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Anger - 5/28/2009 8:55:16 AM

littleone35

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This is mostly for subs/slaves who love their Doms, but all are welcome to respond.

Has your Master/Dom ever don anything that makes you mad i mean seriously pissed off? I am sure it has hapened we are only human after all.

Then he turns around and does something so sweet that you cannot stay mad at him?

I hardly ever get mad at Master but one tme i did. He told me to watch my attitude and i apologied even though i was still mad, he was so sweet to me i could not stay angry.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 9:29:05 AM

onlyfreelycaged

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that's normal. People get mad, sometimes for stupid reasons. when the short lived anger dies out, you have what was there before..

It only becomes a problem when the issues that caused the anger aren't dealt with, if they need dealt with.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 9:41:21 AM

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Yes, actually just this morning LOL. i was SO pissed i had to get off the phone. Since i WILL NOT hang up on Him, i said (loudly LOL) "Daddy, i said i'd never hang up on You, but i have to go now, ok?"..."i'll talk to You in a bit, bye." LOL Apparently that was fine, because when i called Hin back, We were able to have a nice real discussion about the matter.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 9:44:49 AM

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quote:

Has your Master/Dom ever don anything that makes you mad i mean seriously pissed off?

No. Master has never had this slave angry at him. Confused sometimes; but never angry. Anger is an emotion that zaphira has no real use for.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 12:04:53 PM

leadership527

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*laughs* Have I pissed off Carol in the almost 15 years we've been together? Oh yes I have. Both before and after she wore my collar. Just as she's pissed me off. But in the end, we have a really low tolerance for bad vibes between us. Anger just really can't sustain itself. If nothing else, bed-time comes around and that choice between nice snuggles or cold loneliness happens and that pretty much ends whatever it was right there.

I demand that Carol 'watches her attitude', but then again, I demand the same thing of myself. Courtesy is not, for us, a function of our authority dynamic, it exists by itself.

We're much more likely to be dealing with issues around confusion, sadness, or just plain 'disturbances in the force' between us than anger.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 12:20:31 PM

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Usually frustration........ not anger. He's too annoyingly reasonable for me to have ever got to *anger* pitch but frustration........ Oh yes!!!. In fact it's his reasonableness that pisses me right off!.lol

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 1:15:17 PM

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One time that i do remember. What about I dont remember. I was about to tell him when he took me home to not come back. He stopped at a store came back out and drove me to the ocean. He stayed in the car with kitty and let me walk the beach. I melted on that. He knows the ocean sometimes is the only thing that can really calm me down when i am going through a rough time. I walked the beach at sunset and just felt free. When he did finally take me home, my anger was gone.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 1:22:12 PM

kuriouswitch

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So far I've been lucky enough to not get angry at Master, I've been frustrated and at times angry with myself but not him. Usually we just talk things out before any real issue comes up.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 1:25:10 PM

ohsocheekyslave

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ugh - former Master used to feck this girl off all the time - and then as you say do something so surprising that all was forgotten!

but then it's like "normal" life - you are either the type of person to hold grudges or to store up shite for future reference or you're not....

oh and just because this girl is a slave - it doesn't mean to say that she can't/won't get angry at times - tis the way that she deals and resolves it that matters.... !

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 2:37:15 PM

littlewonder

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I've never gotten angry at him. He has made me bite my tongue more than once and I've been disappointed a couple times but never angry at him.

He's the calm in my torrential downpour of a life.

But during those times I've been disappointed or aggravated I just give it time and know it will pass because the majority of the time it's not his fault. It's due to unforseen incidents or my impatience or not communicating.

Eventually though time puts it all back into perspective.

