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why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve around ... - 6/5/2009 2:14:22 PM   
idroolchicksrule


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Status: offline 		I'm kind of new to all this and have been reading up on cuckolding online. I find the idea very erotic, but am dismayed that the other man, or bull is always a black dude. Or 10 black dudes.
And the woman is always white.
It just seems to strike me as some repressed racist fantasy and I am afraid if by letting others know its something I am into (like listing on my profile) they might may get the idea that I have some fucked up views on race.
How should I go about expressing without stirring the racial pot? ( I hope I haven't done that now).
Thanks for reading.
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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 2:26:46 PM   
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It just seems to strike me as some repressed racist fantasy
Why are you asking a question you've already answered very well yourself?

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I am afraid if by letting others know its something I am into (like listing on my profile) they might may get the idea that I have some fucked up views on race.
How should I go about expressing without stirring the racial pot? ( I hope I haven't done that now)
If your fetish is simply cuckoldry, than race play of any form is not assumed...  It may be imposed on you, if your domina dates people of all races, but that isn't for you to decide; your only job is consenting to the relationship.   I don't think any woman assumes your desire cuckoldry involves her and a black man, unless you tell her yourself.   If you don't ask for it, there is no reason your desire for cuckoldry should stir the racial pot in any way, shape or form.    It has been my experience that cuckoldry involving a black man is usually desired by the cuck, not the lady.  

On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with adult folks playing consentually with race matters.   I'm not a cuckoldress, though that has not stopped a lot of white men from requesting that I cuck them with black men.   Race play isn't my kink, but to each his/her own.    M

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 2:27:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know women who list "Cuckolding" on their profile, but what they mean is "longterm poly with humiliation spice."  So people mean many different things by that.

Remember, almost all femdom porn has women in uncomfortable outfits, service-topping men.  Women list themselves as dominant women on the site anyway.  After all, why let the porn world rule your profile?  The best advice I can give is: be honest about your interests, and act like a gentleman, not a character in an adult video.


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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 2:33:14 PM   
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The best advice I can give is: be honest about your interests, and act like a gentleman, not a character in an adult video
This about covers it, as clear, succinct advices go.    M

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 2:35:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		As someone with some experience in the area, I can promise you that the scenario you are describing isn't especially the case for everyone.  I can, however, offer you an opinion on why you may be running into what you describe.  For some, it can be based on the racial aspect.  (Small minded, I know.)  For others, it can be the size aspect.  In both cases, whether legitimate or not, it helps to add to the humiliation factor that so many enjoy.




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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 2:40:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Who do you think will judge you? If you are in a relationship or seeking one, I would guess you should share your fantasies, be they ones that may come true or not. This is private between adults who hopefully do not judge. I dare say that this should be a safe forum for all (or most all) of the things you would be judged poorly for in the vanilla world.

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 2:48:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I know women who list "Cuckolding" on their profile, but what they mean is "longterm poly with humiliation spice."  So people mean many different things by that.

This. Humiliation is a very, very, broad category. Different people mean different things.This is why you communicate beforehand so there are no "far out" surprises.

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 2:51:09 PM   
idroolchicksrule


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Status: offline 		you have all been cool and very helpful. I had reservations about posting this.
but you have all be so helpful.

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 4:24:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		To the OP:  there are some men whose interest in cuckoldry is at least partially fueled by fascination with another man's sexuality.  It's not about being gay per se, just about being fascinated by virility, and by women enjoying the services of men as "studs"--using their bodies for pleasure.

Black men are often the objects of this kind of fascination.  Not sure why, but it seems to me that it might be because there is so much segregation between races and economic classes in my society, that crossing those boundaries becomes a naughty-sexy thrill.  Under those conditions, black men become mysterious, magical--"super-stud" icons of sexual power and virility.

Some white women are also guilty of objectifiying black men in this way from time to time.  Most black men of my acquaintance have reacted with a combination of amusement, contempt, annoyance and arousal.  It can be offensive, stupid, silly-but-harmless fun or blazingly hot depending on the people involved.

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 5:35:23 PM   
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If the government were to demand that our erotic drives be reasonable, I'd bet most of us would have shipped out of the D/s community by now.  In fact, most of us would have stopped even having sex. 

