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Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 11:54:39 AM

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Before it goes on to offend anyone, let it just say that it does not intend to cause any offence and apologises if the following does offend any.

it is wondering what other subs prefer, whether it is a White Mistress or a Black Mistress, and why is this the case?

it does have a love for Black Mistress, and has seen from experience that many Black Mistress’s use their colour as a tool for Superior from other White Mistress’s, and in reality this is true because there are many white subs would honour only Black Mistress’s. But why is this the case?

What is it that White Mistress’s don’t have that Black Mistress’s do have? What is it that makes Black Women so much more special that the White Mistress’s?

As such, this is also seen in many Black Mistress’s who solely wish to have white subs.

it is also one of the slaves who adores Black Mistress. This is because of their curvy looks and because it feels that they have had a rough time in the past history where they were ruled by White people. it would like to be a white slave because of this fact that a Black Mistress could now use it has Her slave; but this will never happen.

On the other hand it would also like to say that it has experienced many Black Women who are not that professional in their lifestyle but this can not really put blame on Black Mistress’s as a whole, but simply the individuals.

it has also had the pleasure of being service to many non-Black Mistress’s, to which it can equally say it has been a life changing experience.

Regardless of colour, it does however see every Woman, as a Woman, a Superior, whether White or Black, a Superior none the less.

The questions still begs in its mind, as to what it is that people seek from Mistress’s who must be Black or White?

Again sorry if it has offended anyone; no offence intended.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 11:57:45 AM

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I've heard that purple with pink and yellow pokadots are all the rage this season.....

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 11:58:57 AM

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Not touching this with a barge pole.

Saying you don't want to cause offense doesnt mean you wont. Maybe in future if you need to prefix it with that you shouldnt write it.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 12:01:51 PM

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I suppose its because some things appeal to some, and other things appeal to others. Black mistresses are in no way superior or inferior to white mistresses (or vanilla women for that matter) except in your mind. You prefer a black mistress, go for it. Who gives a fuck why, just go out there and look for one and enjoy. There is no rule to say that anybody must be equally attracted to all types, I myself happen to find oriental women absolutely adorable, but I do not consider them in any way better, nor do I limit my relationships to oriental women, nor should you limit yourself to interacting only with black mistresses, you may very well miss out on the perfect match for you.
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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 12:27:55 PM

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I don't consider myself a "sub," but I do find some dominant women quite attractive. And my kneejerk (or, um, groinjerk) physical preference is for darker-skinned women. However, I'm quite intrigued right now by someone who is white. So I agree with Arpig: if you turn your physical preferences into a physical must-have-no-matter-what, you might be missing out on someone special.

Has anyone else noticed that people who identify as sub tend to be much more inflexible about what they are looking for physically? For example, I am, as one friend put it, "On the tall end of short." There have been threads about how tall a dom could be, and many subs have posted that they want a tall dom, the end, no exceptions. I've been rejected because of my height several times by sub women I started up an email conversation with. "Lilliput" was mentioned once, in fact. However, not one time -- not once -- has a dominant or switch woman brought that up as a problem to me, and in fact dommes have chosen to date me, knowing full well they are taller than I am.

I see a similar physical demand among the male subs who "need" a hot skinny domme of a particular skin color.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 12:34:07 PM

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I am a RED( apache)...BROWN(turk gypsy) and Black ( congo)MISTRESS
so I am a shade of clay..

but once I was green from eating too many plums...

Once I took my brown sub who had a narrow mind and painted him orange and he didn't change..shit
so I beat him black and blue and red..then he did..
adn then I choked him purple

and he was not offended when I said..

"I am more than all these colors and you will go in the corner till you learn it"
and then I forbade him to post in threads on collarme about color of Mistresses so he could deviously get the colors he wanted to post and then message them

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 12:38:58 PM

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You're making a world of assumptions based on your desires and the stereotypes in your head, and you are the kind of black preference I would stay away from.
I don't want anyone coming to me with the expectation/assumption that my having more melanin means I'm going to be like every other black person out there, and cannot be any different.
No one is more special, or less special if you respect humans as beings. It's perfectly okay to know and accept what makes you horny, but please don't try to pass it for what is for everyone. M

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 12:45:14 PM

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Well redmagic1 I personally want my Dom to be stronger than me in all ways. If I feel that I could take him then I'd lose interest in him. and that is because I love to watch a man make me submit. I love it when, despite my efforts, it takes no effort on his part to get me to do what he wants. Perhaps that's a part of where I get my kicks. I can't get the same kick from someone small because there 'is' somewhat of a struggle on his part and that is no fun to watch for me. Anyways, that's why size matters with me.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 12:51:53 PM

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Hmm one of my ex doms was a martial arts instructor Rednicky, he was also about 5"2, and trust me love no amount of struggling would have got me over powering him. Mind many subs do not want to struggle any way.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 12:58:23 PM

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Offense taken.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:03:01 PM

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Ohh but I love the struggle. Being held down, ect... You know, being overpowered via means that are totally out of my control (height, weight, muscles, etc) is the way to go for me. If I had a Dom my own size or a little taller, I'd feel as though, if I were having a genuine tantrum, I'd overpower him or make it hard for him to dominate. What a turn off. Having a Dom who can't control me.

