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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/25/2009 8:51:44 PM

LafayetteLady

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Now this is the answer I was looking for! Seems to be a minority opinion....

Merc has exactly the slave he deserves .. and so do you.

Now THIS is the perfect response. Way to go BitaTruble!

Although I don't think he'll get the point.

But still.....EXCELLENT, JUST FUCKING EXCELLENT!

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/25/2009 8:59:54 PM

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Still for me to provide the emotional and financial support, I want what I want in return. If that makes me a selfish asshole then so be it.

First of all, apparently that "emotional support" had an expiration date, because you sure on being emotional support based on what you said.

Second, read the bold above....What did you "want in return" for taking her on the first few dates? Was this part of your initial "agreement"? I will support you financially and meanwhile, you will give me kinky sex whenever I want it?

Dude, it isn't simply that you sound like a selfish asshole. It is that you sound like an all around asshole who hasn't developed socially enough to date anyone other than "Rosy Palm". It isn't "domly", it isn't dignified, it isn't mature. It's the response one would expect from a teenager who doesn't know any better.

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/25/2009 9:06:15 PM

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ORIGINAL:LafayetteLady,

First of all, apparently that "emotional support" had an expiration date, because you sure on being emotional support based on what you said.

Second, read the bold above....What did you "want in return" for taking her on the first few dates? Was this part of your initial "agreement"? I will support you financially and meanwhile, you will give me kinky sex whenever I want it?

Dude, it isn't simply that you sound like a selfish asshole. It is that you sound like an all around asshole who hasn't developed socially enough to date anyone other than "Rosy Palm". It isn't "domly", it isn't dignified, it isn't mature. It's the response one would expect from a teenager who doesn't know any better.

You must be an AWESOME carpenter, because you always hit the nail on the head!

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/25/2009 9:14:47 PM

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You must be an AWESOME carpenter, because you always hit the nail on the head!

Thanks. Just seemed like "stupid slap" time. I couldn't help it. Now I just need a little smiley thing and I will be all set. Won't have to say anything, just paste in the "stupid slap" smiley.

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/26/2009 4:00:26 AM

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As for the daughter you neglected to mention at the beginning, all kids that age go through an awkward stage when they appear bratty and disrepectful. It passes. They grow up to be good people. You did, didn't you?

More importantly, she chose to submit to him, the child didn't. She decided that he was worthy of respect, the child didn't. She chose to move into his house, the child didn't. The kid gets plopped into a situation not of her chosing, away from her family and friends, and told she owes him total respect and obedience because he put her in this place she doesn't want to be. And he wonders why the kid is so disrespectful.

The child is unhappy and is not being allowed to express it because anything other than "yes sir" is being disrespectful. How did you expect this transition would go?

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/27/2009 6:29:39 AM

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...How often is normal with you guys?...

our normal is as many times a day as He decides to have it.
this slave does not tell Him when or where or how or with who HE will get sexual/session with.

That's the way it is here too.....but the thing is, I'm a willing participant in this relationship and I LIKE the way things are.

I don't have the type of relationship that the OP has though, and nothing could possible come up that would require either of us to ask for other people's input on it.

Even when things are *for him* , they are *for me* too ....... things are the way they are with us because it works for the people we are and for what we chose.

I've found that it's quite hard to explain the *whys and whats* of what makes things work and produce two very content people, when asked specifically........but it generally boils down to having the same outlook in a huge amount of areas, easy communication and being compatable overall.

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/28/2009 8:35:12 AM

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sounds like just not play time factors involved here. iron out some of the other issues you may see a change in activity.

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/31/2009 10:22:33 AM

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kick her out and let me move in, i need a man to take care of me.....ohhh and im a great cook. let me bring my kids also, so you can support them too!! gezz what a life i would have!

teasing... you do have issues with her you need to talk about. if you do not wish to have a doomed relationship, you need to speak your mind to her.

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/31/2009 10:25:02 AM

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what a cry baby/wuss

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RE: Frequency of Sessions after Two Years Together? - 5/31/2009 10:34:42 AM

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We have sex several times a week, but actual sessions are very few and far between..4-6 hr sessions are pretty much unheard of.

We both are pretty busy, he works, I am in college, and we now have my mom that lives with us. The only way for us to even think of having a session like that is to get a hotel room and let's face it, in this economy that doesn't just happen every week.

We still find ways to keep it good though, and in our dynamic of M/s. There is always breast play, hair pulling, and a few other things I won't mention here. No, we don't get to do the hour long flogging sessions, or make enough noise to cause really good marks, but it can still be really fulfilling if you are willing to put the work in.

As for finding someone outside of your relationship, I am not one for cheating so I would never tell you what to do in that area.

The thing is, when it all comes down to it, we are both adults with pretty busy lives, and sometimes those lives can get in the way of how things used to be.

Like anything in life, relationships don't come easily..and this type of relationship probably comes harder than most. You have to decide what you are willing to put into it to make it better, and also understand that while she is your sub/slave, she is still busy with things away from you..as I am sure you are away from her.

Perhaps plan a weekend a month to make it special, a Saturday in to only play..etc. There are things to do, it's just making the effort.

SB

edited to add: BTW, it doesn't matter if I am in the mood, if I am busy, if I had a rough day..etc. If my Master wants sex, he gets it. He just starts in and I let him do what he wants. He is my owner, lover, dominant, and more..so I have no reason to deny him pleasure whenever possible. That works for us though, and I don't suggest it would work for anyone else.

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