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whiteslavebitch -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/8/2009 3:22:35 PM)

Well I for one, get very little c-mail. I have a very nearly empty profile, and no pics, much less nude pics. But then I'm not seeking at this time, nor in the near future.



willowspirit -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/8/2009 4:58:19 PM)

When my profile first hit the site I got close to 90 emails within the first 10 hours or so.
It's not that bad anymore, thank goodness!
There might have been some nice, classy, respectable Dominant men in there somewhere but it was so overwhelming, I might never know...

Some weeks I get about 50 or 60 total, some days I may get as many as two dozen -- but that's probably during a full moon.
 
But I'm older... so maybe 100 isn't out of line some days for some females.

If I were to look just at the who's currently online thing, I'd guess I'd say there are about 4 actively looking straight dominant males to every 1 actively looking submissive woman (who isn't from Ghana/or former soviet block, etc... or part of the "View MyWebcam" for money thingy).

Married men have a more difficult time, of course. Disrespectful wannabees probably have a tough time too.
I think the odds get much, MUCH worse for the men who just want one-night-stands.
Low IQ guys, or ones that can't put words together to form a cohesive thought, don't stand much of a chance I would guess.
Men that are just "checkin' this thing out", "for the fun of it", etc., don't impress me.

And to me, there's a HUGE difference between Dominants and guys who just want to Top -- just like a big difference between woman who just like to bottom to get the physical sensations, and those who are actually submissive psychologically.

Best of luck!



lizi -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/8/2009 7:16:19 PM)

When I first signed up I got about 20 to 30 messages a day. That was without any pictures posted and nothing filled out on the profile about my sexual interests. I am older (47) so I'm sure that limited things. I hid my profile after less than a week, I had a few people to talk to and consider by then. I have it open now but it states friends only and that I have an owner and am happily in a relationship with him. I really don't get email from other men since I've posted that.

I found my partner here on CM so it does happen that a thoughtful message sent out may have a reward. What do you have to lose? Nothing ventured nothing gained. Make your message stand out by doing the things mentioned by other posters and in other threads; you should at least get some replies. I personally replied to the messages I received if the sender took the time to write something beyond hi, or cut and paste, or on your knees bitch (yawn).



NuevaVida -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/8/2009 7:57:55 PM)

I have never received 100 messages in a day.  Then again, I only recently posted a couple of photos.  Since posting them, I think the most I've received is 10 in a day.  Since putting my involvement with someone on my profile, I get 2-3 a week.



Coemgen -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/8/2009 8:36:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: willowspirit

There might have been some nice, classy, respectable Dominant men in there somewhere but it was so overwhelming, I might never know...



See, that is what I fear is happening to me. Even though I'm one of the 10% or so of men on here that actually reads the profile and sends a woman a nice, articulate message, I just assume that she is getting so inundated with the "you're hot, let's fuck" type of messages that she will end up getting frustrated and delete everything without reading them.... and then my message was never even noticed.



Coemgen -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/8/2009 8:49:23 PM)

Also, I will get the "Are you interested in messing around with another dude" message at least once a week despite no hint of bicourisity in my profile. If that makes the women who get hundreds of lame messages from men who obviously didn't read their profiles feel any better.



Racquelle -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/8/2009 9:05:52 PM)

I entirely adore the unsolicited cock shots.  I get a lot of e-mails from people who find my profile interesting and just want to comment on it.  I don't get as many e-mails as I did when I first created my profile but I can count on several a day in any case.  I don't mind people e-mailing about my pics.  I am a model and hopefully they are compelling pics.  



Goddess2002 -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 3:50:51 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Coemgen

quote:

ORIGINAL: willowspirit

There might have been some nice, classy, respectable Dominant men in there somewhere but it was so overwhelming, I might never know...



See, that is what I fear is happening to me. Even though I'm one of the 10% or so of men on here that actually reads the profile and sends a woman a nice, articulate message, I just assume that she is getting so inundated with the "you're hot, let's fuck" type of messages that she will end up getting frustrated and delete everything without reading them.... and then my message was never even noticed.


