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kitastrophe33 -> feeling owned... (6/2/2009 3:45:44 PM)

*Edited for typo's...I'm a perfectionist*

I am genuinely curious. What does your partner do, that really gets in your head and makes you feel truly owned?

Ours is still a young relationship, but the thing that stands out the most is when he let his best friend touch me. I've never been involved in the BDSM community. None of my previous partners have ever told their friends about our relationship. So I was already a little unnerved that his friend knew all about me.

We were over at his friend F's house, (only the second time I'd ever met F) when it was suggested that we get in the hot tub. F had an extra pair of shorts for my partner, but obviously nothing for me. I said I'd just stick my feet in, but my partner said I should get in, that they'd enjoy my body much more naked than in a bikini anyway. Now, I'm a pretty big slut, but a *private* slut. I am pretty shy about being naked around people not my partner. I almost died when he corrected my posture, telling me to stick my tits out so he could see them better, but I reminded myself that my body is his to do with as he pleases, and I did it. I couldn't help but squirm and moan as he touched me under the water, while he was having a perfectly g rated chat with his friend. A little while later, I held still when he suggested that his friend should play with my nipples and see how horny it makes me.

I dunno, maybe that's not a big deal to other people, but to me, I've never felt so possessed in my entire life. I think giving in to being owned was all I could do to not feel violated. It was really freeing actually...

I am sure different people have different things that make them feel that way and I'm really curious about what affects other people.





eddawg -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 4:42:56 PM)

Says "you're on"....are you???



DesFIP -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 4:55:22 PM)

I'm glad it worked out for you. For a lot of people, bringing in someone else without prior discussion would cause an end to the relationship.



zenny -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 5:18:21 PM)

TPE is a rather interesting thing, is it not?



xiam -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 6:34:42 PM)

Gah... what a fantasy!  How could one not in such a situation? [:D]

For me, it's the moment when i begin to desire the very thing which i resisted... the realization i am doing something i said i would never do and actually enjoying it.





Aileen1968 -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 6:38:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: xiam

For me, it's the moment when i begin to desire the very thing which i resisted... the realization i am doing something i said i would never do and actually enjoying it.





Get out of my head.





Delphinus -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 6:55:12 PM)

There was one time when we were having an argument of sorts.  The air was very heavy between us.  We were both miserable and the gray cloud just wasn't lifting.  Then he told me to go in the bedroom.  I didn't want to - I wanted to resist on every level - I was even angry with him, as I thought it was very much not the time for anything sexual.  I thought we needed to talk it out on a one-on-one, save our loving relationship kind of way.  I grudged, and I was angry, and I was kind of thinking "how dare he?"  Of course, I did it.  And we went in the bedroom and he made love to me and it was the deepest lovemaking experience I've ever had - no bondage or spanking or humiliation or general kinkiness that I love so much.  Just him and me, having the most intense and (dare I say?) vanilla-like sex we've ever had. 

I think I felt so owned because at that time, there was no "BDSM", no CollarMe, no symbols, no limits, no implements...it was just a man taking his woman...a man making the decision to change the situation how he saw fit.  There wasn't a bit of kink about it, yet it was a pivotal moment in our D/s relationship. 



lighthearted -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 6:56:36 PM)

it's that moment when he says, "shut up", and I do.
it basically does boil down to doing something I would never consider doing, but for him... and for myself, not even wanting to do it, but just doing it.



breatheasone -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 7:02:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Delphinus

There was one time when we were having an argument of sorts.  The air was very heavy between us.  We were both miserable and the gray cloud just wasn't lifting.  Then he told me to go in the bedroom.  I didn't want to - I wanted to resist on every level - I was even angry with him, as I thought it was very much not the time for anything sexual.  I thought we needed to talk it out on a one-on-one, save our loving relationship kind of way.  I grudged, and I was angry, and I was kind of thinking "how dare he?"  Of course, I did it.  And we went in the bedroom and he made love to me and it was the deepest lovemaking experience I've ever had - no bondage or spanking or humiliation or general kinkiness that I love so much.  Just him and me, having the most intense and (dare I say?) vanilla-like sex we've ever had. 

I think I felt so owned because at that time, there was no "BDSM", no CollarMe, no symbols, no limits, no implements...it was just a man taking his woman...a man making the decision to change the situation how he saw fit.  There wasn't a bit of kink about it, yet it was a pivotal moment in our D/s relationship. 


Ok, THAT was cool.



angelikaJ -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 7:04:37 PM)

The first one:

We had been having a discussion and I was upset.

He sat on the bed and patted the spot beside him and I sat down.
He pulled me towards him and softly said give me your tears.
As I cried, he wiped away my tears with his fingertips and tasted them... and licked them from my cheeks.



sleazybutterfly -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 7:09:15 PM)

Though it doesn't sound as romantic at all...  For me it's when I am totally not in the mood for sex, I don't even want to be touched, have no desire whatsoever, and he goes ahead and takes what is his.  It's that moment when I am laying there letting him do what he pleases...I know I am owned.

