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Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/25/2009 7:27:00 PM   
suculentboobs


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Status: offline 		Hi. I am a female bisexual.  I am not into anything kinky.  I like to sexually please a feminine, bi lady and be ordered to do so.  When I say sexually, I mean with my mouth and hands.  SO...would I be a sub  or slave and am I seeking a Mistress or Goddess.
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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/25/2009 7:32:13 PM   
AngelGeena


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Status: offline 		imo....you would not be a slave....and whether you seek a Mistress or Goddess...i think that depends on what any one woman chooses to be called.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/25/2009 7:36:21 PM   
gentlemanprince


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Status: offline 		I have serious reservations about any woman who considers hereself a goddess.  Really, divinity is a hard act to pull off.

Why don't you look for a dominant lady who you like as a person.  The rest will follow.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/25/2009 7:44:57 PM   
ShaktiSama


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quote:

ORIGINAL: suculentboobs

Hi. I am a female bisexual.  I am not into anything kinky.  I like to sexually please a feminine, bi lady and be ordered to do so. 


Errr...you kinda contradicted yourself there.  Being ordered to service people orally or manually is already kinda kinky.

Right now, you sound mostly vanilla with lesbian submissive tendencies.  I woud not advise you to call yourself a slave, not only because the word tends to imply a more extreme power exchange, but also because it implies a very committed relationship, a collar, a sense of being owned, etc..

"Mistress", "Goddess" etc. are essentially pet names that submissives use to address dominants once the two of them form a dynamic.  As for what you should call YOUR dominant--that's a matter for the two of you to work out on your own, as you get to know each other.  But if you're going to be meeting women who already carry the tag of "Mistress", "Goddess", "Lady", "Ma'am", etc. in their handle, you should probably think about whether it would turn you on to address someone that way.  Those women might already have a preference.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 2:25:10 AM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		from what i was told a slave has no rights nor the ability to have a say. A sub on the other hand has limitations and is at service with the consent of the D and at boundaries that are set and agreed upon by both parties.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 3:08:55 AM   
VelvetCruelty


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Status: offline 		I get so sick of the slave/sub controversy and the whole 'a slave has no limits and no rights' blah blah blah. 

I mean absolutely no disrespect to those that follow that path, only that it is terribly dangerous and confusing to those that are new to the scene.

Human beings have rights, always.  If you are new to this, please be aware that always in your play you should be SAFE/SANE/CONSENSUAL.

Now, as for what you are.............  You state you aren't kinky, but are on a kink site.  Why not Adultfriendfinder or something like that?

I just recommend taking the time to talk with women who may interest you.  It's always a good ideal to start off with friends and conversation than it is to just decide to fall on your knees for the first domme that comes along.

Take the time to find out what you enjoy, what you like and what fits into your life - then decide.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 4:07:23 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		i'm definately a sub....i mean just LOOK at this awesome lettuce and tomato, i'm sporting! Its not easy being green.

< Message edited by breatheasone -- 5/27/2009 4:17:06 AM >

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 4:14:17 AM   
oceanwinds


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Status: offline 		Hi suculentboobs
i think for now you might to consider your self a submissive, but study and research both so down the road you might be answer that question for yourself better and be comfortable.

in my human relationship i am submissive. Since i follow the Goddess Pele, volcano Goddess of Hawaii, i consider myself her slave.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 4:33:30 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		On cm, you have limited options.  So for here, I would list yourself as submissive, just because it will save you a lot of hassle.
Expand in your profile though and put exactly what you wrote here so you have been clear from the start.  From what you have written, you don't mention submission at all - so from my point of view, your a bottom.
 
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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 7:38:38 AM   
pompeii


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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 7:48:42 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:12:31 AM   
antipode


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quote:

Human beings have rights, always.


That is decidedly off topic - unless you assume we're all bereft of brains, and you're not. Which would be disrespectful.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:15:20 AM   
antipode


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quote:

.would I be a sub or slave


Are you saying something here out of kilter with your profile? Because according to your profile, you're a lesbian. Beyond that, if you do what you describe in your profile, what feelings / reactions do you exhibit? You can't do a checkoff, or a spreadsheet, where humans are involved.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:15:34 AM   
army101


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Status: offline 		lot of good answers for you so far. I would advise starting out as a sub and try to grow into a slave and of course take your time so you enjoy it okay? And as others said re-check your profile put down what you are looking for what you enjoy or would like to try and most important put down your limits as what you wont do.

It will make it a lot easier to find some one then..........good luck with your search!

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:16:11 AM   
subtlebutterfly


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According to the profile the OP just seems to be looking for a quick fix once in a while....and claiming not to be kinky..then..I can't possibly figure out what on earth she may be doing here of all the dating sites out there...I'd say she's a bottom, nothing more, nothing less, not a submissive nor a slave.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:18:17 AM   
NihilusZero


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quote:

ORIGINAL: VelvetCruelty

I get so sick of the slave/sub controversy and the whole 'a slave has no limits and no rights' blah blah blah. 

I mean absolutely no disrespect to those that follow that path, only that it is terribly dangerous and confusing to those that are new to the scene.

Actually, it would be more dangerous to not generally define a slave as one who's surrendered substantially more in the power exchange department and then have a new individual discover, through interaction with D-types seeking slaves, that she's commonly expected to surrender more control than she had assumed.


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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:25:31 AM   
VampiresLair


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quote:

ORIGINAL: suculentboobs

I am not into anything kinky.  I like to sexually please a feminine, bi lady and be ordered to do so.  When I say sexually, I mean with my mouth and hands.  SO...would I be a sub  or slave and am I seeking a Mistress or Goddess.


From this alone, you are looking for a sex partner, not a Mistress or Goddess. You want a Top, and not a relationship.

If you are a sub or slave, then service would extend past sexual playtime and include other things. This is not what you are into. Be careful looking for it, you will ruin many a meeting.

Sub/slave is determined by an owner, when someone has one. You arent looking for that sort f commitment from your OP, so I dont think you would be either.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:27:24 AM   
NihilusZero


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Status: offline 		OP just appears to be looking to role-play occasionally as a bottom.

As some have mentioned, that qualifies as neither sub or slave.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 8:49:38 AM   
SultryMomma


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Status: offline 		I haven't checked out the profile, but from what you have said OP, I would say you are a bottom, looking for someone to Top you.

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RE: Would I be a slave or a sub - 5/27/2009 9:26:49 AM   
sweetgirlseeks


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Status: offline 		Okay... i have no idea... what the heck is a bottom, and how is that different than a sub?

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