Yeah...that's the unfortunate byproduct of being innundated with so many wanker mails...women just get frustrated after awhile. It's a crummy system.



lizi -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 5:45:48 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Coemgen

quote:

ORIGINAL: willowspirit

There might have been some nice, classy, respectable Dominant men in there somewhere but it was so overwhelming, I might never know...



See, that is what I fear is happening to me. Even though I'm one of the 10% or so of men on here that actually reads the profile and sends a woman a nice, articulate message, I just assume that she is getting so inundated with the "you're hot, let's fuck" type of messages that she will end up getting frustrated and delete everything without reading them.... and then my message was never even noticed.


Yes, it may happen that your email gets deleted but what can you do about it? You have a choice...consider the problem and figure out how to handle it to your best advantage (which you are doing by posting your question and pondering the subject) or don't contact anyone. If you are ever going to find anyone it takes work even for those women who get the 100 emails a day. It takes work plain and simple. There are a lot of great suggestions in old threads here for making your emails stand out - do a search using the search function in the lower right section of this page.

It's like finding a needle in a haystack anyway to find your partner amidst a large pool of people but it can be done. Don't talk yourself out of it before you ever get started - what do you have to lose by giving it a shot? Some wasted time perhaps but that's not the worst thing in the world is it? If you find something valuable enough to put in some time and genuine effort you generally gain something in return. You may not get exactly what you are seeking, because nothing in life is a given, but you do get something back:  insight, friends, knowledge, confidence, etc. Read some profiles, write an individual greeting to a few interesting profiles and send them out -  who knows? All you can expect in return is to know you tried but  it may just happen that you get a response  [:)]



TEMPERANCE -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 1:39:57 PM)

You always hear this on internet forums.... oooooooooooh i get so many messages a day blah blah bollox..... the only time i got loads... 15 ...was when i had quite a revealing outfit as my main profile picture and the messages were crass.... so the picture went.... now i get about 8 a day and they are generally from people that i have on going conversations with.... quality over quantity any day.

I think the young girls who are new members get hit quite a lot but thats by the old preditors ...... yuk...  

Edited due to this bint not being able to spell and my q key sticking.. grrrr



TEMPERANCE -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 1:42:59 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Racquelle

I entirely adore the unsolicited cock shots.    


Damn how come I have never received these???????????????



TreasureKY -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 4:14:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Coemgen

... Even though I'm one of the 10% or so of men on here that actually reads the profile and sends a woman a nice, articulate message, I just assume that she is getting so inundated with the "you're hot, let's fuck" type of messages that she will end up getting frustrated and delete everything without reading them.... and then my message was never even noticed.


I can understand that fear, but if you take anything away from this thread, recognize that a good majority of the women on here who've admitted they were overwhelmed with messages when they joined, also said that it cooled down not long after.  If you really have to message someone when they are brand new to the site, limit your message to a nice intro, and let them know you'll contact them in a couple of weeks once the deluge of messages slows down.  Then, follow up on that promise.  If the first message gets lost in the shuffle, no great loss.  But you never know... if she sees it and likes your profile, she might contact you.  [;)]



retrogirl -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 5:07:36 PM)

I haven't even been on here a week, but I can definitely say that the number of posts a woman probably gets is dictated by the way she presents in her profile. I was very specific and truthful and have yet to post a picture and have only gotten one drive by asshole.  The rest have been pretty respectful and clearly read the profile before writing.  Of course, being older and taken probably helps filter out a lot of the dreck.



TreasureKY -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 6:35:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: retrogirl

I haven't even been on here a week, but I can definitely say that the number of posts a woman probably gets is dictated by the way she presents in her profile. I was very specific and truthful and have yet to post a picture and have only gotten one drive by asshole.  The rest have been pretty respectful and clearly read the profile before writing.  Of course, being older and taken probably helps filter out a lot of the dreck.


