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found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 2:50:25 PM   
foryoupleasure


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Status: offline 		i am new to this lifestyle, i have found the one i want to serve! My question is how due i approach her, and let her know this. We had good conversation early on then i dropped the ball, and i think i lost her interest! Please any info will help!
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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 2:53:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not enough information.  How/where did you meet her?  What do you mean that you dropped the ball?  Did she suggest in any way how you should approach or refer to her?

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 2:56:31 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		You had her attention at one point.  How did you do it then?  If you dropped the ball... well... we each handle that differently.  Your guess would be about as good as anyone else's.

I'm afraid that someone knowing they want to serve me from a conversation or two, who dropped the ball and then came annoucing he wanted to serve me... would lose my interest period.  Anyone serving me ought to have some darn good reason for it and although some quailities might be found in a few conversations... that isn't enough.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 3:28:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Any period after ball-dropping can always feel awkward for males, FYP.  I think the best thing to do is to contact her again in a friendly and chatty way.  I would not advise being overtly kinky to start with. 

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 3:42:24 PM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I think the best thing to do is to contact her again in a friendly and chatty way. 


Oh, I don't know.  "I was a complete and total moron, and now that I've extricated my head from my bum, I'd like to prove that I really can be worthy of your time and attention" generally works for me.  Not guaranteeing it, mind you, but it's a start.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 3:53:05 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		I see your point, V, but the dominant the OP's targetting might be easy-going and have a good temper.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 3:55:16 PM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I see your point, V, but the dominant the OP's targetting might be easy-going and have a good temper.


If he's already dropped the ball, as he claims, I wouldn't count on it.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 4:42:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

I see your point, V, but the dominant the OP's targetting might be easy-going and have a good temper.


If he's already dropped the ball, as he claims, I wouldn't count on it.


What does dropping a ball mean?  

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 4:46:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Most likely he got scared and ran away.  It happens often... then they show up with an excuse of some sort.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 4:49:22 PM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		You have no Mistress until both of you agree to such, until then you are both on trial--you dropped the ball? You snooze, you loose--learn, Most of us are not here playing games.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 4:51:37 PM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: TEMPERANCE

What does dropping a ball mean?  


Here you go:  http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/drop+the+ball

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 4:55:13 PM   
TEMPERANCE


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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: TEMPERANCE

What does dropping a ball mean?  


Here you go:  http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/drop+the+ball


Aaaaaaaaah thank you

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 4:56:45 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		Cheers, V, I found that link helpful too.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 5:13:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Many Dommes are not about second chances for excellent reasons. Submissives failing to appear, failing to communicate, or disappearing in a puff of smoke for no apparent reason, simply make themselves look unreliable. Playing games with a Domme has inherent risks. We have no reason in the world to tolerate games - mostly because we don't have to.
 
Any time a submissive is given a chance, I suggest they make a choice: either step up and follow thru or be honest about not having the stones to do so.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 5:24:18 PM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Cheers, V, I found that link helpful too.


I told you I'm tri-lingual:  I speak British, American and French.

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/11/2009 5:25:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe he dropped the ball like on here-pose a question then poof disappear??

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/12/2009 9:53:51 AM   
foryoupleasure


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Status: offline 		No didnt loose my nerve had to go out of town, didnt make contact for almost 2 weeks what i did was screwed up! And you guys are right! you f up and its a done deal! thanks for reminding me!

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/12/2009 1:51:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		A local prospect disappeared on me, then posted on his profile that he had found his Mistress.  I sent him a congratulatory note, and he announced to me that the Mistress in question was ME!    Hm.  I've never been known to take someone into my household without actually meeting them in person first...

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/12/2009 3:37:36 PM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		I'm pretty rigid with honorifics, so if it were me and you were referring to me as your Mistress, you'd dig your hole deeper rather than digging out of it.  She's a person not just a fetish object for your amusement so how about relating with her int hat fashion? 
  Davan

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RE: found a Mistress - 6/12/2009 4:45:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, I kinda had to LOL about this too. Just having a thing for a woman does not make you two a couple or even a prospective couple.

I recently had a guy coming on strong to serve me and then he did the ole "fall out of communication bit". So I deleted him from files and have dropped him from my consideration. Would I consider him again? Very unlikely unless he made some truly heroic effort. And I'm talking flowers, chocolates, and fetish events galore ;) All on HIS tab of course. And let's not forget oodles of grovelling. And that would just be to even think about giving him a second chance.

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