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Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling to you? - 6/18/2009 3:24:30 AM   
Goddess2002


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Status: offline 		As a woman who is currently struggling (yet embracing...strange tug of war) emerging feelings submissiveness with my Dom partner, I am wondering for males, what is it about domination that is most fullfilling to you...particularly over the long term?
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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 3:48:07 AM   
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Outside the lifestyles, combining dominance and leadership, being able to take a greater control of my surroundings to a point where even professionals such as lawyers and medical practitioners cease to talk down to me and treat me as at least an equal when discussing professional matters in which they are tasked on my behalf. Not quite having attained the level of "My will be done", but at least achieving the essential results I desire.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 4:50:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		From his pov, no arguments. He's had relationships that were constant power struggles and he's just grown tired of it. His decisions are better because he thinks them out and thinks ahead. So why argue and then have the other person grudgingly accept that he was right all along when their choices don't work?

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 5:13:50 AM   
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From his pov, no arguments. He's had relationships that were constant power struggles and he's just grown tired of it. His decisions are better because he thinks them out and thinks ahead. So why argue and then have the other person grudgingly accept that he was right all along when their choices don't work?


On a short term basis,Celeste's post is spot on for me.  On a long term basis, seeing my woman grow and knowing that I had a hand in that.


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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 5:27:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Goddess2002

As a woman who is currently struggling (yet embracing...strange tug of war) emerging feelings submissiveness with my Dom partner, I am wondering for males, what is it about domination that is most fullfilling to you...particularly over the long term?


Domination or 'being dominant' does not fulfill me. Utilizing my dominant personality in a relationship does. Having said that; what fulfills me the most is watching my property bloom and gain confidence under my guidance and within service to me.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 5:32:40 AM   
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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 6:45:15 AM   
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what is it about domination that is most fullfilling to you...particularly over the long term?


The domination. Definitely.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 7:48:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me, there are two levels to this.

At the pragmatic level, there is the joy and harmony in our house. Our love affair is running better under a "managed" model than it ever did when it was marriage by committee. In and of itself, that'd be worth the price of admission. Also at the pragmatic level there is the incredibly flattering fact that my wife apparently thinks I am trustworthy and respectable enough to place her entire self into my hands -- and she backs that up with concrete action. Then there are the various individual benefits to each of us. We are healthier than we used to be, etc.

On the very much not at all pragmatic level, I like owning a female slave. "Like" really doesn't cover it. It's more like scratching a deep seated and long-time itch that you didn't even know you had. This, I'm pretty sure ties directly to "club her over the head and drag her back to my cave" type stuff. There's nothing reasonable or pragmatic about it.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 11:05:12 AM   
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followed closely by all the small changes I make adding up to make life better for both of us

and the whole not having to argue about what happens, that rocks too :P

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 11:11:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Goddess2002
As a woman who is currently struggling (yet embracing...strange tug of war) emerging feelings submissiveness with my Dom partner, I am wondering for males, what is it about domination that is most fullfilling to you...particularly over the long term?

Well, of course, you probably won't be surprised to hear that men like naked women submitting to them...

But long term, just as others have indicated--pride in watching a girl grow, both in her accomplishments and as a person, but also as she becomes gradually more and more comfortable in her safe place within dominance. Here she can finally let go and be the girl she is naturally, with fewer and fewer of those struggles you mention, embracing life with joy and vigor instead.

Serve well.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 1:10:39 PM   
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AND

Instead of seing myself as a rather ordinary man, reflected in her eyes is this amazing man who has captured her heart, mind, and soul. 

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 2:25:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		My goodness...all these thoughtful answers either make me crave a cigarette or a paddling, I don't know which...lol.

Probably the paddling, since I don't even smoke ;P

Seriously, though...having released my own slave last year, I've always been aware of what made me tick...but now that I'm exploring previously unchartered submissive territory I've been curious as to what motivates or fullfills a Dominant Male. A friend and I were discussing this recently, and the friend insisted that men tend to dominate out of insecurity (i.e.,...I control her so she doesnt't judge or leave me). I disagree with this...of course there are going to be a few here and there, but generally the responses in this thread confirmed what I hoped.


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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 2:30:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Goddess2002
. A friend and I were discussing this recently, and the friend insisted that men tend to dominate out of insecurity (i.e.,...I control her so she doesnt't judge or leave me).



In that case, wouldn't locking her up in the basement work better?

