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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/7/2009 3:44:02 PM

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My apologies for the simplistic answer. It's power. What more power could a person have than to hold another's life in their hands.

BTW, very yummy answers from those on the other side of the kneel.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/7/2009 5:09:12 PM

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I'm not a top. I can only tell you why I enjoy receiving it and it's really extremely simple.

Lack of oxygen creates a sensation of being high and makes my orgasms a hundred times stronger...and his power over me is extremely appealing to me; to know that he has the power to allow me to breathe or not and the choice is in his hands.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/7/2009 7:31:18 PM

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Breath Play is great. We do it only in the hand or hands over the mouth and nose style and that is more than enought for me. Because to have harder forms of breath play would demand another mind set, M. tried the harder form and landed outside the bed, because my survival instincts set in.

I would love to breath play somebody else again, maybe i will get the chance soon.

The rush of adrenaline and fear is great, even in that soft form. And i know never before, if i will get turned on or if the fear is so strong, that i will not get turned on.

I was a very good diver and could swim under water without air for quite some time, i always loved the sense of achievement, when i reached the ground of a lake diving like that and the moment you take the first breath after you have air supply again.

I do not know if M. will anser for himself, but i asked him several times, what is in it for him and he said:

The power that you give me and the trust, and when you start to contract your body and i do not know is it due to being turned on or due to to less oxygen.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/7/2009 7:51:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

My apologies for the simplistic answer. It's power. What more power could a person have than to hold another's life in their hands.

BTW, very yummy answers from those on the other side of the kneel.

This pretty much sums it up. Sorry, HK.. Lady P beat me to it ;)

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/7/2009 9:34:59 PM

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I have forgotten, when i breath play somebody the trust the other person is entrusting me with, the sheer power is the rush.

If it is during a fight between M. and me, and i manage to cut his air supply (mostly shortly, because although he is shorter than me, he is quite smiply stronger and a meaner fighter) his instant reaction his great. He can and does put that much adrenaline out, that i often experienced a certain kind of nausea. Normally he is breaking my grip very quick, but the moments before that are great. A kind of fleeting victory.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/8/2009 11:15:49 AM

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I think that compared to what some other people do for breath play, what we do is probably pretty tame. That being said, I really enjoy the light play we do. When he pins me down at the neck or puts his arm around my neck as he enters me from behind (sorta like a headlock, except I'm still in front of him), my breathing is impaired. Not to the point where I am in danger of passing out or anything, but to the point where I have to struggle to breathe. To the point where my heart races in a reflex fight or flight response.

And yeah, it is about power. I know he loves me and won't hurt me (the bad kind of hurt). But knowing that he could so easily, really turns me on.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/9/2009 7:32:33 AM

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For me, much of it is the power...the power that comes from controlling another's individual life/injury/death IN that moment.

When I first started out, there was no way I'd go near breath play. My first two submissives weren't interested either so it worked. But as I read more about it and spoke to other dominants about it, my curiosity about this level of control and trust intensified. I read more. I spoke to several submissives about it and their answers...like those of the submissives on this thread...varied but for almost all of them, at the basic core was the submission---the yielding up of trust and control and will over their very life to the dominant. This submissive and I became friends over time and she was the first to allow me to try breath play with her. It was a situation we built up into by becoming friends, then occasional play partners. As the trust deepened on both sides, it was like an inevitability that occurred early one evening at a hotel in Denver when I was down teaching at a seminar. She told me later that part of her reason for wanting it to occur that night was having watched me teach and take charge in a class with other doctors that day. She enjoyed being with the one who was leading the class and teaching others how to do things right and her submission was tweaked by the way I conduct my class...no cell phones, if you keep getting up to leave the class you are not allowed back in after the third time of leaving until after the next break, etc.. As soon as class was over, she begged me to choke her later. After a nice dinner and some...interesting...warm-up, the right moment was there and I did it...carefully at first, watching her face and her body. The combination of the reddening face and the way she writhed while her nails caressed and scratched and dug in her arousal...the look of fear, trust, and acknowledgement/acceptance of "me as her dominant in the moment" stirred and tickled that beast within that we often speak of...the one that is kept on a short leash but is occasionally let out to play. That beast is what led to my teasing her clit, her asshole, her nipples...all while controlling her breathing with my hand on her neck...until she was begging to come with stilted gasping and pleading eyes.

