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ORIGINAL: masmiss

I'd like to know how more seasoned Dominants handle the issue of their subs/slaves careers taking up lots and lots of time from the D/s relationship.  It's a fact of life that most subs/slaves have to work and some have careers that go beyond the 40 hour work week.  Do you dismiss a sub you have a good relationship with because his work becomes the main focus of his time and therefore he has less time to devote to you?  

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: masmiss

I'd like to know how more seasoned Dominants handle the issue of their subs/slaves careers taking up lots and lots of time from the D/s relationship.  It's a fact of life that most subs/slaves have to work and some have careers that go beyond the 40 hour work week.  Do you dismiss a sub you have a good relationship with because his work becomes the main focus of his time and therefore he has less time to devote to you?  

Lemme tell you sumpin....(warning:  male sub speaking)

Don't know your story, don't know your gig....might be different from mine....regardless...

You're a chic.  (Before you spend a great deal of time explaining to me you're a Domme...."not a chic"....I get it...you're a Domme. 

I get it).

A male subs career is big.

Huge.

Maybe I'm just talking for myself but....a mans career is huge.

It's what he does.  It's who he is.  It's what he brings to the table.

It's how he loves you.

It's, financially, how he caresses you, dreams of you, wishes his dreams of you and he were.....

It's how he see's himself.

It encompasses his view of the world.

Don't diminish him...just remember he's weak, he loves you, and he (likely) can't imagine a world without you.

(I like that).

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: masmiss

I'd like to know how more seasoned Dominants handle the issue of their subs/slaves careers taking up lots and lots of time from the D/s relationship.  It's a fact of life that most subs/slaves have to work and some have careers that go beyond the 40 hour work week.  Do you dismiss a sub you have a good relationship with because his work becomes the main focus of his time and therefore he has less time to devote to you?  

Lemme tell you sumpin....(warning:  male sub speaking)

Don't know your story, don't know your gig....might be different from mine....regardless...

You're a chic.  (Before you spend a great deal of time explaining to me you're a Domme...."not a chic"....I get it...you're a Domme. 

I get it).

A male subs career is big.

Huge.

Maybe I'm just talking for myself but....a mans career is huge.

It's what he does.  It's who he is.  It's what he brings to the table.

It's how he loves you.

It's, financially, how he caresses you, dreams of you, wishes his dreams of you and he were.....

It's how he see's himself.

It encompasses his view of the world.

Don't diminish him...just remember he's weak, he loves you, and he (likely) can't imagine a world without you.

(I like that).

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: masmiss

I'd like to know how more seasoned Dominants handle the issue of their subs/slaves careers taking up lots and lots of time from the D/s relationship.  It's a fact of life that most subs/slaves have to work and some have careers that go beyond the 40 hour work week.  Do you dismiss a sub you have a good relationship with because his work becomes the main focus of his time and therefore he has less time to devote to you?  

Lemme tell you sumpin....(warning:  male sub speaking)

Don't know your story, don't know your gig....might be different from mine....regardless...

You're a chic.  (Before you spend a great deal of time explaining to me you're a Domme...."not a chic"....I get it...you're a Domme. 

I get it).

A male subs career is big.

Huge.

Maybe I'm just talking for myself but....a mans career is huge.

It's what he does.  It's who he is.  It's what he brings to the table.

It's how he loves you.

It's, financially, how he caresses you, dreams of you, wishes his dreams of you and he were.....

It's how he see's himself.

It encompasses his view of the world.

Don't diminish him...just remember he's weak, he loves you, and he (likely) can't imagine a world without you.

(I like that).

My submissive partner has a career:  ME.

I don't like people stating that the reality is that a man's career is "all that" and that it shapes his entire self worth.  Not every man is like that.  And not every couple works that way.  I am happy to be the breadwinner in my relationship.  I have the career, my financial success is what we rely on. His main priority is making my life run smoothly.  For many years he was 100% domestic.  Now he works for me part time, works for his "hobby" part time (I am not that thrilled about that, but we're figuring it out) and the rest of his time he's investing in his other hobbies which keep him well rounded.

I could trade that all in for a pretty fat income if I told him to get a career; he's perfectly capable and could be working well in a variety of fields, and we'd be rolling in cash.  I prefer not to trade in the luxury of having a full time cook, errand boy and boytoy.  We live comfortably on my income and his part time work, while it's more a hobby, provides a little extra money; the only point of debate in our relationship is that I would *prefer* he did not work at all, but he enjoys his hobby and they pay him to do what he likes, so I am not going to stand in the way of that. But he only works limited hours outside of the house.

I did feel, to be honest, "better taken care of" when he had ZERO job responsibilities.  The bottom line is that he has a boss now that expects him some place a few days a week. It used to be that all he had to do is make sure my day was going well, because the more efficient I am, the better money I make and happier I am in my business.  If he had nothing to do, he'd find things to do - fix things before they were broken, shop for things before they were running out, or drive me to meetings and wait in the car and read or anything -- literally anything he could figure out to make my day better and more comfortable.  It's like having a 24/7 concierge and professional assistant.

Granted, not all couples can have it this way.  We don't have kids and don't plan to, and we have no debt.  I also had a 10-year head start on my career, and he's naturally and happily domestic, including cooking & cleaning.  If we were DINKS (double income, no kids) we'd have a maid and maybe a cook a few times a week, but there's something quite rewarding about having a man who takes care of my whims and also supports my business as a professional right-hand to me.  

Akasha