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Starbuck09 -> Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:50:19 AM)
I would be interested to know if anyone had attempted to act out a long held fantasy only to be dissapointed by the reality. I have tried a number of fantasies that I have and enjoyed them immensely but there are some that I suspect would be nowhere near as fun as they are in my imagination.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:57:29 AM)
I have the fantasy of being blindfolded, tied doggy style and being used by several men. This is one of those fantasies that looks really good in my head, but I am sure the reality would leave me feeling anything but satisfied. Anything else I have had in my head and been able to actually do, usually comes out pretty well and I am glad I was open to the experience.

chamberqueen -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 11:35:16 AM)
As a Domme I led many men through their fantasies. Some were so overwhelmed that they never came back. (These had nothing to do with sado-masochism but simply getting inside their heads to find out what they were truly craving.) Others told me that living out their fantasy came as a disappointment. (An example of this was a man who wanted to drink his own ejaculation until it actually came time to do so. The thought of it was very exciting to him until after he actually ejaculated and then the desire went away.) For myself, the reality is generally better than the fantasy. However, I am careful not to carry too many preconceived notions and expectations. It is when my expectations get too high for things to happen in a certain preset order that I am most likely to be disappointed. Some fantasies are best left at that stage and can bring much pleasure just as a thought. I encourage people to live out as many as they can and not to cheat themselves out of the experience, but to be wise in the ones that they choose to live out. While I might enjoy daydreaming about my Master kicking the crap out of someone who accosts me it is not a situation I would want to set up in real life. In that fantasy it is just the idea that someone cares enough about me to put himself in danger to keep me safe.

GabrielleSlave -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 12:07:06 PM)
My current hottest fantasy is to be on Kink.com with Master on the Training of O or Sex and Submission. i think this is because of the location; industrial, dark, brooding, unforgiving and harsh. However, Wwe are doing stuff not far off what they do (apart from the suspension stuff) and so my fantasy is almost reality. i certainly have the best bits of it already with Master and to be honest i don't really care about where i am when Wwe are in full swing so... Maybe i am just lucky grins

littleone35 -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 2:24:44 PM)
Well before i met Master my fanatsy was actually pretty tame i wanted to have a 3 sum. One of my play partners at that time knew a guy who might be interesred. So we met for coffee and all went well, so we set up a meet to play. It was ok it was not all i expected it to be. I am still glad i tried it i got that out of my system. Now one of my hard limits is not to be shared, and Master does not share anyway. Matt's littleone

xiam -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 5:27:13 PM)
Sometimes the anticipation is better than the real thing... having it finally fulfilled can often be anticlimactic, particularly if, as in your case, it was a "long held fantasy." I think that's pretty normal. On the other hand, i know i have certain fantasies that will remain as such, as there's no way i'd ever want to make them a reality.

janiebelle -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 7:44:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 Well before i met Master my fanatsy was actually pretty tame i wanted to have a 3 sum. One of my play partners at that time knew a guy who might be interesred. So we met for coffee and all went well, so we set up a meet to play. It was ok it was not all i expected it to be. I am still glad i tried it i got that out of my system. Now one of my hard limits is not to be shared, and Master does not share anyway. Matt's littleone I can relate. I had a threesome once with my Master and a mutual friend/neighbor. It was OK, kind of awkward, not as hot as I had expected. And it made for very uncomfortable neighborhood get togethers for a while, but I wasn't able to put my finger on the vibe. j

breatheasone -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 9:30:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Starbuck09 I would be interested to know if anyone had attempted to act out a long held fantasy only to be dissapointed by the reality. I have tried a number of fantasies that I have and enjoyed them immensely but there are some that I suspect would be nowhere near as fun as they are in my imagination. Yes.