SB



kitastrophe33 -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 7:40:08 PM)

Yeah, I thought about that much after the fact. When we talked about limits, I think I was fairly clear... Being shared with somebody else was something that scared me very much, but I didn't rule it out.

And I think it ended up being okay with me because I really trust my partner, and even in the moment, I specifically thought about the fact that this guy had been his best friend for a decade. If he trusts this friend enough to let him know this part of me, then it must be okay.

You're probably right though. As a general rule, unless you know your person pretty darn well, you should probably at least discuss this in the car on the way there. ;)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I'm glad it worked out for you. For a lot of people, bringing in someone else without prior discussion would cause an end to the relationship.



littlewonder -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 7:52:14 PM)

I feel owned when he simply begins to take charge...could be in making a minor decision such as where to eat....to taking what is his from me.

It's his demeanor and power, the way he holds himself. Sometimes I like to just stand back and watch him and that's all it takes for me.



aidan -> RE: feeling owned... (6/2/2009 8:29:23 PM)

When She reaches out to scratch me randomly, or just pulls me in close for a squeeze and whispers "Mine" while we're sitting together. That always does it. ^__^



pixidustpet -> RE: feeling owned... (6/3/2009 12:55:58 AM)

its so incredibly silly....when he holds his hand up with the wedding ring on, and says "see?  you have to do as you're told, because *I* have the ring of power".

its so silly.  and he always laughs that mad scientist laugh after, and i always melt a bit, inside.  and smile because he's MY silly TheEngineer.  [:D]

kitten



CelticPrince -> RE: feeling owned... (6/3/2009 4:17:22 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Delphinus

There was one time when we were having an argument of sorts.  The air was very heavy between us.  We were both miserable and the gray cloud just wasn't lifting.  Then he told me to go in the bedroom.  I didn't want to - I wanted to resist on every level - I was even angry with him, as I thought it was very much not the time for anything sexual.  I thought we needed to talk it out on a one-on-one, save our loving relationship kind of way.  I grudged, and I was angry, and I was kind of thinking "how dare he?"  Of course, I did it.  And we went in the bedroom and he made love to me and it was the deepest lovemaking experience I've ever had - no bondage or spanking or humiliation or general kinkiness that I love so much.  Just him and me, having the most intense and (dare I say?) vanilla-like sex we've ever had. 

I think I felt so owned because at that time, there was no "BDSM", no CollarMe, no symbols, no limits, no implements...it was just a man taking his woman...a man making the decision to change the situation how he saw fit.  There wasn't a bit of kink about it, yet it was a pivotal moment in our D/s relationship. 



Delphinus,

Well stated!

CP



kuriouswitch -> RE: feeling owned... (6/3/2009 8:15:03 AM)

what makes me feel owned is the look Master when he looks at me, his eyes get dark and his face changes. but the thing that made me feel truely, wonderfully owned was when we went shopping for my house collar, all that day, all through the mall and out in the park ect he held my wrist, I followed behind him and if he dropped my wrist to look at something i was to stand to the side within eyesight. When he wanted my wrist again he'd hold out his hand like he was going to hold mine and i'd put my wrist in his grasp. i loved it, it made me feel like I was totally hiss pocession and no one was going to take me. He did that all that day until we got back to the hotel and he placed the collar around my neck. He explained he held my wrist like that because he didn't want anyone else taking me, that now I was formally collared and fully his. I about melted lol.



breatheasone -> RE: feeling owned... (6/3/2009 8:18:46 AM)

my Master/Daddy loves me. He fell in love with me, and i Him. i knew i was owned then. The collar He provided is a nice reminder.



Missokyst -> RE: feeling owned... (6/3/2009 8:49:13 AM)

That is when I always knew.  To have no resistance to that even when you are pissed off so badly you could just punch him.. and he takes what is his and you become ok.. that is the point where you are his.  At least in my experience.
Kyst
quote:

ORIGINAL: Delphinus

I grudged, and I was angry, and I was kind of thinking "how dare he?"  Of course, I did it.  And we went in the bedroom and he made love to me and it was the deepest lovemaking experience I've ever had - no bondage or spanking or humiliation or general kinkiness that I love so much.  Just him and me, having the most intense and (dare I say?) vanilla-like sex we've ever had. 

I think I felt so owned because at that time, there was no "BDSM", no CollarMe, no symbols, no limits, no implements...it was just a man taking his woman...a man making the decision to change the situation how he saw fit.  There wasn't a bit of kink about it, yet it was a pivotal moment in our D/s relationship. 




littleone35 -> RE: feeling owned... (6/3/2009 2:31:33 PM)

The moments wehn i feel most ownwd is just when we are laying in bed and he is hoding me in his arms. He is so strong i know that is where he wants me to be, by his side and in his arms.

Matt's littlrone



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