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RE: The Gentleman Dom W/Feelings - 8/1/2006 6:36:43 AM

original_sin

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Frankly, I think there is nothing more powerful than showing/admitting your feelings. So anyone who says that Dom/mes cannot be affectionate/chivalrous/kind etc .. they need to remove their head from their buttocks. Yes, whilst some do not subscribe to the need to show those feelings or their relationship precludes it .. I do not think the ones that do desire to do it, should be made to feel less because of it.

At the end of the day, I am a human being, and want to be treated as such. *and female human beings LOVE flowers and presents and hugs and dinners out and massages* .. *smiles and nods*

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RE: The Gentleman Dom W/Feelings - 8/1/2006 10:06:56 AM

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I have always found that it is a worthy goal to be a "gentleman" . It refers to how one presents to others regarding being mannerly, polite, and historically is simply a sign of "good breeding". I will always open a door for a lady, and most definately for My slave. There is nothing un-gentlemanly about how one swings His whip, nor inflicts torture.
When W/we are out I always address, and treat My slave as a lady. I always order for the two of us.And there is nothing that prevents a lady from being a fine and perverse slut! We both happen to prefer some decorum in O/our lives. I find it most enjoyable to be in a fine resturant and following a first course having My slave go under the table , while the wait staff silently enjoys as well.
While some may desire/need constant objectifcation or degredation, I find it no more difficuly to add a simple "please" before ordering "kneel ", or "present" or even a "fuck your self for My pleasure".
It is simply a matter of how one wishes to be percieved by others, and has never detracted from Our power exchange in the slightest.And I will add it seems to be appreciated by most other Masters and slaves in the room.
But different strokes for different folks!

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RE: The Gentleman Dom W/Feelings - 8/1/2006 11:23:18 AM

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"show off" mmmmmmmm do you think that they are not showing off. That they are just being who they are. A person holds the door for another... are they showing off... no they are just being who they are.

I find it troublesome that we equate specific behaviors with the term "Gentleman". I don't view "Gentleman" to be specific behaviors... but a state of mind. Gentleman.. is a man who is considerate and aware of the needs of those around them. A mother with her young ones come to the door as I leave. I hold it open to make it easier for her. Change that to a young woman... am I being a gentleman.. or maybe I am just taking the time to look at nice looking ass. Gentleman is about Motivations of the persons acts! Are doing it to impress and show off... or are you doing to because it is apart of your nature. I don't recall ever pulling the chair for my girls... if I did... I would have to say I was showing off. However, I do believe that if my girls was in a bit of pain etc.. mmm (ok recall doing that after a scene) I would pull the chair out so they could sit easier. Am I a gentleman... I don't label it as such. I am just being me. My motivation is to care for my girl. My girl starts eating after I have started.... are we showing off... no we are just being who we are... what others precieve is of no importance. In fact... I would say the Gentleman does it not for another... but for themself. They like being kind and considerate. When they see a need they like helping... it makes them feel good. However, if your doing it to impress.. be it holding the door for a lady or having your sub hold the door for you... your just showing off. personally... I look for an indication of the motivations... the show offs are easy to spot. Their behaviors are not so natural...and they often look for who is watching.

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RE: The Gentleman Dom W/Feelings - 8/1/2006 11:26:03 AM

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A gentleman behaves as he does, out of gratifying his desire to please himself.

Nothing more is needed.

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RE: The Gentleman Dom W/Feelings - 8/1/2006 11:43:15 AM

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As I stated on another thread, "Being a Gentleman *never* goes out of style."

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RE: The Gentleman Dom W/Feelings - 8/1/2006 12:55:30 PM

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To coin a Forrest Gump phrase, Gentleman is and Gentleman does.

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RE: The Gentleman Dom W/Feelings - 8/2/2006 7:17:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo
I get compliments on how polite Fox is all the time -- generally the person giving compliment means more than the fact that he opens doors and carries packages but also that he's say "ma'am" or "sir" to someone he doesn't know plus other things.
I have to laugh cause I never trained him this way; his parents did.
But I can and have trained other submissives to behave the same way regardless of if they are male or female.

I learned manners back in the Middle Ages because I considered a well mannered and polite society to be one that provided a higher quality of life. I will use "Sir or Maam" to those I do not know, but who have done me some service or consideration. When out with one of my girls, I open every door that makes practical sense I will seat them, order for them, and expect them to act with the same dignity and class that I show them in public. I do this as a symbol for them and a reminder for me, of my respect and appreciation of their surrender to me.
I seldom have my manners mistaken for submission or a sign of weakness. When that does happen, I will offer gentle correction with a small sledge hammer or backpack nuke, depending on how much the cretin felt they could get away with.
Good manners and a big stick, make for pleasant social interaction.
Manners are not a sign of submission or acknowledgement of rank.

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