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RE: feeling owned... - 6/9/2009 7:51:15 PM

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I maintain my opinion that even if you pushed past your limit, it involved another man, first of all, and not YOUR dominant; and IMHO, that was not dominant, nor honorable behavior on his part.

Again, it was not on my list of hard limits. And I suppose at the end of the day, it only matters what I think of it. :)

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RE: feeling owned... - 6/10/2009 4:17:10 AM

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Very true.

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/10/2009 4:00:03 AM

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It's been said already but I have to express my liking of this thread. Many have listed things that make them feel owned that I would have given as my answer almost word for word. Such as him using me/fucking me/demanding i ride/fuck/ suck/massage etc and so on when I have absolutely no desire to. I want to fight it, I want to tell him/beg him to stop. I want to look him right in the eye and say, "Look Mister, I'm not in the mood right now,". Alas, I do as I am expected/ordered to do. I start off hating it and end up with a strong sense of being owned, and I adore the feeling. I adore giving in when I don't want to, when he knows I don't want to. Just for the sake of his pleasure. Which leads me another posters reply that I associate with as well. He knows that I love it. He knows what I need, when I need it and how I need it, long before I ever figure out what I want/need for myself! My gods, is that an amazing, comforting, warm fuzzy feeling! To know that you have given yourself completely to one that knows exactly what to do with you.

"I love you more today than yesterday and I will love you more tomorrow than I do today," seems to sum it up very well. I compare it to the first time I realized that falling in love is not a one time thing. I am always so shocked by how deeper I fall. I can hardly believe that I love him more and more each day. I've thought to myself time and time again that it seems possible to love him more than I do right now.

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

it's that moment when he says, "shut up", and I do.
it basically does boil down to doing something I would never consider doing, but for him... and for myself, not even wanting to do it, but just doing it.

Yep, that one does it for me as well.

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ORIGINAL: Delphinus

There was one time when we were having an argument of sorts. The air was very heavy between us. We were both miserable and the gray cloud just wasn't lifting. Then he told me to go in the bedroom. I didn't want to - I wanted to resist on every level - I was even angry with him, as I thought it was very much not the time for anything sexual. I thought we needed to talk it out on a one-on-one, save our loving relationship kind of way. I grudged, and I was angry, and I was kind of thinking "how dare he?" Of course, I did it. And we went in the bedroom and he made love to me and it was the deepest lovemaking experience I've ever had - no bondage or spanking or humiliation or general kinkiness that I love so much. Just him and me, having the most intense and (dare I say?) vanilla-like sex we've ever had.

I think I felt so owned because at that time, there was no "BDSM", no CollarMe, no symbols, no limits, no implements...it was just a man taking his woman...a man making the decision to change the situation how he saw fit. There wasn't a bit of kink about it, yet it was a pivotal moment in our D/s relationship.

Couldn't have said it better. I have experienced this almost word for word, yesterday in fact! Beautiful and passionate, thank you for sharing. :)

I must also add that when we are in public and he puts his hand on the small of my back, or has a tight hold of the back of my neck while we are walking makes me feel deliciously owned. He does it randomly and it turns my insides to mush.

Sorry if this is rambled and jumbled but it *is* 6am and I am sleep deprived :P

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/10/2009 7:19:11 AM

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: Delphinus

There was one time when we were having an argument of sorts. The air was very heavy between us. We were both miserable and the gray cloud just wasn't lifting. Then he told me to go in the bedroom. I didn't want to - I wanted to resist on every level - I was even angry with him, as I thought it was very much not the time for anything sexual. I thought we needed to talk it out on a one-on-one, save our loving relationship kind of way. I grudged, and I was angry, and I was kind of thinking "how dare he?" Of course, I did it. And we went in the bedroom and he made love to me and it was the deepest lovemaking experience I've ever had - no bondage or spanking or humiliation or general kinkiness that I love so much. Just him and me, having the most intense and (dare I say?) vanilla-like sex we've ever had.

I think I felt so owned because at that time, there was no "BDSM", no CollarMe, no symbols, no limits, no implements...it was just a man taking his woman...a man making the decision to change the situation how he saw fit. There wasn't a bit of kink about it, yet it was a pivotal moment in our D/s relationship.

Ok, THAT was cool.

I beg to differ, that was HAWT!

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/10/2009 9:49:04 AM

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Sometimes just the way he looks at me is all it takes. I know right then and there in that moment I am his

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/10/2009 3:29:18 PM

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congratulation! you discovered the wonderfulness of the shades, the grey areas between the do's and dont's between the always and never.
I quite like this shades, but I'm far from finding them on a daily basis. I guess, you being lucky or worth it enough, you'll find more of them and more often. :)

usually for me is nothing but a word, or simply how the tone of voice changes... more than a set of actions or requests...
being humiliated is always making me feeling owned too ahahah

but thank you for sharing this wonderful moment ^___^ it's very nice and I hope you'll have more of this little epiphanies ahah

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/10/2009 4:02:08 PM

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...What does your partner do, that really gets in your head and makes you feel truly owned?...

this slave has yet to experience the state of being "owned" (or other descriptors like "submissive","freckled", "alive" or "caucasian") as a feeling.

not that there is anything wrong with it...but it just hasn't been this slave's experience.

