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DemonKia -> RE: answering questions (5/24/2009 2:26:56 AM)
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One of my issues is the conundrum of 'over-controlling stuff versus allowing space for serendipity' . . . ...
I tend to be 'excessively controlling', & it limits my ability to learn & for unexpected 'good' stuff to enter into my life . . ... . I work to counter this by seeking out perspectives I don't agree with & answers I did not seek, amongst other tactics . .. . .
I also tend to see the above as being an issue of my being 'excessively goal-oriented', where I lose sight of bigger pictures in obsessing over some particular subset of concerns . .... . & for me the OP's question exists in this area, to some degree -- that questions asked 'require' linearly & logically obvious answers, & deviating from the point is 'bad form' . . . . . But my reality is great information may come from the most obscure & non-obvious of places, if my mind is receptive to the opportunity . . . . .
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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
If I respond to a question, and state that I can't answer the -exact- question given, it is often because I feel that there are aspects of the question that may not have been considered, and, while what I say may be considered irrelevant by some, I've found it to be an important consideration or will help with refining/defining a situation in terms that may help the process. Frankly, I don't give a tinker's damn whether someone here agrees with me, disagrees, or doesn't give two hoots. I don't care if they like me, hate me, or are completely indifferent to my existence. If I offer a response, it is because the question evoked a perspective that I wish to share. If someone doesn't want to hear it, they can skip my posts and more power to 'em. With brutal candor, I can say that I participate here to hear myself talk, and to have the illusion that something that I say might, in fact, be relevant, even if it isn't the -exact- framework of the question under discussion. If I were doing it for the external validation, it would be essentially worthless, since any external validation is rapidly countered with at least as many, if not more, instances of external invalidation.
Frankly, I find it interesting that people feel the need to dissect every aspect of someone else's participation on the boards. This is an exercise in mental masturbation for all of us -- a writing down and displaying of personal thoughts in a public medium. If we, collectively, weren't philosophical voyeurs and attention sluts, I hypothesize that none of us would be here posting... we'd all find something more productive to do with our time.
Dame Calla
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A gold-star sticker for you, from me, Calla . . .. . . .
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