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 7:33:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: idroolchicksrule

...... bull is always a black dude. Or 10 black dudes.
And the woman is always white.


always and never are usually NOT always and never...

Speaking from experience...the cuck activities in my POLY home were white males..
and the 2 cases where short term partners were interested..

THEY asked
"Is he black?".."Can you get a black guy"
"I want to see black cock"
etc etc...about size etc..= DO MEs..so byeeeeeeeeeeeee

and cuckolding can indeed be very hot and EROTIC..
Sharing the energy of one man holding you and kissing while another does something else..or being so close to one that the 
he listens in the next room  as you are pleasured by another...then when the other is gone he comes to you to hold and share the glow...
thrilled that you are satisfyed as he attends to your bathing ritual or bedtime..or coming home after a date and your sub is there in his apron with chocolates and a foot massage..mmmmmmm

however...
watching a woman get effed by another  guy cause it is hot is called something else...cucking usually means there is an established couple FIRST..unless you are the bull I guess( at iems)
andddddddddddddd
 
re: "sites:
are you ON cuck support group.info sites or PORN fantasy sites???

 

GQ

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/5/2009 7:42:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well considering the fact that you are posting here and openly admitting this is something you think about--you already have a fucked up view of a relationship and relations inside that relationship.  Welcome, you are among a throng of fucked ups.
 
Now, if you were to share that with the guy at the bar in Chili's it would probably not get the right reaction, but here or in groups like this, its gets a yawn and a ... so what else do you like?
 
Good luck in your search!

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/6/2009 8:01:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I find that stereotype stuff very irritating.  In Mistress Mlicious' and my situation, race has nothing to do with it.  In fact, all of her guys on the side have been white so far.  She may take a black guy one of these days, but race is just not a factor. 

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/6/2009 6:18:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: idroolchicksrule

I'm kind of new to all this and have been reading up on cuckolding online. I find the idea very erotic, but am dismayed that the other man, or bull is always a black dude. Or 10 black dudes.

I'm sorry you carry this burden around.

And the woman is always white.

Virginal of course...very Freudien.

It just seems to strike me as some repressed racist fantasy and I am afraid if by letting others know its something I am into (like listing on my profile) they might may get the idea that I have some fucked up views on race.

Well then, I'd probably recommend you not mention that then, eh?

How should I go about expressing without stirring the racial pot? ( I hope I haven't done that now).

Dance? 

Thanks for reading.

Natch.

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/7/2009 8:00:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		are there any legitimate sites similar to this where those sharing an interest in cuckoldry can discuss ideas that anyone would recomend? aside from the porn sites, i have yet to find any seeming real enough to pay for a subscription. any recommendations?

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/8/2009 12:27:43 AM   
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It's free.    M

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/8/2009 8:22:52 AM   
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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/10/2009 1:26:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: idroolchicksrule

I'm kind of new to all this and have been reading up on cuckolding online. I find the idea very erotic, but am dismayed that the other man, or bull is always a black dude. Or 10 black dudes.
And the woman is always white.


My guess would be that the fundamental psychology of the cuckolding fetish is being humiliated by a more dominant male who is visibly from an out-group, perhaps even one of perceived lesser social status.  Essentially it is the eroticizing of an evolutionary failure strategy, emphasizing one's submissive status.

Which is rather interesting given more recent evidence of male dominance being a very poor performer compared to male "people pleaser" social skills when it comes to what actually gains male primates preferred access to estrous females. 

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RE: why do most cuckolding site/communities revolve aro... - 6/10/2009 6:17:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: idroolchicksrule

I'm kind of new to all this and have been reading up on cuckolding online. I find the idea very erotic, but am dismayed that the other man, or bull is always a black dude. (Tell your girlfriend you want her to fuck a white dude). Or 10 black dudes. (One white dude).

And the woman is always white.  (Don't you just hate that when that happens?).

It just seems to strike me as some repressed racist fantasy and I am afraid if by letting others know its something I am into (like listing on my profile...don't list it on your profile) they might may get the idea that I have some fucked up views on race. (Do you?)

How should I go about expressing without stirring the racial pot? (Couldn't help you on that....kinda think you just did) ( I hope I haven't done that now). (See previous)
Thanks for reading. (Not a problem).

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