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LadyConstanze -> RE: Male subs' occupation (6/1/2009 4:05:48 PM)
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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1
LadyConstanze, from your perspective, I understand that it's normal conversation, and usually not considered rude. Having lived in a couple of major cities, I find that people do often use the work question as a way to get to know each other, better understand their passions, and possibly network.
However, even though I love what I do, and cannot complain about my salary, I get a little rashy, anytime I feel someone is trying to size me up financially. The work question is usually how we estimate someone's "worth." It isn't mine, by the way. What I do is a very small indicator of who I am. One large city I lived in, had a very standard opening line in conversation which I found rude/irritating... "What do you do and what do you drive" asked pretty close to the end of the introduction line "it's nice to meet you..." A great many people do ask the question, to size someone up financially, which I would imagine you agree, is abnoxious, coming from someone with whom you haven't shared very personal information. M
"What do you do and what do you drive" is pretty much going that step over normal conversation into rudeness, separately I wouldn't consider the issue rude, but then again I believe in small, environmentally friendly cars and if anybody has a problem with a Honda Civic, too tough!
I just think work and what we do for most of our time leaves an impact on us, now if a person is in a job that leaves them cold completely, that they just see as a way to pay the bills without much commitment, it does tell me something about the person itself and it might not shed the most positive light on them. To be honest I would rather talk to somebody who works in a job that isn't too prestigious but he or she feels passionate about it, than somebody in a rather prestigious job where they don't feel they have a real commitment to it.
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