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StayingAnonymou -> What gives? (5/27/2009 4:19:01 PM)
Okay, I'm a fairly regular poster here who doesn't want to give some jerk the satisfaction of knowing just how much he got to me. Someone I've so far only spoken to for some time on line and on phone and we seem (at least so I thought) to have a connection. He isn't really local but we've had ongoing regular conversations. Now he calls he's in the general area and we set up plans to meet. No expectations for play but maybe a beginning for one later on, right? We've been talking for quite a while and I'm really looking forward to our first meeting. Then..... Silence. Loud Silence. Nothing. He's gone. He doesn't answer the phone. He doesn't reply to emails. His profile is gone. I'm not really asking for advice, I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

Eleutherios -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 4:22:49 PM)
That sucks, I know, it's happened to a couple people I've been close to. My take on it, not everyone has the balls to be honest when they're no longer interested.

AngelGeena -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 4:31:18 PM)
It happens alot. People can be cowards about being honest and sometimes they can't or don't want to deal with the reality of things. It bites bigtime.

LadyPact -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 4:40:55 PM)
Sorry for your disappointment. Some people just don't have the balls to do the real life thing.

missturbation -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 4:45:32 PM)
That sucks, sorry it happened. Just a little thought though. Pretty sure if he posts here too he's going to know this thread is about him and in turn exactly who wrote it. That sucks too [:D]

DesFIP -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 5:02:14 PM)
His wife decided to accompany him on the trip is my bet. Bet he'll pop back up next time her back is turned.

MsFlutter -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 5:08:51 PM)
Sorry to hear about your experience. Sadly, credibility just isn't important to everyone. There are those who are okay with being known as unreliable and/or having no stones. In many cases, they brag about being rude and completely lacking in manners. Just consider him/them to be as irrelevant as they obviously already are.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 5:14:07 PM)
This sort of thing happens constantly! I know that doesn't make you feel better, but I want to assure you that it is NOT you, it's them. I was chatting to a local guy, who poofed. The next thing I knew, he had changed his profile to say "found Mistress". Okies! I wrote him a "congratulations" note---only to hear back that the mistress he had found was ME! [sm=banghead.gif] I told him that we would need to discuss that issue in person---because we had not physically MET yet! Haven't heard from him since. I wish that the ones who are not interested would have the good grace to just say "no thanks" in an email, or that the ones who NEVER intend to leave the computer room would say as much. I would also like to wish for a Pucci print corset, and a money tree. [;)][;)]

SexyBlackMan2 -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 5:40:25 PM)
that's a real shame. It unfortunately happens more often than one would think in these rooms.

janiebelle -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 5:51:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I was chatting to a local guy, who poofed. The next thing I knew, he had changed his profile to say "found Mistress". Okies! I wrote him a "congratulations" note---only to hear back that the mistress he had found was ME! [sm=banghead.gif] I told him that we would need to discuss that issue in person---because we had not physically MET yet! Haven't heard from him since. Presumptuous little devil, eh?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 5:57:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: janiebelle quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I was chatting to a local guy, who poofed. The next thing I knew, he had changed his profile to say "found Mistress". Okies! I wrote him a "congratulations" note---only to hear back that the mistress he had found was ME! [sm=banghead.gif] I told him that we would need to discuss that issue in person---because we had not physically MET yet! Haven't heard from him since. Presumptuous little devil, eh? No kidding!! But at least it was a totally new bit of WTF!

chronos1976 -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 6:06:13 PM)
Sorry to hear about your disappointment. He could have at least been honest with you. And this is frequent behaviour? [sm=hewah.gif] That really doesn't give me much confidence in my own search [sm=m23.gif]. Good luck for the future though. The right person will be worth the wait. (big hug for OP)

LadySweetOrSour -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 6:29:47 PM)
Sage advice already having been given OP, all I can say is it happens and give you a hug. Lady Hibiscus, I had one of those too. After 2 emails he started calling me his owner. I love block and delete.[:D]

