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LaTigresse -> RE: How to ease into kinky house cleaning ? (9/22/2009 7:47:58 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Keun
Hello!
My sub (live-in) was in a relationship prior to being with Me in which she did housework almost all of the time as the defining D/s theme in her relationship (there was never any sexual gratification or sensuality involved - just solid housework for the benefit of her dominant)... its all she did... and was never happy with it. It was her first D/s relationship and at that point, she thought that's how it was "supposed" to be..
As such, she absolutely refuses to do "chores" as part of our D/s relationship...
While I certainly don't want to cross her limits, I do find this discouraging - I really enjoy watching her do housework... really little things.. asking me what needs to be done next, wearing cute next-to-nothings when she does it... any advice on how I can coax her into doing small household things as part of our D/s world without asking her to re-live something she hated?
Cheers,
Ms. Keun
Understand that my answer is based on a guess that my definition of a M/s relationship, and what interests me about it, are very likely night and day from yours.
I have no interest in a submissive that is solely kink driven at all. What interests ME, is a service slave that views kink as the wonderful frosting and sprinkles but certainly not the main course. I also do not want an equal partnership with kinky sprinkles.
So, for ME......a person with any sort of limitations like that, would not even be considered. If they just want the kink and to flounce around looking pretty they are absolutely useless to me. I can find that in the vanilla sector with less drama.
For you, if you went into this relationship knowing this was a limitation of hers, then I feel you should honour that instead of sinking to manipulation to get your way. I prefer open honest communication. If submitting to you means household chores, then explain that to her. It gives her a clear choice.......submit or get.
And fuck me!!! I didn't read the date of the OP before blabbing......
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