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T&D build up - 5/22/2009 11:14:45 AM

Aimtoplease101

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Hi folks-- a technique question for those you who enjoy tease and denial play. I've read some contradictory opinions on the best way to build up to a intense T&D experience. One school of thought favors having the sub have multiple orgasms in the week or so leading up to the T&D session in order to have him in "maximm production" mode and thus responsive to the teasing. The other school of thought favors chastity/orgasim denial in the week or so leading up to make him more desperate.

What say you?

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RE: T&D build up - 5/22/2009 11:45:43 AM

Lockit

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Nice to see you Aim!

I have done both, but it is more the person and my whim if you will. Just a part of the dynamic's between us and how I wish to play with my man. To make it so he can't expect what I will do and what will happen. I don't think there is really anything more to it for me.

The first man I did tease and denial with, we didn't see ourselves into bdsm or d/s. I found power in sexual things because he was so plyable and I could have him going crazy with a look or expresson or a word. I knew him and his triggers and loved playing with them. I think this is when I saw something in myself that I hadn't seen before or rather only had a glimce of before.

If I am in a situation where I don't see the man on a daily basis, I will play it different. Sometimes he gets free release and then nothing before coming to see me because I want him thinking of his hunger. It is more a head thing than an acutal physical hunger I think. There are times when I don't do anything and just let things flow. I don't need him hungry because that hunger can be built in a moment or so and things said and done. It doesn't always matter how long he is hungry... just that he is. lol

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RE: T&D build up - 5/22/2009 12:20:29 PM

Aimtoplease101

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Nice to hear from you too! ATP

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