StayingAnonymou -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 6:43:01 PM)
Thanks everyone. I appreciate the support and I do apologize for whining but I needed to get it out.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 8:02:57 PM)
It happens. I had three no-shows in a row. It's very annoying, but it's their loss.

kttqnp -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 8:14:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: janiebelle quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I was chatting to a local guy, who poofed. The next thing I knew, he had changed his profile to say "found Mistress". Okies! I wrote him a "congratulations" note---only to hear back that the mistress he had found was ME! [sm=banghead.gif] I told him that we would need to discuss that issue in person---because we had not physically MET yet! Haven't heard from him since. Presumptuous little devil, eh? No kidding!! But at least it was a totally new bit of WTF! This one made me laugh, as I had a variation on this theme not too long ago. The presumptuous twat let me know that we would not be meeting by announcing in his profile that he was now "Under consideration by Mistress So-and-So". But I took the high road like Lady Hibiscus and sent a congratulatory note. He was embarassed but grateful that I hadn't ripped him the new asshole that he so richly deserved, and asked to stay in touch. Of course, it did not work out with Mistress So-and-So. He and I exchanged a few casual e-mails over the next few weeks, until he sent me a message addressed to "Miss Connie". My name is NOT "Miss Connie". That time I DID rip him a new rectum before I blocked and deleted him.....

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 8:26:57 PM)
*It is too bad this happened but you will gain knowlwdge from it.* Most important ..what did you learn? and yes his loss.. YOU willll learn you are important and what you want is important and to not put up with shit.. I have been searching for a while again. I have talked to about 300. I have met about 15...I have had 10+ no shows..some twice... and many go on and on about relocating from Egypt etc// or wanting to msn and then to talk to wank off etc... and blah blah blah or say they love you and want you.. and on and on..FANTASY!! after a while you will pick up on things RIGHT away.. USE your intuition( woman radar!!) ..and NEVER feel rejected...that is easy to say.but how could they reject someone they do not even know??..they reject themselves..** Some never intend to meet Some bait and hook. SOME are not who they say and lie Some set up to meet many and go with the first choice Some want to meet but get scared Some meet then there is no match or they get scared Some meet and then the schedules do not work. Some meet and then realize THIS IS real!!! and shit thier pants.[:o] Some intend to meet then something comes up /they do not call to say...or even 2 had a family crisis Some get 2nd thoughts..about wifey..kids etc.. SOME meet and are fine and you have things in common.. and you have enough basis to go forward IN A RELATIONSHIP AND BUILD ( wheather LT or playtimes) and it works out.. things you will pick up on..[&:] do they go on and on about sex only?..do they commit to times and stick to it?..do they call when they say?..do they fuk aorund on line like hay I catch you on line..( hit and miss)?..does anything seem wierd like one pic? only calling at odd times..do they only talk of self??do they get demanding right away?are your interests or desires discussed?do they want to know YOU or your body parts and kinks first?do they want you to 'prove "yourself in some wierd way? I used to talk to everyone for a quite a while and now I know in about 3 sentences or even the shitty little messages[:'(] I get...and just LET GO[:'(] if it is obvious they are not what I need or want.. GQ

whis31 -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 9:01:23 PM)
ok just positive thought, i had to cancel 3 times my face to face meeting with a Dom[sm=banghead.gif]. All 3 times he let me reschudle and i'll be celabrating 2 years with Him as his sub this summer, and we since have moved on to a Master/slave relationship![sm=hearts.gif]

DomImus -> RE: What gives? (5/27/2009 9:28:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation Just a little thought though. Pretty sure if he posts here too he's going to know this thread is about him and in turn exactly who wrote it. That sucks too [:D] And maybe in the end he'll be glad he didn't get tangled up with someone who likes to air dirty laundry.

xxblushesxx -> RE: What gives? (5/30/2009 2:57:16 PM)
Well, since that someone gave us absolutely NO hints who she is, nor who he is, then he'd be a bit of a twit. (which he sounds like already)

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