink is not submission, but equal partnerships with kinky sex.   If however, you slap on the label of submissive, and have a problem with being submissive to women, the lessons are going to be painful.   M

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 10:26:34 PM   
jester51


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Status: offline 		   Sorry about the spelling ,  and Thanks Fullfigrimaam   for your thought ,  i dont know just seems anything more than partime is ?  how about a mans idenity ?
  I mean Disney worlds a great place but I dont want to live there !  LOL


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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 10:44:06 PM   
FullfigRIMAAM1


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Status: offline 		What is your identity dependent on?   I don't intend to remove any man's identity or manhood.   Some of the greatest men I've known, have been exceptional at treating their women as leaders and adored creatures, never compromising their respectability or manhood.  
The fact that you are conflicted, is not unusual in a male dominant world.   All I have to tell you is that male submission is not for the weak, or massively insecure.    M

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 10:48:00 PM   
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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 10:51:40 PM   
aphotic


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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 11:53:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		If the individual was "pussywhipped" as you put it, I, and many submissive ladies, wouldn't want him.

Incidentally, a posting of this quality sent to my collarme inbox will garner a prewritten, cut and pasted response and deletion, most likely. Mainly because there is absolutely no attempt whatsoever to actually spell, and every moderately intelligent person I've ever met has either used perfect spelling in forums and emails or has given it a damn good try. I've already learned that stupid people can't keep up with me, and try as I might, I can't slow down for them.

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/21/2009 11:55:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Er, for "submissive" in my post, read "dominant".

Clearly I should not post on the forums at nearly 3 am my time.

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 12:55:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

where is spell check?


More to the point, where is the popcorn

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 3:57:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jester51

Hello my 1st post , anyhow the lifestyle intrest me , although somehow I dont understand the concept , yes maybe some kink in a relashonship , and posibly submiting  X amount of days in a time period , but anymore does seem as though plain pussy wipped for lack of better label .
Where is the trust ? mutual respect ? compromise ?
gee...no kiddin'?


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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 4:46:48 AM   
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mans idenity ?


How about a woman's identity as a Dominant? Is she supposed to give it up to pacify a man's fear  of being viewed as "pussy whipped" ? I do not think so, at least I refuse to do so. In female led relationships, the women LEAD and are the decision makers. Just think of a woman as "Head of household" like in the old days when only males were permitted to wear that mantle. Sure there is compromise, mutual respect and yes a sense of indentity (In most of them) as there is in any successful relationship.

It sounds to me as if you are fearful of a female led relationship. Sure you want the kink and eroticism but you do not want it outside of the bedroom. Be sure to tell whoever you get involved with this tidbit. Or you may want to seek out the services of a Pro for some "meet and beat" on your coin.

~Lashra

< Message edited by Lashra -- 5/22/2009 4:49:15 AM >

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 4:53:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jester51
Hello my 1st post , anyhow the lifestyle intrest me , although somehow I dont understand the concept , yes maybe some kink in a relashonship , and posibly submiting  X amount of days in a time period , but anymore does seem as though plain pussy wipped for lack of better label .
Where is the trust ? mutual respect ? compromise ?


You're making assumptions about how these relationships work, although you apparenlty have no experience with this kind of relationship or with people who are in these relationships on which to base these assumptions.  Why not talk to folks who are involved in this kind of thing and ask how it works rather than assume that you already know?

My hubby is also my full-time slave-boy.  Our relationship is based on love, trust and mutual respect.  Compromise is also an aspect of our relationship, but perhaps works a bit differently than it would in a more egalitarian arrangement. 

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 5:58:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jester51

Hello my 1st post , anyhow the lifestyle intrest me , although somehow I dont understand the concept , yes maybe some kink in a relashonship , and posibly submiting  X amount of days in a time period , but anymore does seem as though plain pussy wipped for lack of better label .
Where is the trust ? mutual respect ? compromise ?


1.  Boy meets girl.
2.  Girl is dominant, boy is submissive
3.  Girl and boy make relationship based on trust, mutual respect, and compromise...and hopefully...love 
4.  Girl expresses dominant side, boy expresses submissive side as a -component- of the relationship
5.  Vanilla stuff happens
6.  kinky stuff happens
7.  Pussies and whips play only a part of the whole
8.  Boy and girl are in a relationship

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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 6:46:29 AM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		Trust should be the basis of the relationship.  While you are pleasing your chosen one you should be finding fulfillment.  For most it is not a game:  Ok, I will allow myself to be pussywhipped for exactly one hour and then I will go back to being myself.  It is a relationship in which open communication is a must.  You choose to submit to someone and reap the rewards.  That doesn't mean everything will be easy or that it's all about you, but if you aren't getting something that you need from it then it is a waste of your time.

If you are trying to say that you are in a relationship where you feel like you aren't getting what you need, then communicate that and see if things change.  If they don't then maybe you are with the wrong partner.  If you are not in a relationship and are just making generalizations then you haven't seen healthy and happy relationships.  Read up on it with books like The Loving Dominant or Different Loving, get out and meet people who are in committed and thriving relationships, but don't just sit back and assume that a sub's role is only to be used and abused.  While there may be some fun in that for both parties it typically takes some show of appreciation or caring to keep the sub going.


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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 6:47:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

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ORIGINAL: jester51

Hello my 1st post , anyhow the lifestyle intrest me , although somehow I dont understand the concept , yes maybe some kink in a relashonship , and posibly submiting  X amount of days in a time period , but anymore does seem as though plain pussy wipped for lack of better label .
Where is the trust ? mutual respect ? compromise ?


1.  Boy meet girl.
2.  Girl is dominate, boy is submisive
3.  Girl and boy make relatinship based on trust, mutul respect, and comprimise...and hopefuly...love 
4.  Girl expreses dominate side, boy expresses submissive side as a -compinent- of the relatinship
5.  Vanila stuf hapenz
6.  kinky stuf happenz
7.  Pusies and whipps play only a part of the whole
8.  Boy and girl are in a relatinship


Edited so he could read and understand it.

Great summary btw.


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RE: submisive = pussy wipped ? - 5/22/2009 8:58:42 AM   
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