I'm not so sure I'd agree with you... though I don't disagree completely.  My profile was very specific and truthful... I presented myself in a very tasteful manner... the photo I posted was a simple headshot.   I'm also in my mid-forties.  I was still inundated.

Stating non-availability will weed out a lot of the unwanted attention, but not all. 



nevergrowdup -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 7:58:33 PM)

The number of c-mails that I get depends on how often I check.  If I don't check at all, I'll get perhaps 1 c-mail a day.  But there have been days when I'm on a lot and will have 25 or so.

For the record, I read them all, but reply to few.  If someone puts some effort into writing something, I try to return with some sort of a message.

It's frustrating when people don't bother to read your profile ... when they are just seeing  a picture are responding to it.  Do any women really reply to that?

I sympathize with the guys, though.  I have friends that talk about how few women respond to them.  And I'm thinking, "He's such a great guy!  And he's writing decent c-mail.  He should get more responses!"  So, with a bit of sensitivity, I tried an experiment.  I decided to write back to each guy that sent a message, if only to be polite and say, "I don't see this as working, but good luck with your search."  I also did this experiment on (1) a vanilla dating site and (2) adult friend finder (a vanilla sex site).  Results:  people on the vanilla sites were pretty understanding.  If they wrote back it was to say, "Thanks for letting me know."  But  here on CM, any response was considered either considered encouragement (when I wasn't giving hope) or a chance for them to tell me what an awful person I am.  What does this say about Doms?

In any case, I wish that men would read this thread, sort of.  Because I'm consistently hearing the same thing from women ... that we ignore the same kinds of c-mail.



Calandra -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/9/2009 10:24:32 PM)

I get anywhere from 5-25 a day... I notice that if I don't log on for a few days, the number drops.

I also have a LOT of people who browse my profile who don't message Me, so I am glad that some people do read profiles and honor My stated wishes if they find something that doesn't match.



EmelineRose -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/10/2009 3:31:55 PM)

I think most female submissives get inundated.  Heck, I've talked to some who get 500 messages a week! Female submissives do seem to be a distinct minority around the place.

However I wouldn't be discouraged, because of all the messages I get very few are even POLITE, and from what I can gather from talking to other submissives that is very much the norm.  It seems like myself, many other submissives are very pleased just to get a polite and respectful message and will tend to respond to those (the rude idiots just get blocked or deleted). So I think that's your best strategy, just be polite, genuine and respectful and some lovely creature may be impressed enough to respond!  Good luck.



FawneTwo -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/10/2009 5:06:43 PM)

Wondering if the kinky porno ads have had an effect on quality, sincerity or aggresiveness?

I haven't placed a full profile in quite some time but can vouch for the OP Female submissive/slaves with decent pictures, who honestly fill out the checklist get lots of mail.

Most correspondants are real but few go to the trouble of crafting long individual letters and I don't blame them. It's frustrating dealing with all the nonsense.

Age has never been an issue.

shrug



nevergrowdup -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/10/2009 5:12:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: EmelineRose

I think most female submissives get inundated.  Heck, I've talked to some who get 500 messages a week! Female submissives do seem to be a distinct minority around the place.



Ya think?  I think dommes get inundated.  There seem to be so many male subs out there.  Probably 1/4 of the email that I get are from male subs or switches, hoping that I'm going to domme them.  In fact, I had started down the road with at least four self-proclaimed doms, but learning after a few dates that they were really subs.  Nice guys, too ... usually smarter and more successful than the average dom.  It might be tough to be a male dom, but I'd guess it's tougher to be a male sub.



PyrotheClown -> RE: Do the women here really get 100 messages a day? (6/10/2009 5:23:06 PM)

you know what they say,
" A pretty picture is can get a thousand views.."


or something like that..
















Ahem, really really bad jokes aside, not to surprising, most of the same(kind) of scenarios are played out in most bars(altho not to the same degree,haha, anonymity does bring about a certain amount of boldness and crazy), Especially on a friday night... You'd be surprised how many of you introverts act just like the extroverts in the most surprising ways.



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