Starbuck09 -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 9:33:16 PM)
Do you mind if I ask what that was Candy? I understand if you don't want to share it publically though.

breatheasone -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 9:59:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Starbuck09 Do you mind if I ask what that was Candy? I understand if you don't want to share it publically though. OMG!........You suck asking me a direct question like that...... fuck.....[:(] As abstract a thinker as i am....(and i am)....its hard for me to describe a concept. Also disappointed isn't exactly the feeling that leaps to the fore front....Its more that its "not what i expected" And see...thats not even really right...Its more like its not ALL that i expected...or something....but that makes senses...because seriously, anything that STARTS out as a "concept"....a "fantasy" is doomed to victim to the gravity of reality isn't it?....no matter what "it" may be?..... ok was that slick enough for you to NOT notice that was a NON-answer LOL[;)]

Starbuck09 -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:08:27 PM)
My word Candy it seems a career in politics beckons you[;)] I do actually understand what you are saying though i think in the confines of your own head you can imagine whatever feelings you like to go along with graspable concepts but in reality sometimes... More mundane than that though like a couple of others on here I was interested in trying out a threesome but when I had one I didn't enjoy it because I couldn't relax. Everytime I started enjoying one partner I felt concious that I was neglecting the other and kept worrying I was hurting someone's feelings by doing things with onw that I wasn't with the other. i think that kinky as I am it's one on one in the bedroom for me.

breatheasone -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:30:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Starbuck09 My word Candy it seems a career in politics beckons you[;)] I do actually understand what you are saying though i think in the confines of your own head you can imagine whatever feelings you like to go along with graspable concepts but in reality sometimes... More mundane than that though like a couple of others on here I was interested in trying out a threesome but when I had one I didn't enjoy it because I couldn't relax. Everytime I started enjoying one partner I felt concious that I was neglecting the other and kept worrying I was hurting someone's feelings by doing things with onw that I wasn't with the other. i think that kinky as I am it's one on one in the bedroom for me. OH...well now.......THAT one i can answer in a very UN politician type way LMAO[;)] Yes ....i understand exactly what you speak of.... Example of the opposite, where an experience exceeded the fantasy ....my 1st experience with a MUCH older man was such....(i was 18 he was 38) HOLY SHIT....i couldn't believe my pussy!!! errr EYES!!!! It was a great experience.

Starbuck09 -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:49:49 PM)
Ha Ha Ha! Well good for you Candy i've always liked older partners to. I think they just know what they want without all the histironics of youth, that and they tend to look much better. I've had a fantasy that was better even than I imagined as well, the first time I slept with a transexual I was really nervous and not at all sure how it would be but i loved it one of the greatest nights of my life and that is going up against some pretty stiff competition!

breatheasone -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:52:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Starbuck09 Ha Ha Ha! Well good for you Candy i've always liked older partners to. I think they just know what they want without all the histironics of youth, that and they tend to look much better. I've had a fantasy that was better even than I imagined as well, the first time I slept with a transexual I was really nervous and not at all sure how it would be but i loved it one of the greatest nights of my life and that is going up against some pretty stiff competition! See..... i can behave....i can! ...i can resist the urge.....[8D]

Starbuck09 -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:54:54 PM)
Don't fight it Candy it was there to tempt you like a linguistic snake in a textual Eden[;)]

breatheasone -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 10:55:14 PM)
Holy shit Starbuck...i just noticed you are my YOUNGEST childs age.....LMAO....man it SUCKS big balls getting old...just sayin.

Starbuck09 -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 11:02:07 PM)
Bah! 53 or 45 is not old Candy, older certainly but not old, unless perhaps you lived in Gambia. How many children have you got if you don't mind me asking [though that's fairly tame I suppose compared to asking you about your fantasies so...]

breatheasone -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 11:02:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Starbuck09 Don't fight it Candy it was there to tempt you like a linguistic snake in a textual Eden[;)] LMAO...oh this is awesome....you are a flirt too....Baby doll....i wouldn't be able to tell if you were actually making me hot, or if i was having a hot flash! [;)] ....Fortunately for me....my Daddy can tell when i'm hot, and when i'm HOT[:)]

breatheasone -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 11:08:12 PM)
quote: How many children have you got if you don't mind me asking You have mail...

Starbuck09 -> RE: Fantasy vs reality (6/10/2009 11:10:34 PM)
A flirt? How could you Candy i'm a charmer not a flirt...maybe half and half. Your daddy is a lucky man he actually looks and sounds quite cool two you seem like a pretty wicked couple.

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