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LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/11/2006 9:48:27 PM)
If I were at a club should I wear a sign that says "available" or "not available"? Actually I've been to some parties where people did that and it was kinda nifty. But it certainly shouldn't be EXPECTED nor should someone whine about it. Everyone seems to want the world to revolve about them.

brightspot -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/11/2006 10:24:52 PM)
I have been partnered with a Domina before I joined here and yes I felt my profile was important to be here. I still was open to interaction from others and also when on the boards I wanted people to be able to look and get a glimpse of to whom they were speaking. Damn girl, it is nobodies business why you have a profile up anyway! *Brightspot

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/11/2006 10:47:42 PM)
Even if people are taken or not looking I like to read profiles to know if they[re even gonnainterest me on a social basis, the tone of a profile, and the interests and what I gather from the profile helps me to decide if I'd even be interested in them socially let alone getting to be friends quote: I can think of a few recent incidences where I have taken a person/post seriously or simply tossed out their opinion based on whether

Real0ne -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/12/2006 7:13:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold I am one who enjoys seeing the profiles of regular posters on this side. I like learning just a little more like age, orientation, where someone lives, and even what some of their extra-curricular activities might be. And, as mentioned, being able to see how a person presents him/herself in profile is a good way to answer some of the most common questions that come up on the board. Yeh reading the profiles is great tool for witch hunting on here and asking the same tired questions such as: how come you have a partner and you are seeking? How can you know so much if your profile is only 2 months old. quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold I know there are some who think it is a waste of their precious, personal time to have to even spend 3 seconds moving past the next profile that, usually, clearly states "Not Seeking" or "Owned". It makes Me laugh to think that the same person who was annoyed that you had a profile that just wasted his time took the additional time to write to you about his displeasure. It also amazes Me is that so many of them find their way to these boards so they can rant about it. Yes and there are many more who could care squat about others precious time. Now i dont know about you dusty but i have a 5meg cable line and it sometimes takes me considerably more than 3 seconds to open collarme profiles. On the bright side he only has to take the time rant once, where as compared the millions of times he wastes his 3 seconds as you would like to down play it on the other side. you forget there are a lot of people who are using dial up and it takes them 30+++ seconds to bring up a collarme profile. quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold Well, let's see...at last count: No Pro Dommes, no tribute seekers, no submissives who are already owned, no Doms or Dominas who are already in a relationship, and definitely no one at all who is not sitting at their computer day and night ready, willing and eager to engage in instant chat or immediately answer *all* emails regardless of whether you just spent your precious 3 seconds opening a mail that says nothing but "hi" or "u r hot!" Sadly watches the collarme membership dwindling away to nothing Where did anyone say NO PRO DOMMES? It seems to me male subs just wanted them separated from the mainstream dommes who are seeking relationships only. whats wrong with that? seems as reasonable to me as a lesbian domme who does not want to see male subs. so whats the problem here? i do not see the difference between a tribute seeker and a pro domme. whats the difference? again what i think the complaints are about really boils down to the way the site is structured. this site is considered a place to meet people. no problesm with pro dommes. They put in search controls for sub, trans, dom, but not pro or not seeking. i was given the reason "well pro dommes are part of bdsm too". yeh ok so shove em up our butts then and make filters for everything else. unfortunately there are many crimes in bdsm as well so i guess that should be included too using that reasoning. and you forgot my post about mail controls: since no one has gone back to refute my last bout of litigation regarding the cm sanction of certain preferences being hidden from others and labeled private its looking pretty sorry for the defendants right now. people have a whole lists of preferences saying what they are looking for like the preffered sex male or female sub or dom, maybe couples etc, and then when it comes to listing age and sex they do not want well hey now thats private! What a crock. With these kinds of attitudes you really expect people not to bitch huh? not everyone has cable, and because you are fortunate to have it i think you are being unfair to those who do not by jumping on the no filter bandwagon.

