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yourMissTress -> HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 1:29:02 PM)



I picked up on something today, so I have to ask...

Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others? Does it matter to you what opinions others form? Are there some people that matter and others that don't?

When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice? How do you form opinions of others?



bear372217355 -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 1:53:57 PM)

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Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others? Does it matter to you what opinions others form? Are there some people that matter and others that don't?


Yes and no. I care how I appear to people, but if I am not to their liking, then there is not much that I can do about that. To quote my Grandmother," If you don't like my gate, then don't swing on it!" People with more knowledge then I, are people I tend to try and impress, but once again, I have a smartassed attitude that does tend to upset the more educated amung us.

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When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice? How do you form opinions of others?


First and foremost, I notice if they have boobs or not. If they have boobs I seem to pay closer attention to what they have to say or offer, before referring them to mi'Lady.
If they don't have boobs, I do my bobble head doll routine with a big smile on my face before pretending mi'Lady has just called me.

Just kidding, I tend to anylize whether or not they are a Domme when dealing with women, I watch stature, mannerisms and how they carry themselves.
With men, I look at there boots. A lot can be learnt from what type of boots a man wears, then I notice the hands. There is a lot of info in a mans mittens too. Being in the trade industry, I tend to gravitate towards the working class as apposed to suits(not ment as a diss).

Female or male, once I have sized them up, I ask questions, and wait to see what develops. I give everyone a fair shake, reguardless of what my first impression is. Sometimes people just come off as assheads because they put on a front to hide the real them and require more then one meeting to fully appreciate who they truly are.



IrishMist -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 1:59:46 PM)

Hmm a very good question Miss Tress [:)]

I know how I come across on the boards, and while I also know that it is not the most..umm, flattering? picture that I paint of myself...it's also my way. I have been this way for many years...very outspoken, very quick to speak before I think [8D], downright rude sometimes, and others...well...I do have a nice side too [:o] I just don't show it very often.



IronBear -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 2:01:03 PM)

Irrespective of the circumstances and where I am as well as which lifestyle I am at the time, I am always me. People are informed that I am an incorrigible, irrepressible, and oft irreverent grizzly. They can expect me to be honest and deal honorably with them until they screw the pooch.

Now dependent on the circumstances and lifestyle, I can be represented as one with a lifetime of experience and a good knowledge (as in the area of Pagana), professional training and academic qualifications (as when dealing with other mental health professionals) or where I stand within the BDSM/Gorean Lifestyles. For the rest it is simply personal interaction and how well I click with others I am mixing with. I’ll usually dress appropriately and have a preference to seek seating in quiet corners and watch people. (It may surprise people to find that this ‘Ol Grizzly has a very large shy side to him and by habit tends to be somewhat of a loaner. The life of the party? Yeah right… not my role.

Forming judgments of others for me is instinctive. I couldn’t describe it in detail I less than 50 pages (WEG). I follow gut feeling and do tend to apply a variety of tests on people subtlety.



RavenMuse -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 2:08:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

Hmm a very good question Miss Tress [:)]

I know how I come across on the boards, and while I also know that it is not the most..umm, flattering? picture that I paint of myself...it's also my way. I have been this way for many years...very outspoken, very quick to speak before I think [8D], downright rude sometimes, and others...well...I do have a nice side too [:o] I just don't show it very often.


Flashes of it show through more than enough for people to spot it.... if they bother to look closer[;)]



delectablepink -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 2:09:24 PM)

Very nice, Bear.

delectablepink



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 2:12:18 PM)

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Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others?
Yes, to a high degree, so I try for positive, but mostly I try for honest and direct so that I'm not misunderstood (sometimes fail miserably in that endeavor, when mind is racing and I'm trying to get the words out to say exactly what I need to).
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Does it matter to you what opinions others form? Are there some people that matter and others that don't?
Yes it matters sometimes... Some people matter more than others. I like and connect with some people, and don't connect/sometimes dislike others, but that is life, and it is more important that I can effectively communicate with people whom I care for and respect, whether I agree or disagree with them.
Someone once told me that of all the people in the world one meets, 30% will like you, 30% won't care either way, and 30% will hate you... I didn't ask where he got those stats, but I find it comforting, and accept it for me and well as from others.
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When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice? How do you form opinions of others?
First thing I notice is basic appearance... I think there is far too much reasonably priced clothing in the world to show up in something that looks like you picked it up out of the trash can. I like what I call a dignified look; hard to explain though I know it when I see it... Okay Definitely no sneakers, unless you're wearing prescription sneakers for some foot problem. Clean/neat appearance is important to me. I don't say it on profile because I assume that is true for everyone, but I have met one or two people who clearly didn't care.

