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RumpusParable -> RE: On Male/Female Ratios (6/16/2009 5:02:57 PM)
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In my personal experience: We females just don't need to go to special places as much to find what we want. Finding a male or female to let me spank them is pretty darn easy. Finding someone to let me cut them up is harder, but still not *that* hard.
Many men, though certainly not all, have a madonna/whore complex... they think that everyday girl-next-door girls must not being into BDSM and that they *have* to go somewhere special or find this mystical rare woman who will do these things (when they know several and just broke up with one they assumed was too vanilla). Look around here and you'll see it sometimes more than once a day. They just can't ask their wife, girlfriend, buddy, hot coworker, etc to do these things, they're assumed to not be "that" sort of girl.
There is also the do-me factor (or let me do-you factor) of many men in the scene. They're looking for a fetish object, so they're going "shopping" at what they think is the fetish object store (sites like this, clubs, etc). Not interested in the personhood of the female, they are hunting purely kink fulfillment. This is there sometimes but seemingly much, much rarer in females so not as many come "shopping".
Then you've social biased and gender role teachings over-all -including some females being afraid to look/come into such a place despite their interest due to the predator fear in it.
And, the male types described above go a ways at keeping the female numbers down, too... online it's not so bad because you can block and delete messages somewhat from the creeps, but creeps in real life are harder to get rid of.
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