Real0ne -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/12/2006 7:24:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross If I were at a club should I wear a sign that says "available" or "not available"? Actually I've been to some parties where people did that and it was kinda nifty. But it certainly shouldn't be EXPECTED nor should someone whine about it. Everyone seems to want the world to revolve about them. well when they see the world is revolving around a certain group and discover their concerns have been left out can you expect any less? just because you happen to be in the group that it revolves around i suppose that makes every else wrong in your eyes.

Real0ne -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/12/2006 7:51:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood Frankly, I think if someone takes the time to search, read your profile, and find that you're not what he or she is looking for, that they should be thankful that it was that simple. yes you are EXACTLY RIGHT! i would as well as many others would be extremely thankful IF we could do that. IF we had that luxury. The fact of the matter is we cant. The second fact of the matter is that if it is complained about by a sub male the dommes come back with "you know dommes are reading your posts and you are reducing the number of dommes that will be interested in you" OMG i surely dont want to do that i guess i will quickly shut up and run away with my tail between my legs, ki-yike ki-yike ki-yike, and if you are a dom male and you complain gawd help you as the fem subs come on and say "that is so un dom and so un masculine" to come on here and WHINE!!!! regardless if it is legitimate!!! dom men are supposed to be big and dumb max machismo and close his eyes to the ignorance around him so some little gurl can manipulate him not to say his piece. ah huh we know the drill. We sub males are forced to look at "pros", and most of the dom males are forced to look at all the "not seeking" and males in general since males typically initiate contact while females sit back and whine about all the mail they get wind up writing letters to people with hidden preferences that hit the garbage cans and are NEVER even seen!!!! Certain people do not have these problems but i as a sub male and ALL the other sub males and ALL the dom males do not have that luxury of searching for the profiles we WANT to see and yes we would be EXTREMELY THANKFUL if that were the case and we would also be EXTREMELY thankful if ALL the preferences were listed so that when we do write it does not wind up in the garbage can of no fault of our own. yes we would be EXTREMELY THANKFUL indeed IF things were that simple!!! Well said MsS!!!!

sylphgossamer -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 11:14:21 AM)
what one does with a profile post finding someone is up to the individual or couple i suppose. perhaps they don't really give it an overabundant amount of consideration as they are spending time together offline inistead of on?

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 12:30:45 PM)
quote: yes we would be EXTREMELY THANKFUL indeed IF things were that simple!!! Well said MsS!!!! Of course, you completely ignored what I actually said and twisted it to your own purposes, as usual, Sybil. If the information is on the profile that the person is pro/not available/not looking, then you have nothing else to complain about - they are not looking for a relationship and there's no reason you need to spend time contacting them regarding that and no reason to complain ad nauseum about them not being what you seek. Of course if they don't even have a profile, I feel I can assume the same thing - they're not what I'm looking for and I can move on. Incidentally - I'm on dial up and it only takes a few seconds for a profile to come up.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 1:04:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Real0ne quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold I am one who enjoys seeing the profiles of regular posters on this side. I like learning just a little more like age, orientation, where someone lives, and even what some of their extra-curricular activities might be. And, as mentioned, being able to see how a person presents him/herself in profile is a good way to answer some of the most common questions that come up on the board. Yeh reading the profiles is great tool for witch hunting on here and asking the same tired questions such as: how come you have a partner and you are seeking? How can you know so much if your profile is only 2 months old. You are really cranky, RealOne, aren't you? Do you have a sense of humor at all? Do you have to take everything so damn personally? As Miss S said: You really do like to twist things around. Such anger and bitterness. Goddness, I would be absolutely ill all the time if I had your attitude. Lighten up! You're going to have a heart attack if you keep this up. Ye gods!