Now if found that he was making me angry like some people do in my life I would have to reconsider a lot of things about us because I'm just the type of person who can't be around toxic personalities. It makes me just as toxic and that's not who I want to be.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 2:53:26 PM

leadership527

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Wow oceanwinds... a master indeed. Or, at least, he seems to have the knack of mastering you down :)

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 3:15:26 PM

Aileen1968

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He completely pissed me off once to the point where I thought about walking from the relationship for a split second. I would have been justified.
He then explained his reasons for his choices which were valid. So I had pity on him and decided to keep him.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 4:11:39 PM

oceanwinds

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

Wow oceanwinds... a master indeed. Or, at least, he seems to have the knack of mastering you down :)

Smiles, yes he does. Thank you. He even mastered my cat. She does not stay in her carrier, but sits on my lap and looks out the window. The expressions on peoples face passing by is precious.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 5:37:35 PM

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I don't think I've ever gotten angry at him. Upset and exasperated because he won't listen and let me explain. But I'm slow to anger thankfully because I'm even slower to calm down afterwards.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 6:16:51 PM

newone11

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When he called my dog mangy I was instantly furious. She's really not that cute but, darn it, she's mine and I love her. AND SHE'S NOT MANGY.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 7:43:59 PM

Huntertn

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keeps the door oiled so if she gets that mad..and yea she's got a temper..at least when I tell her to take a hike..meaning a walk around the block[or as many times as it takes..]the door is still on its hingles..LOL
anger...sure...she's only human..so am I..I get that pissed I walk the block too..or go fishing..lol

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 8:00:47 PM

Drifa

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In 15 years, if she hadn't pissed me off a time or eight we wouldn't be human!

Being a sub doesn't mean I don't have emotions, opinions, and thoughts of my own. I submit to her. I don't remove my brain at the door. I contribute to the relationship, and yes, my opinions and emotions matter.

Early in our relationship, we adopted a rule: we don't go to sleep mad. I may not be able to talk about something that makes me angry right away, but I can say "I need a bit", go off, get over the unreasonable part of mad, then before we go to bed, we talk it out.

But sometimes you just have to go out in the pasture, scream, throw rocks at the stock tank, and so forth. Usually that's caused by too many pressures from work and other areas of my life, then what would otherwise have been a minor disagreement hits the landmine. Or, even now, she may say something that hits one of my childhood triggers (don't EVER tell me "You can get happy in the same pants you got mad in" unless you want to see a major pissed off sub-type!)

But always, the key is that we give one another permission and room to cool down as needed, then we ALWAYS talk it over, make apologies if needed, and make up.

Note that being angry doesn't excuse bratty behavior or rule-breaking. But we don't have a dynamic based on punishment. Impact and sensation play is in there, but as fun. The D/s relationship isn't based on the whip but on mutual respect for one another's needs and boundaries.

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RE: Anger - 5/28/2009 8:42:00 PM

whis31

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my Master had me so mad this weekend i was in tears for two days. He was over on Monday and knew that i was still upset about something, but He also has come to understand i need to work thru the anger before i can talk or write about! so this time when he was over for dinner on Wednesay i had given it alot of thought and had a compermise in mind that he agreed too! so i just melted and the anger was gone.

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RE: Anger - 5/29/2009 7:34:20 AM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

He completely pissed me off once to the point where I thought about walking from the relationship for a split second. I would have been justified.

Same here. There was no possible way for him to justify the situation. There was no explaination that would have erased it. What he did, however, was step up to the plate, owned the fact that he made a major mistake, sat down and talked it out like an adult.

Beyond that, we're a married couple. Sometimes we just argue like a married couple.

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RE: Anger - 5/29/2009 10:09:57 AM

CollaredLisa

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Right now I remember being really angry once (not too long ago actually).
He kept insisting on wanting to do something at some point in the nearer future which was (and still is) definitely something that goes against everything I believe in. I told him that and explained myself, he went like "maybe you wouldn't do it voluntarily...", shot everything I said down immediately and it seemed he wasn't even trying to understand what I was thinking.
In the end we kinda agreed that it wouldn't happen within the next 6-12 months... and then we can discuss it again.

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