Having a Dom that is very much bigger than me makes me feel submissive somehow without him even trying. I don't know about you (and this may only be with me) but I love throwing tantrums. Not breaking stuff and screaming (what am I, 12?). Adult tantrums. They prompt attention. Call me an attention whore if you like but I do enjoy it. because when I throw a tantrum, my Doms only concern would be getting me back in line and then having some make-up loving (the best kind :D IMO).

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:03:20 PM

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why not go for the purple Mistresses with black and white coats, they are really groovy
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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:03:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rednicky
I personally want my Dom to be stronger than me in all ways.

Yes, I think you put your finger on it. Male subs want a domme who is hotter, younger and generally "above" them. Female subs want what you described. It's a "my-dom(me)-can-have-no-flaws-and-yet-s/he'll-cure-all-my-problems" mentality.

The unfortunate part is that much of that is based in fantasy, not reality. For example, you talk about the possibility of "taking" your dom. But do you really know what that means? Have you ever put someone in the hospital because of your bare hands? Have you ever heard a human bone break because you wanted it to? There are people in the world -- and people who post on these boards -- who could answer yes to those questions, but I don't think you're one of them. Why? Because people who've seen and done such things don't like to talk about it... and they know that anyone can be "taken" with a tiny piece of metal no larger than a fingernail.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:15:15 PM

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I didn't mean fist fighting with my Dom. I meant being defiant. As in, if I did something wrong, and he's pulling me in the bedroom for punishment, I might throw a mini-tantrum and not cooperate. I my become dead weight. but a big strong man can effortlessly throw me over his shoulders with one hand and carry me to the back. A small man my size might not be so graceful. What a turn off it would be to watch my small man attempt to move me from one spot to another. Ever seen a young child try to pick up a brother, sister, or cousin of the same age? How they barely lift them off the ground? How they can barely walk? Ha!

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:19:22 PM

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I am 5'6" and have been known to grab ahold of........sensitive body parts(EAR you gutterbrains!

).......and drag a 6'1", sassy 18 yo into his room.

Technique.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:20:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rednicky

If I had a Dom my own size or a little taller, I'd feel as though, if I were having a genuine tantrum, I'd overpower him or make it hard for him to dominate. What a turn off. Having a Dom who can't control me.

Its good for you, its each to their own and that but to say you would catagorically undermine someone the same height as you means you havent met the right men. But everyone is different, I really do not like te idea of throwing tantrums I like to just be submissive, for me if i am throwing my weight around then its not a dynamic that is working for me. So I guess height aint so important.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:25:25 PM

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Yea a lot of Doms don't. That's why I'm still single. But it's automatic to me. If I don't get my way, something inside me tells me to make things a liiiittle more difficult for the one standing in my way. I'm just worried this feature of mine will ruin future relationships. It's not something I think I can change though.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 1:27:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rednicky

Yea a lot of Doms don't. That's why I'm still single. But it's automatic to me. If I don't get my way, something inside me tells me to make things a liiiittle more difficult for the one standing in my way. I'm just worried this feature of mine will ruin future relationships. It's not something I think I can change though.

I am sure that you will find someone who works well in that dynamic being clear about what you want and sticking to it is a great quality.

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 2:09:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN

I am a RED( apache)...BROWN(turk gypsy) and Black ( congo)MISTRESS
so I am a shade of clay..

but once I was green from eating too many plums...

Once I took my brown sub who had a narrow mind and painted him orange and he didn't change..shit
so I beat him black and blue and red..then he did..
adn then I choked him purple

and he was not offended when I said..

"I am more than all these colors and you will go in the corner till you learn it"
and then I forbade him to post in threads on collarme about color of Mistresses so he could deviously get the colors he wanted to post and then message them

GQ

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RE: Black Mistress’s or White Mistress’s?? - 6/3/2009 2:37:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: born4serving

... from Mistress’s who must be Black or White?

What about the content of her character?

< Message edited by OttersSwim -- 6/3/2009 2:38:16 PM >

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