I love teaching, I love helping people better themselves, I always have. Honestly I think that plays a lot into it. I am Dominant either way, cant help that but I choose to Dominate my love because I love her, and want to help her become the best she can be, at everything. Nothing anyone can do will stop others from judging you, and short of kidnapping anyone can choose to leave no matter what, my goal is to make it so that Julianna never wants to leave, by being the absolute best Master I can be.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 2:36:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Goddess2002

My goodness...all these thoughtful answers either make me crave a cigarette or a paddling, I don't know which...lol.

Probably the paddling, since I don't even smoke ;P

Seriously, though...having released my own slave last year, I've always been aware of what made me tick...but now that I'm exploring previously unchartered submissive territory I've been curious as to what motivates or fullfills a Dominant Male. A friend and I were discussing this recently, and the friend insisted that men tend to dominate out of insecurity (i.e.,...I control her so she doesnt't judge or leave me). I disagree with this...of course there are going to be a few here and there, but generally the responses in this thread confirmed what I hoped.



I would say I am Dominate from a position of confidence as opposed to the suggestion of fear of being left by anyone or fear of anyone's judgment. I am certain there are those who do so out of weakness or fear....then it isn't Dominance nothing more than common bluster and BS.....



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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 2:43:54 PM   
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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 3:49:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Goddess2002

As a woman who is currently struggling (yet embracing...strange tug of war) emerging feelings submissiveness with my Dom partner, I am wondering for males, what is it about domination that is most fullfilling to you...particularly over the long term?



Harmony and enjoyment. I'm not that bothered about watching someone 'grow'; I tend to seek out partners who are fully fledged women and don't need a hand from me to succeed in life. Nor do I need my character validating by anyone. It works better for me where I make the big decisions and there's no challenge to this position. Throw in a spot of fun and I'm more than happy with that.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/18/2009 6:14:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

From his pov, no arguments. He's had relationships that were constant power struggles and he's just grown tired of it. His decisions are better because he thinks them out and thinks ahead. So why argue and then have the other person grudgingly accept that he was right all along when their choices don't work?


On a short term basis,Celeste's post is spot on for me.  On a long term basis, seeing my woman grow and knowing that I had a hand in that.



True, he loves the fact that I was in a poor place when we met and he has improved my self esteem vastly. But he's equally protective of anyone he loves, and does his best for all of them.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/19/2009 10:21:31 AM   
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... A friend and I were discussing this recently, and the friend insisted that men tend to dominate out of insecurity (i.e.,...I control her so she doesnt't judge or leave me). ...

That's an interesting idea - but why would your friend feel that this applies to dominant males only - why not dominant females as well?

Just curious.


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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/19/2009 12:57:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would think the "not leaving me" idea is pretty far from the truth. I strongly agree that the "lizard" part of the brain is deeply satisfied owning a woman. The emotional response to looking at a woman, even more so if she's wearing things you've given her, and being able to think, "MINE!" is not something which I can adequately express.

Likewise, something in me is deeply at peace if I'm planting crops, or watching a herd. I really enjoy seeding by hand, but that's not very effective, but just as seeing land, or your herd, improve and do well as a result of your husbandry, I believe Doms feel the same about their subs. I certainly did about mine. I think men are meant to take care of land, and animals, and their loved ones, and to go out, and build and create new things. Likewise, I think women are meant to be nurturing, and supportive of the family, and have babies, and act as social glue which helps fuse the family.

Now, I prefer women that are fond of being tied up, good at bjs, and willing to dress primarily in skirts and traditional heels 3~4" high, but I don't think those are an inherent part of being a woman.

I realize the female Doms may feel differently -- I neither understand female Doms, nor submissive males -- perhaps when I said "men" and "women" above, I meant "Dom" and "sub," but I can honestly only say that I view women as possible subs. I've met a disturbing number of beta males, and cartoons/Napoleans/etc which are hollow males, pretending to be men, but I don't understand those either. Nor can I understand the "corporate-warrior" females who go on about wanting a family, and then insist on trying to force their relationships into concordance w. their politics.

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RE: Masters, what about domination is most fullfilling ... - 6/19/2009 1:19:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeptha

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ORIGINAL: Goddess2002

... A friend and I were discussing this recently, and the friend insisted that men tend to dominate out of insecurity (i.e.,...I control her so she doesnt't judge or leave me). ...

That's an interesting idea - but why would your friend feel that this applies to dominant males only - why not dominant females as well?

Just curious.



I aksed the same question...her theory is that while men dominate out of insecurity, women dominate out of anger. Of course, this topic could go so deep one could do a dissertation on it...

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