Real0ne
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ORIGINAL: newflowers
After quite some time of beginning and establishing and maintaining a relationship, my partner and I finally reached a mutually discussed "I want only you" committed point. At first, my profile remained the same and I had a journal entry saying not looking. He deactivated his profile completely because he does not participate in fora discussions. He gave me permission to leave mine on because I do.
I finally changed my profile completely because the journal saying I am no longer looking did not stop "the hey baby come over here" messages. There are a few but as I now explicitly state I am not looking and will not respond, I don't feel badly about not responding.
I like reading a bit of information about people who post in the various fora and it's always nice to see a picture.
As this is not exclusively a dating site, profiles should stay even if you're not looking, but it would be most polite to state such in the profile at the top so others can see.
newflowers
Yeh i really disagree with people that do that. i keep pondering if there is a way to accomplish preventing it without giving the mods a new full time job.
The only thing other than what i have already suggested that pops into mind is to start a reporting function where you can open up the email and if its someone who totally disregards your profile request for privacy that you can report them however its not reasonable to expect an unpaid staff to make a full time job playing courtroom as there are thousands of people doing the hey babe thing.
It still seems to me that the optimal deterant and the best remedy is the combination of ignoring them and removing people like yourself from the mainstream search not the site. this means just hide you from the search list if you will unless someone specifically desires to seek out those not seeking.
Now there are many who have and continue to distort what i say to imply that i feel ALL messages should be answered regardless and they continue to ignore my repeatedly saying that i totally agree with ignoring "illegitimate" messages as these would be.
if it were such that they had to physically click a check box {show not seeking} to even see you in their search list it becomes pretty obvious this person went out of their way to harrass you and cm can take appropriate actions against them without a lot of court duty in the process.
Then from another angle i suspect many of these guys are just doing it to harrass people who are listed and not looking. probly ticked that they had to open another profile they would rather have not seen.
Now does that justify them them sending you a nastygram or a bsogram? of course not but it does illustrate another good reason to take you out of the mainstream search. if nothing else to haelp them avoid the temptation. and likewise with many of my suggestions they really are for the over all good rather than strictly my personal needs like a certain few love to keep pounding on even tho as you can see this would serve you well too.
i know this hide addition they just added in their beta will work perfect for me, hell it was one of the first suggestions i sent to the staff nearly a year ago LOL
personally those not seeking and all the pros will immediately go off my list as well as anyone i wrote that there was no connect as well everyone i would obviously never be interested in or they in me.
Hopefully with this someone would rather put you on the ignore profile list than go out of their way to persecute you.
there are many ways to skin a rabbit as the saying goes and i am sure i am not the only one sending in suggestions here but in the end i do hope that cm does something about that for you as well as in other suggestions i had that would just make life nicer for a lot of people including the staff.
Anyway i hope this ignore profile feature reduces that for you. It will be interesting to see if they opt for the easy way out of putting your profile on ignore if they are unhappy or if they continue to go out of their way to be pricks. Then of course there is one thing that you can do to if you have not is to list that you are nto interested above everything else in your profile.
i personally get frustrated when people put their no longer looking disclaimer at the very bottom of their profile. Moving it to the top so one can see it before even clicking on your profile i think helps.
Another thing i think would help this is to remove the instant send box. so it forces them to look at your profile. Its way to convenient to just fire off a message to some one with that feature without ever opening their profile!!!!
i would love to know in the future how effective this will be for preventing that too.
now i suppose i may as well see what my groupies have to say. reminds me of cockleburr once they attach to ya its a real pain to get them off.
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ORIGINAL: Arpig
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the cm staff has determined that my "drivel" in fact has enough value to add to their new beta version.
Lets see so far you have suggested the following:
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However that could easily be done in their search pages as a check box too.
view notseekingprofiles
view pro dommes
then on your profile add another box that says:
actively seeking no one. LOL
and on for the pros:
offering prof services box
There is neither a search function nor a check box for either of these in the beta that I can see
You have also asked that email filters be made public....they haven't been made public on the beta page.
So just what part of your drivel have the CM staff deemed to be valuable enough to add to the features to be tested out? None of what you suggested appears to be on there after all.
What the staff says has been added is the following:
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1) The ability to hide users you don’t wish to see
2) The ability to view all of your favorites, admirers, and blocked users, not just the first 20.
3) The ability to collapse the Quick Message and Search panes to free up more space on the homepage.
4) Saved Searches
Oddly enough, I do not recall you asking for any of these features, please explain how it is you claim to have suggested these updates...you may well have done so in a private message to the mods, but that is hardly what is being commented on here, now is it .
I suppose it really doesn't matter, so if it makes you feel important to pretend you have suggested these changes, go ahead, since it really isn't any skinn of my ass.
i quoted myself below so you can plainly read that i said i SUBMITTED my suggestions to them thru SUPPORT. Without a real lot of brain processing power its pretty easy to conclude that i was NOT talking about this forum. what part of that is to difficult for you to understand ar?
reminds of a little brother of mine that would pick a fight with me and no matter how much i beat the dim wit up he just kept coming back for more till he was crying to mommy. of course i dont think he ever really fully realized what he was doing since it continued well into adulthood.
maybe you just need bigger text ar.
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ORIGINAL: Real0ne
Though you fail to recognize the value in my "drivel" it seems the cm staff has determined that my "drivel" in fact has enough value to add to their new beta version. ]
it was a suggestion that i submitted to cm support months ago.
Maybe its you and certain others who "dont understand", that thought ever cross your minds?
i wont take any more of your precious time here so you can all get back to your own well thought out drivel.
generic(your)
have a nice life
rgds,
r1
take a break and have a couple beers, beat the slave a while.
nuff said i am done with this one
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ORIGINAL: michaelGA
i totally agree with you Arpig. someOne seem to think he's all that and a box of twinkies, but...in the end...it was the MODs that made the choices and none of what he suggested were among those changes in the Beta version.
it seems to me that it's pretty much unanomous that nobody wants those changes, especially the breach of our email anonymity. that's why they have those two sections in the profile...the profile itself where people are free to list who they will respond to or not and a little thing called "A Journal"
go figure, huh?
yeh you agree with anyone that disagrees with me. glad to see you care.
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