I notice if he walks in front of me, if he removes his hat indoors, if he holds the door for me, and I notice if he is basically kind and patient with people (waiters, etc). I notice mean spirited comments about people in his life or around us, and ill treatment of waiters, etc...
Damn, long list, but I value kindness/humaneness above almost everything, so if someone is unkind to others, I expect it will eventually come around to me, so if I notice he is unkind and very impatient, I usually shut down. M



RavenMuse -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 2:16:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress



I picked up on something today, so I have to ask...

Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others? Does it matter to you what opinions others form? Are there some people that matter and others that don't?

When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice? How do you form opinions of others?


It is another yes and no here.

I don't like people to get too much of the wrong impression, so in that sense I care.
If they haven't got the wrong impression and still don't like what they see, then I couldn't care less.

I maybe not to some folks taste, fine it is a big world. Those I call friends have known me for many years and they don't just like what they see, they value it.

It is a little diffrent on a site like this, when dealing with a single issue, or a single email, a profile on its own. People can seem rather one-dimentional. You can rarely get a compleat picture of someone from what they post on the net. Take them out of context and you can find they are quite diffrent.

I general I don't give it much thought unless I see someone has got the wrong impression, then I'll usualy try at least once to clarify. But otherwise, for good or ill, I'm just me.



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 2:22:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress
Are there some people that matter and others that don't?


Theodore Geisel said it best:

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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.


Taggard



PlayfulOne -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 2:49:07 PM)

To some extent we all care what others think, but I am just me. I am honest, straight forward, sincere, and I tend to speak my mind which is more than some people can handle. In others I look at how they treat the people around them (and animals), I listen (my little one often shakes her head at me over how much I remember) and when someone contradicts themself the flags go up



truesub4u -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 4:10:59 PM)

I've been out on my own sense I was 13 years of age. I've been through hell and back in my life. All throught this time.. I've been through the caring... not caring.. back to the caring.. what people thought of me.

I'm going to be 40 this year... and now I'm at the point finally... in my own mind... that I am me.. like me or not... my life with go forth. I do care how I dress... how I look.. to me... do I care how I look and dress to others?.... only to my Master....

I was raised to be respectful... and with manners... I think I still have great manners... and I respect all I run across.. on line and off... untill they prove they don't deserve my respect. But I still think my favorite.... is showing my nice side... my manners... and giving a little respect.. to the ones that prefer to just belittle me.. try to goat me.... try to make me feel like shit... I like to smile at them.. and thank them... LOL



BitaTruble -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 4:35:00 PM)


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Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others?


Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I'm a Pisces and have a major duality thing going on. Sadistic slave, Domme servant, Queen Bitch Mother Theresa, Teacher Class clown, bisexual, nice and nasty. Basically, I try to warn people that they shouldn't ask questions they don't want the answers to. Most things I see are in shades of gray, but some are hard core black and white. When it's B&W for me, no amount of logic or reason is going to change my mind even if it's judgemental, irrational, right, wrong or indifferent. I figure if they don't take my screenname seriously online, then they deserve what they get. ;) For those who know me real time, I'm the salt of the Earth, a raving lunatic bitch and everything in between. That's pretty accurate and it applies, to varying degrees, to most of the people I've met as well.

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Does it matter to you what opinions others form?


Not a whole hell of a lot. You don't like it, it's all good. I don't have to have everyone like me. A few enemies helps keep you on your toes. If they've formed an opinion based on a misunderstanding, I'll try to clear that up, but that's about the extent of it.

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Are there some people that matter and others that don't?


Everyone matters to someone because you can't go through life and not touch anyone at all unless you live in a cave. We don't always know the effect we've had on people, but there's been an effect somewhere at sometime and to someone, you've made a world of difference in their lives.

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When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice? How do you form opinions of others?


Their demeanor. Whether they are shy, outgoing, have a friendly smile.. things like that. As to how I form opinions.. are they consistant, do they walk their talk or are they full of shit. Being justa bitatruble, I'll push the envelope, challenge and dare. I love it when I throw down a gauntlet and it's picked up. I've met some of the coolest people that way. ;)

Celeste



UtahGoddess -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 5:00:21 PM)

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Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others?

I care that I am clean, that I think before speaking and I try not to unduly hurt anyone's feelings. But in all honesty I do this for myself. How I present myself to others is a reflection of how I feel about myself.

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Does it matter to you what opinions others form?

Other people's opinions are their to have. I have no control over them and they are, frankly, none of my business.