Since then, I have had the luck to experience this play with another who trusts me and whom I trust. It was different...just as hot but another whole variation on the power and trust and sexuality aspect.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/9/2009 12:35:19 PM

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My ex and i had the same enjoyment from breath play exactly.
He held my life in his hands during breath play. If he let go i would live, if he didn't i would die, yummy !!

You just said very beautifully, what i was about to write!! You worded it well too :) i got goosebumps (good, happy ones) just form reading it. For me, breath play is totally giving myself over, submitting truly, letting all barriers of any kind fall away, literally giving your life over to Him.

Truly beautiful.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/9/2009 1:45:30 PM

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wow, I'm surprised no one has mentioned the psychoactive responses to breath play. As you're brain losses oxygen and adrenaline starts to kick in(right about the same time as you start to get that tunnel vision), your sense of touch is heightened(it also helps that most of the time your restricting a certain amount of blood flow too, and while aroused, some extra blood is going to find itself in your naughty bits), and as with most things that will cause brain damage, a certain state of euforia can be achieved...

Hey, you know what they say
"what doesn't kill you, gives you wood"

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/10/2009 2:07:46 PM

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I'm a female top with a pretty intense fetish for breath control; that said, I am hyper-conscious about safety, so most of my stuff is harmless, mere roleplaying or just hand-over-mouth type things. I get so hot and bothered by the mere suggestion of breath control that simply discussing it, sometimes, can work me up into a suitable hot & wet frenzy. For example, I can go to a hockey game and pretend the penalty box is airtight. Watch a hockey player in there (hot, sweaty, and out of breath) = foreplay. This never fails to rock my world; luckily, I don't get bored with it and as a result have nooses, airtight boxes or plastic bags in my toykit. I just worry WAY too much about safety - no thanks, I'll stick to roleplay.

My real life, in-person dabbling in *minor* breath control are consistent and frequent. Hand over mouth (especially gloved) makes me giddy. Telling a man from across the table in a restaurant, 'Hold your breath for me. Right now," can get me pretty hot. Quietly observing, just *watching* a man breathe from across the room, when I am hypersensitive about it, can get me worked up a bit. Clothing tight over the chest, also, can push some buttons for me. Watching escape arists get freed from water tanks? Double hot!

Unlike others, I can't really point to any real power rush from "controlling someone's breathing" - one, because I don't intend to do that *for real* because I think it's dangerous - but two, because any real, true form of control of that level is honestly dangerous and worries me and that causes distraction. I can fantasize about it and eroticize it on a lot of levels, but somehow I think for me I just find breathing, in general, to be sensual and exciting. I love the way hot breath feels on my face. I love kissing a man when he's out of breath or barely able to catch his breath. I love the way breathing sounds. I love the way a whimper sounds when caught in a strained breath. I love the way a man's chest moves when he breathes. I really, really like strained breathing between my clenched fingertips if I have my hand over his mouth. I am have eroticized *breathing* I think, more than "breath control", so controlling it is just one of many variations. I can get pretty hot making a man "breathe hard," just as I can from making him hold his breath.

When I am feeling especially cruel or sadistic, I can mix breath control with sadism and the idea of serious, intense and dangerous breath control can be very erotic to me, but it's not my specific attraction to it; my fascination and erotic ties with breathing go far beyond just breath control. Once I get into specifics regarding real life controlling of someone's breathing, I get too worried to enjoy myself.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/10/2009 2:30:55 PM

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The concept is potentially hot; the execution is so potentially dangerous that the risk is very considerable for erotic fun.

Aakasha, have you considered incorporating forced exercise into your breath play kink? I guarantee they do get to breathing hard and fast when you've been chasing them on the treadmill with a riding crop for awhile. That's my kink.

In a situation like this, partial breath obstruction (eg, a ball gag) combined with the results of forced exercise could be quite dramatic. Medical cautions would definitely apply here, and I would advise you to select strong, fit young hotties for such efforts. That has its own rewards anyway.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/10/2009 2:32:55 PM

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Part of it is just a predilection to choke during sex our 'rough stuff'. It just seems natural that to shove a girl up against the wall by her neck, or grab her around the neck during sex. Beyond that, I like that I'm giving her an experience through hypoxia or asphyxiation that, whilst pleasurable, is also scary. I like the fear, the loss of control it instills in her. I can identify with that Joker quote - there's something especially sexy about the look in her eyes as she's on the edge of succumbing. Bringing her to the brink of potential death and snatching her back is not only a power trip, but it brings out something in her. And then it's just damn sexy to see a girl clawing at her throat with desperate fingers, gasping for hair, eye lids growing heavy, those big pleading eyes that say "let me go!" and "please... don't stop..." all at once. I call them choke-me eyes.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/10/2009 11:22:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

The concept is potentially hot; the execution is so potentially dangerous that the risk is very considerable for erotic fun.

