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flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/14/2009 10:22:12 AM)

Ok, I went back to the dungeon and ended up whipping and spanking two drag queens, oh what the hell, I played right and I guess I just wated to make my self feel that doing was way way better than not doing anything at all..



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/14/2009 9:39:23 PM)

Lousy thread, ok, I get it LOL



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/29/2009 9:17:25 PM)

This is my thread am going to keep on posting.  Last week I spanked a switchs pussy after I asked her how to do it.  She guided me on how much pressure to apply to each stroke of my hand and how to rub the 'little ball that I feel "clit",  Ok so that was that, now what?  My goal is to have someone daily not just get lucky once a week or so...



Racquelle -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/29/2009 9:22:03 PM)

Did you ask her if she might ever play in private with you?  Do you let your coupled friends know you are on the hunt?



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/30/2009 7:06:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Racquelle

Did you ask her if she might ever play in private with you?  Do you let your coupled friends know you are on the hunt?
I don't have any "couple friends"  It's not easy for me to make friends.  Ask yourself, would you and yours spend time with a person who could not hear your every word?  Being recently hard of hearing has it's own drawbacks..No I did not ask her to play private. It's too soon for me to feel comfortable.



variation30 -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play (6/30/2009 8:03:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

Sorry, but I have to join the rest of the females who were creeped out by your profile. If you are using an approach like that in the clubs, well... not good.
Also, Lizi made a good point about the fact that you seem to be expecting submissives to contact you. As most guys here can tell you, that probably isn't going to work out too well. 


first off, what is a phantom blowjob.

as far as the op. holy shit, 7 years and no luck. lower your standards.



variation30 -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/30/2009 8:24:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Whenready

Sorry to say it but.... profile reads like gollum... my precioussssss.....


I hate I missed this.



variation30 -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play (6/30/2009 8:48:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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Be willing to see submissives as nothing but targets and possessions; be willing to see doms as nothing but competition and opponents. Dehumanize them. It's a horrid thought at first, but I guarantee you it's what the "successful" people you see are doing (not that they'd admit it, of course) - and it works.
Now this has to be one of the WORST pieces of bullshit i have ever read here.

Lemme tell you something Ialdabaoth...if you approached me, or any of the other subs i know with that attitude you would be reported to the DM and removed.

I have seen many successful Dom/sub relationships (even if it is just playing together for the evening) and ALL are based on respect.


truth be told, I don't think the original advice is too far off. perhaps it should be reworded in more genteel language (though who am I to critique someone's lack of tact). if someone is claiming they are having problems of assertion, then maybe they need to reevaluate how they approach the situation.

I would not interpret the advice to be suggesting doing things like wearing a sharkskin suit, pinching a strangers ass, and saying 'sup cunny, Ima take you back to my place and have sex on you, get your things.' it is acknowledging what you truly desire out of a relationship, be it a long term relationship or little play date, and approaching the situation appropriately. if you were to approach a submissive in a club to play (this is hypothetical, as I don't do the bdsm scene) in the same manner you were to approach a cop who is writing you a traffic ticket.

and one can still approach another individual for the sole purpose of sex or play or whatever else and be respectful. hell, this morning I approached an individual at Jack's forthe sole purpose of having them sell me a chicken bisquit and I did so respectfully. that person was no more or less objectified than if I saw someone in a bar I wanted to sleep with and approached them, through whatever means, in a manner to achieve that ends.

the op didn't give too much information about what he felt his problem was, but maybe refining his goals in a sincere manner would help him accomplish them.



variation30 -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play (6/30/2009 9:00:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

I would have thought my tone was pretty clear in that post, even though it was only text.

At any rate, I have never met a person who could ever get away with doing bullshit like that to random people.



I'd bet my car monica bellucci could get away with it.



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/30/2009 12:39:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Racquelle

Did you ask her if she might ever play in private with you?  Do you let your coupled friends know you are on the hunt?


Now that i've thought about it.  Wed.. I will go to a  monthly munch and I will inform the couples that attend that I am on the hunt. 



DavanKael -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/30/2009 2:07:23 PM)

I think that's a great idea, Flogger!  :> 
Also, you mentioned that your hearing issues are recent.  Have you worked with anyone to develop ways to accommodate for the limitations, for example: learning to lip-read, etc.  It would be worth contacting your audiologist and asking for some assistance. 
Best wishes, 
  Davan



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (6/30/2009 4:07:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DavanKael

I think that's a great idea, Flogger!  :> 
Also, you mentioned that your hearing issues are recent.  Have you worked with anyone to develop ways to accommodate for the limitations, for example: learning to lip-read, etc.  It would be worth contacting your audiologist and asking for some assistance. 
Best wishes, 
Davan


I've taken lip reading classes, sign classes, and I study the book daily on signing, It's been 15 years now the last song I heard was Michael Jacksons
"The way you make me feel" Then  I ate shrimp at Denny's and had a reaction and Poof. no more sound.  Doc gave me predisone, sound came back and then gone again and this time not to return.



Racquelle -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/1/2009 6:47:47 PM)

I am sorry about your hearing loss.  I have partial loss on my right side, and yes, even with just that, it makes social situations difficult.  Your situation is much clearer now.  The best solution, it seems. to the overall problem is learning how to socialize and communicate more fully.

Here are some sites where you might find some help:
http://www.blackndeaf.com/
http://internationaldeafleather.org/
http://kinked.org/



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/2/2009 12:17:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Racquelle

I am sorry about your hearing loss.  I have partial loss on my right side, and yes, even with just that, it makes social situations difficult.  Your situation is much clearer now.  The best solution, it seems. to the overall problem is learning how to socialize and communicate more fully.

Here are some sites where you might find some help:
http://www.blackndeaf.com/
http://internationaldeafleather.org/
http://kinked.org/


Thank you racquelle, this is very thoughtful of you. Yes being recently hard of hearing is a struggle knowing you are a great talker but can't listen.  Am checking out the sites you sent to me, thanks again..



Andalusite -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/2/2009 7:10:54 PM)

I've really had trouble at munches because of my hearing loss, as well. It sounds like mine isn't nearly as severe, but I can only listen to one person at a time. When there are 3 people talking at once within a couple of feet of me, I can't follow any of the conversations. There's a ladies discussion group I've attended a few times, with only a few people, that's great - everyone takes turns.



StrangerThan -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/2/2009 10:14:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp
Why wait until you get to a party to find one????


I think Iron is hitting the proverbial nail on the head.



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/2/2009 10:39:14 PM)

People are fessing up...Glad to know I'm not the only one out there  in here with that struggle with conversing.



Andalusite -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/3/2009 8:17:24 AM)

I mentioned it earlier in the thread, when we were discussing safewords. [:D]



flogger -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/3/2009 11:40:47 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

I mentioned it earlier in the thread, when we were discussing safewords. [:D]


I must have missed it thinking about my own problem.  Thanks for your help and insight and let's keep on keeping on.



GeorgiaMaam -> RE: What do you do when at club everyone is owned or together all the time and you don't get to play? (7/3/2009 12:53:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: flogger

quote:

ORIGINAL: Racquelle

Did you ask her if she might ever play in private with you?  Do you let your coupled friends know you are on the hunt?
I don't have any "couple friends"  It's not easy for me to make friends.  Ask yourself, would you and yours spend time with a person who could not hear your every word?  Being recently hard of hearing has it's own drawbacks..No I did not ask her to play private. It's too soon for me to feel comfortable.


You were comfortable enough to put your hands on her pussy, but not to ask her out for coffee?



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