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Are there some people that matter and others that don't?

I care about the people in my inner circle (my slave, my family, my boss and close friends). People outside that circle have very little (if any) impact on my self esteem or environment.

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When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice? How do you form opinions of others?

Do they laugh and smile? Are they comfortable with who they are, or are they trying to be what they think others want? I get along best with those individuals who have a strong sense of self, like who they are, and are not afraid to laugh at themselves, the world and even me.

Ms Sandi




UtahGoddess -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 5:02:03 PM)

LOL

How did I do that?!!

Ms Sandi



GoddessDustyGold -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 6:53:02 PM)

I am who I am. Sometimes I am testy, most of the time I am even tempered. I am dignified, classy and have a great sense of humor. I do pay attention to the people around Me, and I am much like M in many ways. When I am out, I notice how my date treats Me, i.e., if he is intelligent, honest, has good grooming and treats Me with respect. If it is a lifestyle connection, I pay attention to the same things, but watch for even more things, like whether or not he can be resepectful and hold a decent conversation without groveling and waiting for Me to take the lead in everything.
The only time I regret presenting Myself in a poor manner is when (and it does happen,like today!) I am having a particulary bad day and someone who doesn't know Me very well gets a wrong impression as to who I really am 99% of the time. I am sure we have all had our moments when we want to kick ourselves for something we said or some way we acted. People who are important to Me and in My life already know this about Me, as I know the same about them, and there is always room for tolerance and forgiveness.

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Someone once told me that of all the people in the world one meets, 30% will like you, 30% won't care either way, and 30% will hate you...


Now, M, I am dying to know about the other 10%. Where do do they fit the equation? *WEG*



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 7:05:00 PM)

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Someone once told me that of all the people in the world one meets, 30% will like you, 30% won't care either way, and 30% will hate you...

Now, M, I am dying to know about the other 10%. Where do do they fit the equation? *WEG*
LMAO, I was driving this evening and just knew someone was going to notice I only included 90% of the people.... The rest are in jail or mental institutions and we won't meet? [&:] M



GoddessDustyGold -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 7:20:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

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Someone once told me that of all the people in the world one meets, 30% will like you, 30% won't care either way, and 30% will hate you...

Now, M, I am dying to know about the other 10%. Where do do they fit the equation? *WEG*
LMAO, I was driving this evening and just knew someone was going to notice I only included 90% of the people.... The rest are in jail or mental institutions and we won't meet? [&:] M



Aren't you just so glad it was Me?
Okay! Now I can rest easy. Math is not My forte, and I was really bothered about that 10%. LOL



brightspot -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 7:27:15 PM)

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Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others? Does it matter to you what opinions others form? Are there some people that matter and others that don't?

Sometimes.
Sometimes.
Sometimes.

When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice? How do you form opinions of others?


I notice their Teeth, their Eyes and their Energy.
I try not to form opinions of others because I know that everyday they are evolving so opinions are mute in the long run.
If I do form an opinion is it usually if someone is blantantly obnoxious or their "Energy" feels funky and then trust becomes a quick issue.

*Brightspot



KittenWithaTwist -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 7:48:13 PM)

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Do you care about how you are presenting yourself to others?


Yes.

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Does it matter to you what opinions others form?


Yes.

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Are there some people that matter and others that don't?


Sure. I'm more likely to care about the opinions of educated people, my family, my co-workers, and my friends, than, say, a bum on the street.

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When you meet someone for the first time, what do you notice?


Looks. Personality. Level of intelligence. Style of dress. Opinions about the world.

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How do you form opinions of others?


I mostly form opinions by level of intelligence, but other things come into play as well.



dincubus -> RE: HOW do you re/present yourself? (2/11/2006 8:01:49 PM)

there is no simple answer for this one. I do often care how i present myself to others. I have a basic desire inside to put the best face forward, especially in a professional light. Now if my sub and I were out for the night, listening to a friend's band play.. as long as I am having fun, I could care less how I come off. But my default "setting is mostly laid back and fun loving.

hmmm. For the most part it does not matter to me what others think, unless I have to deal with them in an almost daily instance. For instance, where I work, I deal with the public. So I have to put on a good front. it just depends

Of course there are some people that it matters more to me than others. it all depends on who they are, under what circumstances I have to deal with them under and where we happen to be.

When I meet others for the first time, if they are women, I mostly notice the woman's eyes or personality. and I base my opinion on the person on how they act when I interact with them that first period of time I spend with them.
If the person is male, then it is more based on the person's sense of humor, their habits and how they act



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