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LadyHibiscus -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 8:32:21 AM)
I'm not sure that there are any dominant men stronger than me... physically, sure, but otherwise? I AM turned on by other dominants though, they're so much easier to deal with. [:D]

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 8:41:47 AM)
I would agree, a good number of dominant men are hot and easier to deal with, because of a more relaxed (no need to prove self) energy, but it really depends on the dominant in question... M

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 8:43:18 AM)
Oh absolutely, M! Some dom men are utter jerks---but that is hardly a gender based quality. [:D]

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 8:56:38 PM)
Dark Steven: I agree, but I was asking the women, not you. No disrespect, but this is the "Ask a Mistress" thread. You are not a Mistress and I wasn't asking you. The ladies can speak for themselves. I may be submissive to women, but I'm not submissive to you. Besides, you need a new shirt. The one you have on is only fit for bums.

DarkSteven -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:00:34 PM)
I appreciate you telling me that no disrespect was intended. I wish the rest of your post had followed that mentality.

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:08:51 PM)
Thank you, I’m sorry, you hurt my feelings. I apologize.

SmokingGun82 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:12:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bootlckr57 Dark Steven: I agree, but I was asking the women, not you. No disrespect, but this is the "Ask a Mistress" thread. You are not a Mistress and I wasn't asking you. The ladies can speak for themselves. I may be submissive to women, but I'm not submissive to you. Besides, you need a new shirt. The one you have on is only fit for bums. Ways not to endear yourself to a crowd number one: insult people trying to be helpful. Way number two: don't understand that you asked a question on a public forum, and don't get to decide who can and cannot respond. Insulting popular posters is also usually a bad idea. Besides all that, welcome to the boards.

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:15:27 PM)
Dark Steven, I’m just finding the people here not very friendly at all. I know you must get a ton of newbie jerks. But I’m serious about this. I’ve been into the “scene” to 15 years.

LadyPact -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:20:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bootlckr57 Dark Steven: I agree, but I was asking the women, not you. No disrespect, but this is the "Ask a Mistress" thread. You are not a Mistress and I wasn't asking you. The ladies can speak for themselves. I may be submissive to women, but I'm not submissive to you. Besides, you need a new shirt. The one you have on is only fit for bums. If I may....... I think I would be correct in stating that you, yourself, are also not a Dominant woman. Yet you came here to ask your question, did you not? If you have the freedom to post here, so does anyone else, regardless of gender or orientation. For those of us who tend to base M/s, D/s, and many other things in protocol, I'll be happy to tell you what I find attractive. Respect. Plain and simple. You will not impress anyone, while disrespecting those they think highly of.

Racquelle -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:20:59 PM)
I like Dark Steven's shirt and I can't figure how anything he said would have hurt your feelings - he was confirming what you did right.

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:22:02 PM)
SmokingGun82 et all, Thank you for your Welcome. Sorry, I made a mistake by lashing out. This can be Intimidating. I'm really a nice guy. I'll sign off now. I was just in a hurt mood.

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:26:40 PM)
Racquelle: You are right, I was wrong. I'm sorry. I feel so stupid. I'll go away.

WyldHrt -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:28:40 PM)
[edit]- *never mind

DarkSteven -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:42:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bootlckr57 Dark Steven, I’m just finding the people here not very friendly at all. I know you must get a ton of newbie jerks. But I’m serious about this. I’ve been into the “scene” to 15 years. bootlicker, I'm not sure what you mean. I don't get a lot of jerks, and I wouldn't care of they were newbies or not. And you evidently have more experience than I do, by a lot. I suppose you felt uncomfortable seeing a post by a man. I didn't intend to make you feel uncomfortable at all. You overreacted to my post, and I overreacted to the line about my shirt. Are we square?

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:49:58 PM)
I started by saying: "What are you ladies turned on, turned off by ? I know this sounds kind of newbie, but what kind of relationship do you need ?" (emphasis mine). His reply was: "Fella, you're not going to believe this but the fact that you even THINK about something like this puts you ahead of most of the guys who contact Dommes with "Mistress, I will <insert four random fetishes here> for you," and they have no connection with the woman's interests." Not looking for a relationship is somehow better. I mentioned Relationship because it IS the most important thing to me. Not sexual interests. I tried to be clear. I guess I was missunderstood and took it out on him. I think my opening line made it clear I was talking about a relationship. Relationship, not a list of kinky fetishes. But the people here seem to think every newcomer is hoarny and clueless. It's late, I'm sorry I caused so much trouble.

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:51:32 PM)
Dark Steven, Yes, I'm sorry. If you will except that I will say we're square. It's my fault.

DavanKael -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:53:25 PM)
As many have already pointed out to you, bootlckr57, Dark Steven is a frequent poster who offers good advice and almost always has something kind and/or positive to say. I'm not a Domme, I am a switch, but many of the things I find attractive in Dominion of another, to do I find attractive in submission of another: strength of will and character, pride in self and us, a formidable physical presence, an attractive physical presence, good bearing, attunement to me and cognizance of surroundings, etc. Davan

DarkSteven -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:53:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bootlckr57 I started by saying: "What are you ladies turned on, turned off by ? I know this sounds kind of newbie, but what kind of relationship do you need ?" (emphasis mine). His reply was: "Fella, you're not going to believe this but the fact that you even THINK about something like this puts you ahead of most of the guys who contact Dommes with "Mistress, I will <insert four random fetishes here> for you," and they have no connection with the woman's interests." Not looking for a relationship is somehow better. I mentioned Relationship because it IS the most important thing to me. Not sexual interests. I tried to be clear. I guess I was missunderstood and took it out on him. I think my opening line made it clear I was talking about a relationship. Relationship, not a list of kinky fetishes. But the people here seem to think every newcomer is hoarny and clueless. It's late, I'm sorry I caused so much trouble. I actually gave you props because you were looking for a relationship. I tried to explain how that put you ahead of the guys who were out for fetishes. Guess I wasn't clear or else you misread my post. Quit beating yourself up. Relax, stick around, get to know people.

LadyPact -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:57:43 PM)
While you may have misunderstood the intent, the bottom line here is that he was telling you that you had a better approach in the way you are seeing it than 90% (minimun) of the other males who stumble on this site. Seriously, the fact that you think along those lines has you in a better position than most. If all I cared about were 'do mes' and people who are only looking to have their fetishes fulfilled, I'd never have a moment to breathe. The fact that you're seeing it in a light that it isn't all about you, gives you a bit of perspective. What you thought was an insult, was actually a compliment. You just didn't see it that way because of your own preconceived ideas. Much the same as you thought we would have about you.

bootlckr57 -> RE: What do non-pro Dommes find attactive ? (6/11/2009 9:59:59 PM)
My appoligies to everyone. Steven;"I'm very sorry. I re-read you post( Ok, for the Nth time) and I was the one who misread it. " the fact that you even THINK about something like this puts you ahead of most of the guys", I thought I read: "the fact you even Think something like this puts you ahead... " I feel really, really stupid now. I'm sorry. To you and everyone, I hope you can forgive the trouble i've caused. Ok, I'm a dumb blonde.

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