Aakasha, have you considered incorporating forced exercise into your breath play kink? I guarantee they do get to breathing hard and fast when you've been chasing them on the treadmill with a riding crop for awhile. That's my kink.

In a situation like this, partial breath obstruction (eg, a ball gag) combined with the results of forced exercise could be quite dramatic. Medical cautions would definitely apply here, and I would advise you to select strong, fit young hotties for such efforts. That has its own rewards anyway.

That almost sounds as dangerous in some cases as just choking them, lol... You can always release a choke hold, when they've started hypervenilating, it takes a moment to get their breathing back undercontrol.. But it is a good way to reach the proper oxygen/blood circulation loss to the brain with out fear of collapsing or pinching off of their air ways.

it's odd that we weigh the dangers of this sort of thing so heavily, but go off to do nearly as dangerous tasks every day(don't even want to think of the death rates related to automobile accidents).

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/11/2009 1:07:51 PM

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I enjoy it because it scares me. It's just so dangerous and to do this means I have to trust the one cutting off my air supply. When he does that, instinct makes me struggle then I remember I can trust him so I stop struggling and........I want to say relax but who the hell relaxes when being choked so I'll say...........submit, accept what is being done to me, he sees that my struggling ends and I submit under his hand and chokes me that much harder........lol.

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RE: Cracking the Top on Breath Play - 6/11/2009 11:52:54 PM

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First time poster here. Figured this would be a good way to introduce myself

I've been on both sides of breathplay, and it probably remains one of my biggest turn-ons, right down to the core. It's almost spiritual.

So here's the "giving" end. There is a girl at college who I got to know over the past two semesters, and very very gradually introduced to the world of BDSM. You can imagine how slowly I took things, to make sure that a) I wouldn't freak her out and b) I could be sure that she was ready to go further. The most intense, mutually rewarding moments happened when I'd restrained her in some way, either sideways in a hog-tie or to the posts of her dorm bed, and had climbed partly on top of her (fully clothed, I kept sex out of it), and used a latex t-shirt to suffocate her. She's normally very inhibited but the way she moved when I cupped my hands around her chin and forehead and watched her suck the latex to her face was completely natural. I could see that she seemed to find some kind of peace in there, and when she started bucking and moaning I knew that in the last few moments before I gave her more air, she still trusted me. The way she described it was that all her daily worries and anxieties (of which there were many) suddenly stopped concerning her. Being suffocated made her focus on her direct sensations - the cuffs or whatever holding her back, the feel of the latex on her face, the soft voice I used when talking her through it, and my firm hands cradling her head. I'd also caress her cheek with my hand and kind of gently hold her between my legs and arms. I could also tell that she was pushing herself, waiting longer and longer to snap her finger and get more air. The way her eyes looked at me when we were done was almost loving. They were tired, but they had a softness, trust, and inner light that I don't think I ever see in her at any other time. Or in most people, to be honest.

On the "receiving" end, it was a lot more sexual. I'd rather not go too much into details, since you asked about the giving end, but let's just say that all my sensations transformed. Every sensation became so much more intense and occasionally I'd feel a twinge of panic as I was in there. It's hard to recall because I was in such a different place. I guess you could call it subspace? I stopped thinking about anything, basically. All "I" was was the sensations I was feeling, the complete submission as I was being abused. It was basically heaven, as I said to her after we'd finished. Oblivion, paradise, a crystallization of sexual perfection.

This really reads like a love letter to breathplay, but I'd be lying if I held back.

To boil it down, the pleasures of controlling someone's breath of course vary depending on whose it is. In my case, I of course felt the thrill of the power I had over her, sure, but more importantly, I could empathize with her and felt like I was giving her something important, liberating, and fundamentally "good". Her gasps and struggles were a sign that she was coming into touch with a side of her sexuality that she might not ever have discovered if I hadn't been around to make an educated guess.

So yeah. Have fun, play hard, but be safe. If she (or I) ever really needed out, a finger snapping was all it took.

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