BitaTruble -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 1:45:15 PM)
quote: We sub males are forced to look at "pros", How are you being forced? You have a mod sitting behind your computer desk with a gun to your head? What don't you make some different choices if this site's not working for you. Instead of trying to change your tools, change your environment. Get out of the house. Go to events, clubs and meet some people who don't swim in the virtual pool. Expand your network.. make a friend. I may be wrong, but I seriously doubt the mods here are going to handcuff you to your computer chair and force you to view profiles. They have too much to do already. If the mods do handcuff people.. um.. can I get in on this or does it cost extra? Celeste

RavenMuse -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 2:04:29 PM)
Still flogging the same old dead horse RO? quote: i as a sub male and ALL the other sub males and ALL the dom males do not have that luxury of searching for the profiles we WANT to see Is it time for your medication or what? I've found a number of profiles I wanted to see.... ones that contain at least enough to give me some inclination that there might be some compatability between myself and the owner of the profile, some clue that they might be the girl I am looking to place my collar on. It takes two to tango and so far those I have approached haven't been in a dancing mood. Sure I had a patch of mails not being read and currently having a patch on them being read and not replied to. Bottom line, they ain't interested, I move on, nobody said this was going to be easy and I didn't arrive here expecting it to be. I've had a few replies and a few who have contacted me also.... they haven't been what I was looking for either. But the profiles are there, for what I look for... are you perhaps seeking a one-legged hispanic midget with purple hair and a squint? If so maybe the profiles You want to see aren't there.... I can see any other reason whereby you could make the statement I quoted!

swtnsparkling -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 2:40:50 PM)
OH for christs sake- why dont you stop pissing and moaning and grow up stop whinnnnnnnnnning your worst than a two yr old. see now you finally made me mad and I didnt want to do that LOL

champagnewishes -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 4:20:15 PM)
I understood this site to be a BDSM Community...largely do to the fact that's what is predominately displayed on the banner when you log on. A community is defined as a group of people having common interests. Everyone has as much right to be here as the next person. What more is there to say? I wouldn't assume someone is available any more than i would assume someone is not. That would be presumptuous of me. I take the time to read their profile. If something is said in a profile that interests me and they are open for communication, i have been known to send an email out, regardless of relationship status. I have met some very interesting people on this site that i would not have had the opportunity to do so otherwise. So until the time this site is declared "for UNattached people only" or the time it is declared "for attached people only" i will continue to be considerate of everyone's reasons for being here whether they coincide with mine or not. IMO...if you have problems with the people in your community or how its run, you have three options; (1) Move (2) Take proactive steps to improve it or (3) Complain loudly but don't expect anyone to listen.

Real0ne -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 8:00:42 PM)
i really do not understand how something so simple is so hard for people to understand. maybe i need to learn to write but i have never seen so many off based responses to a post. Ok i have opened the main page so i can speak to it. when you are on the main home page you can set the following filters to what you wish to see: gender: orientation: they are seeking: state: country: sexuality: age range min age range max Min ht interest search on/off _ relocatable Checking this shows only people willing to relocate ----------------------------------------------------- _ photos checking this shows only those with photos ----------------------------------------------------- _ tribute checking this shows only those seeking a tribute (the pros) {otherwise no pros} ----------------------------------------------------- _ inactive checking this shows only those who are only here for forums, not actively seeking etc. {otherwise active only} ----------------------------------------------------- do this, and display the mail controls and you would have one kick azz sweet site. Again: Like i said lesbians do not want to see males, and males looking for relationships do not want to see either people who are happily collared or pros. Why make a change like this? Because unlike many sites people hang out here just to play, on forums and what not or simply just to show off that they have been collared and chat with friends. Other sites people find someone and delete thier profile or it shows up so far back in the search it does not bother anyone. Since this site is unique and different, unlike other sites it introduces new issues that for the sake of ease of use for "everyone" need to be addressed as well. if you disagree and the system works well for you GREAT. That is not justification however to dismiss this as bullshit. the amish are still using horses and oil lamps too that works for them and they happy and that is great. however this site is shared by a wide range of people including many people who think like me as well, who also prefer a motorized vehicle and light bulbs.

