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MysticalPhoenix -> RE: replies and profiles (2/10/2006 5:56:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: rz350
I have found that aprox of 90% of the Mistress's I IM on collarme never reply at all. I always write respectfully, carefully, and to the best of my grammer and spelling know how. Now I understand someone may just not be intrested, but why can They not write bcak and say so. I make a point to reply to each and every single person who writes me. I understand that You Misstress's probably get a large amout of email, but still, I just wonder why it is so rare to get a reply, if even if its a simple "not intrested in you cause <reason> "
To expand on that, are there any tips/pieces of advise on how to write Mistress's I do always stay respectful and use my best English. Anything beyond that?
Thanks for reading/answering.
I fail to see why the fact that someone sends me an email obligates me to respond. I've been using online personal ad sites for a number of years, and I've developed a tough email policy. And, yes, I've had enough responses over the years to calculate statistics.
If the person has obviously looked at my picture and not read my profile (when I specify things like age and location, and they aren't even close), I don't reply. If the person has read my profile, but states that although they don't fit what I'm looking for, they are really what I want, I don't reply. If the person has copied and pasted their profile and sent it to me in lieu of an original email, I don't reply. If they have sent me an obvious form letter (Dear <Insert name of Dominant Female here> I am on my knees before the computer worshipping your picture, and I wish to serve you by having you <insert favorite bdsm fantasy here>...), I don't reply. If they talk about sex or ask for sex, I don't reply. IF THEY WRITE TO ME IN ALL CAPS, I don't reply. Ef thay kant spel or youse punktooashun I don't reply. If they write to me in chatspeak, I don't reply. If they send me a picture of their penis, I don't reply. If the picture shows someone who I find unappealing, I don't reply. If they are married, I don't reply. If the person's email or profile sets off any other red flags, I don't reply. If they've sent me multiple emails before I've even had a chance to read the first one, I don't reply. If they ask for a pro session, I don't reply.
And I don't reply to the above people for two good reasons. 1. I'm not intersted in them. 2. Because if I write to them and am honest about why I'm rejecting them, I have a 90% chance of getting a nasty response in return.
If I write to them and give them a polite rejection that doesn't say why, I will either (50% chance) get a nasty response in return, or (50% chance) some sort of bargainging response. "It's your loss," is a perennial post rejection favorite. (How can I feel any sense of loss, when I reject someone I don't have any interest in getting to know?) I have learned this the hard way. I used to write back to everyone, and either give them a polite rejection, or express interest. I got a great deal of mail I didn't want to read. I also had a lot of my time wasted by people I had no interest in ever meeting.
If someone sends an email that's obviously directed at me, personally, fits the criteria named in my profile, includes a picture of their face (and I find that face appealing), and uses the language correctly, I do reply. At some point, I may give them a polite rejection. If their response to that polite rejection is hostile, rude or offensive, I don't reply.
I have found this policy works very well for me. It ensures that when I am looking for someone via a personal ad site, that I am spending my time on the people who do interest me, and not on the people who don't.
Phoenix
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