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/10/2009 4:41:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: sleazybutterfly

If for one second I forget, there is always an instance to remind me. It could be something sexual, or it could be when I really, really want to say something but I instead bite my tongue off in order to not cause problems. I squelch my personality and a part of me sort of falls away. Those moments, I realize I am more owned than I ever imagined.

Not as glamorous or hot as some answers, but for me it's probably the most truthful thing I can say (without delving into my actual life on the msg boards).

that's pretty much what I said, except in more depth. so I know what you mean, and while it isn't exactly glamorous, it's solid, isn't it?

yesterday, when I was with him, just sitting and talking, the reality of just how much I belong to him set in. how much I depend on him, and how deeply entrenched in my life he is. nothing particularly exciting going on, just the two of us together, and it made me realize once again how happy I am.

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/11/2009 3:41:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: belovedfairy

I agree totally with DesFIP. I personally dont think that is dominant behavior. I think it was very disrespectful behavior. You said giving in to "being owned" was all you could do to not feel violated. Well, you WERE violated. Violation is not ownership.

Different people have very different responses to things. That's why we have the saying, "one man's ceiling is another man's floor." (At least...I think that's why we have it. ) For some people this is not that big of a deal. For others it would push huge buttons. If a description of an act causes a "freakout" moment inside you, it's hard not to see the act as bad, even if it clearly wasn't freaky or harmful to the person it was done to.

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/15/2009 11:05:12 PM

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When Lady or Master come home and I am waiting at the door to tend to them and She says "there's my little bitch" or "there's my little girl" or something like that. I melt in happiness.

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RE: feeling owned... - 8/18/2009 4:31:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: pixidustpet

its so incredibly silly....when he holds his hand up with the wedding ring on, and says "see? you have to do as you're told, because *I* have the ring of power".

its so silly. and he always laughs that mad scientist laugh after, and i always melt a bit, inside. and smile because he's MY silly TheEngineer.

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haha love it..... i agree it is all about the head fuck!... and the love... and the moment when inside my voice is screaming 'own me, i am Yours' but my mouth can only say 'yes'... (and only then if He says so)

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RE: feeling owned... - 9/6/2009 8:59:13 PM

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The concept of being owned is different for everyone. Since as you said you are a "private slut" your used to that situation and never understand what it truly meant to be owned. Once your master got you out of your comfort zone he was able to break you in a way your not used too. Even though they were touching your body the idea of it being someone else sent shockwaves through of this is actually true and that he can do what he wants to me. Your learning that you have the inability to control your own life you were owned before but now you have given him your full self. That feeling is one in a million. It is liberating. It takes a huge weight off your shoulders to become what you truly are and to understand that you are HIS forever.

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RE: feeling owned... - 9/7/2009 1:43:15 PM

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When He said to me,
you will no longer be lost in the wild
nor a slave for everyone to use
but you will become
the slave you need to be
in your Masters home.

This statement did more to me than anything I have ever heard in my life
and
I really love it when He calls me the c word

too

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RE: feeling owned... - 9/7/2009 2:01:25 PM

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i knew i was hers when...

she could utter the words pain prohibited me to speak.
she would spill the tears my eyes wouldn't release.
she carried a burden that was mine to bear.
she wanted more for me than i'd ever request.
she provided a resting place in the midst of a storm.
she believed in a tomorrow i could not see.
she braced my fall and beckoned me to stand.
in the midst of my failures, setbacks, and disappointments she whispered "you're beautiful."
the glue that bound us as one needed no articulation. it simply is.

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RE: feeling owned... - 9/7/2009 4:01:47 PM

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I would have an issue with it if I felt like the friend was uncomfortable with BDSM, or the situation in general.

Otherwise, I find it absolutely hot, especially because six months ago, I never would have done it. Now, I would have no problem with it. Little realizations like that help to remind me I am owned, and who owns me.

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RE: feeling owned... - 9/7/2009 6:25:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: kitastrophe33

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I maintain my opinion that even if you pushed past your limit, it involved another man, first of all, and not YOUR dominant; and IMHO, that was not dominant, nor honorable behavior on his part.

Again, it was not on my list of hard limits. And I suppose at the end of the day, it only matters what I think of it. :)

Your happy right kita? You are in a loving relationship right?

Fuck what anybody else has to say.

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RE: feeling owned... - 9/7/2009 7:34:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: Sunnyfey

Your happy right kita? You are in a loving relationship right?

Fuck what anybody else has to say.

Now those are words to take to heart!

Thanks Sunny!

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