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RE: BDSM and work life/choices - 6/13/2009 11:58:14 AM

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I was hoping for more personal experiences,

Sometimes when I sit in a meeting on a Friday afternoon and allow my mind to wander to what I will be doing later in the evening and/or over the weekend, I get aroused by the disparity of my professional and private self. I wouldn’t say one impacts the other but, damn, it makes me hawt!

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RE: BDSM and work life/choices - 6/13/2009 12:14:27 PM

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IronBear,
I read a lot of "you" statements in your post. What about you? your personal life and work life? It is fine and dandy to post about everyone else, but that's not what I am wondering about.

still curious
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ORIGINAL: IronBear

Simplistically, there are two types of occupation choices. Jobs which you have to consider because there are no alternatives if you want to work and eat, and there are jobs/careers that you chose because either you have been trained for, experienced in or because you love that type of occupation. My way of thinking and prioritising says that you have to have a suitable income to be able to eat, provide a home of some sort and have clothes then you need to be able to afford the fun things you really want to do. It is just silly to allow your pleasures and fun things interfere or take over your life to a point where family (if there is one) and work suffers. If for example, you enjoy high risk sports like climbing high peaks, you should have some form of insurance to cover you in case of accidents and climb within your own capabilities and use every safety precaution etc. With activities like medieval Combat (SCA and metal Weapons groups) the attitude is usually you want to kill (defeat) your foe but not damage him or her because they need to return to work to support their hobby. The same line of thought need to be applied to BDSM activities. If you think comming to work with visable welts may either cost you your jopb or have someone start an official investigation under the belief you are being abused, common sense should tell you to cover up or not have such marks on visable places.

Personality wise, if you are a sub/slave yiou can divert your natural submisiveness into being the best employee your boss has, if you aren't the boss. Of course you can switch it off and become a figure of authority yourself whilst at work. I know of a number of both officers and NCOs in the Military who at work you'd be hard pressed to know they were at home a natural sub/slave. One lass I do know is a CEO of a corporation and when she gets home she enjoys becoming the slave of her Gorean Master.

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RE: BDSM and work life/choices - 6/13/2009 12:56:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: allisonludwig

IronBear,
I read a lot of "you" statements in your post. What about you? your personal life and work life? It is fine and dandy to post about everyone else, but that's not what I am wondering about.

still curious
Allison

That is too easy Allison, I am head if my home which is a Victorian era household. This permeates most of my life at home and out in the world. Good manners etc as one may expect. During my work life I have always been a leader of one degree or another, Army Officer, CO of a Merc Company/Body Guard Team until I retired. Have a small Counselling/Therapy Practice and duties as a Pagan Priest. In each case my natural dominance has been used along with learned leadership skills. I can say that except a two year stint, I have never considered anything I have been employed as, as a job (JOB = What you do for money and wouldn't do it unless someone paid you) as I'd go back and do it all again for nothing had I hade the finances. Even in Lodge I was trained and groomed to become like my Father and his Father, a Lodge Master and higher again like my forfathers. My choices once I became part of the loose fitting umbrella of BDSM as in M/s has just been an extension of my normal life especially at home as my lifestyle is not dependent on BDSM nor even slave ownership. If the latter happens that is good and natural and if the former, that is simply my entertainment and hobby.

Nothing special or extraordinary there I'm afraid.. For many I'm probably just another boring old fart which is also good for I value my privacy in my personal life.

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