BitaTruble -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 9:13:07 PM)
quote: Like i said lesbians do not want to see males, And how, exactly, do you know what lesbians want to see? You make grossly inclusive and inaccurate statements which lowers your credibility with words and phrases such as ALL male subs, ALL dom males, emails which are NEVER seen, 'we' would be extremely thankful, 'forced to view profiles' and 'everyone'. How seriously do you really think you're going to be taken when you give so little thought to what you are typing? Maybe you didn't know this, but ALL Dommes delete emails from ALL male submissives who don't have profiles. There. Now you can stop your campaign. It's hopeless. You are doomed to being 'virtually' alone. Celeste

MarksFantasyGirl -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 9:51:18 PM)
Hey, I like making people's lives misserable, and harder... that Is why I got a boyfriend, and became a Mother.... I can hold the gift of life over both of them... one b/c i gave it to him, and the other, b/c I let him give it to me..... errrrr.... ummm... I mean, b/c I gave him a son... lol Anyways, I am all for staying up.... and if it makes someone else's life tougher, then that, my firends, is just a better reason if you ask me!!!

RavenMuse -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/16/2006 10:25:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Real0ne That is not justification however to dismiss this as bullshit. No the fact that you are complaining for complainings sake and about something that it takes but a moment to notice, ignore and move on to the next profile is more than enough reason. You need a hobby boy, try to get out more!

IronBear -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/17/2006 12:00:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse quote: ORIGINAL: Real0ne That is not justification however to dismiss this as bullshit. No the fact that you are complaining for complainings sake and about something that it takes but a moment to notice, ignore and move on to the next profile is more than enough reason. You need a hobby boy, try to get out more! RO has been relitively quiet here you should have seen the BS it did on the Gorean Forum untill a few of us told the child to grow up or mover back to preschool.....

Real0ne -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/17/2006 12:40:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble quote: Like i said lesbians do not want to see males, And how, exactly, do you know what lesbians want to see? Celeste and exactly how do you know that i do not? quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse quote: ORIGINAL: Real0ne That is not justification however to dismiss this as bullshit. No the fact that you are complaining for complainings sake and about something that it takes but a moment to notice, ignore and move on to the next profile is more than enough reason. You need a hobby boy, try to get out more! There you go! with your reasoning lets color everyones name the same and get rid of all the filters mix the males with females subs with doms and you can really have a snoot full of your logic!!! It would take the first 2 days and you would be on here whining!! you are in the uk and you have a small percentage compared to us. Ever type in tribute? how about pro? There are well over 1000 "domme" women on here who are pros, and many of them check their email every day and many of them check it several times a day which puts them up to the front of the search list because the search is according to when they were on last. i am supposed to remember all these women i do not want to see who are continually in my face? its about as welcome to me as it would be for a lesbian who then must view men who have red and pink names so they are forced to open each one to figure out who is who. Now lets wing thru the sub females and slave females holy begeezus a killer 10 women!!! now look for the happily collared ones for sub women. way over 1000 again. add to that everyone who is here just for chat and the numbers go yet higher. Hey if you have a computer memory good for you but there are some of us out here who are not as smart and gifted as you are and we cant remember every name we do not want to see again. The reason btw that i brought the pro and happily collared points up is because it was mentioned in other threads by other posters who were not aware that these things had to be simplified to pictures to get a clear point across to certain people here. and then of course once they see the pictures and realiaze how simple it really was then they correct spelling and grammar and tell me i am so angry! LOLOL grrrowl! schnarl!!! i do need a good secretary btw

Real0ne -> RE: Thoughts on Profiles (2/17/2006 12:54:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronBear RO has been relitively quiet here you should have seen the BS *"it"* did on the Gorean Forum untill a few of us told the child to grow up or mover back to preschool..... i dont think your friends up on gor would appreciate you embarrrassing them any more by inviting a superior *"it"* like me back for a visit ;)

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