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Just a quick question - 6/19/2009 6:46:33 AM

Dunhamart

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For about a year and half now I've been having this obsession of getting with another dominant female and "battling" her for dominance in the bedroom. Also about a year and half ago I was taken out of the ring for a damaged knee and my shoulder would keep dislocating. does any one thing that maybe I'm not getting some strange primitive combat need fulfilled. Or is it just weird that I want add aggressive wrestling to my sex life?

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/19/2009 6:51:37 AM

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It sounds more like you have a fetish for wrestling. You dont need to get with a dominant woman for that, and many of us wouldnt really be interested in it anyway. But, it sounds like you enjoy "earning" your dominance, so find someone else with the same kink and have at it. Just keep in mind you might not always win. If you need to always win that fight, then you might prefer a sub girl who will put up a struggle but will let you win every time.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/19/2009 7:02:47 AM

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This isn't about dominance. You just like primal play. You do have a limited pool of possible partners though since the chance of injury is so high. Anything from minor stuff like a black eye from an elbow to a broken arm. Lots of us aren't willing to risk that.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/19/2009 8:19:37 AM

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Fighting is fun!!!!

Of course, I think most things are fun.

One thing to consider: if you re-tear something, and go to the ER, it will be not-fun for you. However, it will be even more not-fun for her. I hurt someone, and she forgave me for it within a day or to, but it was over a year before I forgave myself. So don't overestimate how healthy you are, because you're not the only one who will pay the price if you are being overconfident.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/19/2009 8:57:15 PM

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well the way i see it and i don't know if any one else sees it this way but here i go
i am an experienced martial artist I've taken both BJJ and Seven star mantis as well as a little muay thai
first and foremost i would never ever hit some one i took to bed maybe slap them if that's what they are into but never ball up a fist and slug
i was more so looking for some one to wrestle with probably some one though who can issue a challenge and put them self in a dominant position over me and then i can work my way out of that through my experience in martial arts i have a very good idea of when i am taking some one to where they might be injured i by no means say i am an expert but i do have that experience. i guess it would just probably matter though how much that partner would trust me.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/19/2009 10:37:32 PM

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All old jocks face this -- even old racehorses -- a woman's not going to hold up, nor is an inexperienced man, in all likelihood. Is it actually sexual, or do you just want to get bloody again? Essentially, are you horny, or do you crave what you felt during a bout?

For me, my bloodlust comes and goes -- it doesn't show up too often these days, but I do still occasionally get very self-destructive. If what you're describing is bloodlust, then I strongly suggest you don't get it mixed up w. your Dom tendencies.

At one time in my life, I thought the best thing was the look of fear in an opponent's eyes, as they went to glass. I remember being being overjoyed, and fully understanding the power of that word, at the thought of my own destruction.

IMO, that's far too dangerous a feeling to play with, and is a side of men that women are not meant to see. It is an emotional state which is a weapon, meant to be used against those who would hurt those we love. It can be developed, and honed through training and competition, but it remains something to make us psychopaths when those we love need us to become psychopaths.

If you just recently had to stop, it'll take time -- coaching can be good, but you have to remember to go easy on your "kids" and watching a contest might be too difficult.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/20/2009 8:22:24 AM

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Could you be fulfilled by a sparring session with a martial arts-trained woman? I remember when I took Tang Soo Do, I found fighting people to be very enjoyable when nobody got hurt.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/20/2009 10:37:47 AM

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well i'm a member of sca and i still fight all the time i just don't get the wrestling aspect of it just can't really do the wrestling part cause doc says that my rotator cuff could go if i got another arm bar (fucking bullshit doctors what do they know. it feels fine and its not even on my dominant arm any way) holy hell i did just sound like a fucking jock.
Actually I'm really not the jock type I'm really uber nerdy I'm trying to be come an comic book artist and shit but thats beside the point.
Dark Steven yes i think the whole sparing session idea would be great i just can't find any like minded girls in my area thats why i'm jumping out to the internets with surpizingly no avail.
PS i love your signature can i steal it if i use it as quote from you.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/20/2009 6:57:41 PM

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Your in the SCA your a stick jock..

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/20/2009 7:15:28 PM

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Being in the SCA does not make you a stick jock. Being a SCA fighter doesn't even do it. To be a stick jock fighting has to be the be all and end all of your SCA existance. You dance serve or whatever if you are pushed into it not because you like to. I know the pleasure of seeing fear in an opponants eyes, I got that playing tournament chess, not from the twenty years I spent in SCA fighting.
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RE: Just a quick question - 6/20/2009 8:28:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dunhamart

For about a year and half now I've been having this obsession of getting with another dominant female and "battling" her for dominance in the bedroom. Also about a year and half ago I was taken out of the ring for a damaged knee and my shoulder would keep dislocating. does any one thing that maybe I'm not getting some strange primitive combat need fulfilled. Or is it just weird that I want add aggressive wrestling to my sex life?

Of course, you have to be prepared for the worst.... what if she kicks your ass? Puts you in a sleeper hold, and starts bellowing like Hulk Hogan?

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/20/2009 10:35:46 PM

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oh my god LOL
yes i am prepared for that when i did do amateur mma i did lose like three out of 5 of my fights so i'm pretty used to taping out

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/21/2009 6:36:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dunhamart

well the way i see it and i don't know if any one else sees it this way but here i go
i am an experienced martial artist I've taken both BJJ and Seven star mantis as well as a little muay thai
first and foremost i would never ever hit some one i took to bed maybe slap them if that's what they are into but never ball up a fist and slug
i was more so looking for some one to wrestle with probably some one though who can issue a challenge and put them self in a dominant position over me and then i can work my way out of that through my experience in martial arts i have a very good idea of when i am taking some one to where they might be injured i by no means say i am an expert but i do have that experience. i guess it would just probably matter though how much that partner would trust me.

Well, if you're into MMA, why not some simple, straight-up grappling sans the impacts of kicks and punches. It'll get the adrenaline flowing and let you have a bit of that primal release yet minimize impacts and potentials for damage. Aren't there any females you may be willing to approach in your classes or in the events that you've attended?
I've recently started taking jiu jitsu/MMA classes and I love the primal nature of grappling. :>
Davan

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/27/2009 12:03:59 AM

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Where do I buy tickets. This shit sounds better than UFC. I bet it is a hell of a lot cheaper too.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/27/2009 5:15:11 AM

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What's wrong with a good old fashion bar room brawl prey tell? The only cost is the fine you may have to pay Oh and your own medicle treatment if needed. Lots of good Anglo-Saxon Four letter Words and heaps of healthy Primal Rage and Primitive Mating Rites after.

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RE: Just a quick question - 6/27/2009 3:02:08 PM

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Master and i both train in muay thai and grappling. we even met in grappling class (hot!) so i know exactly what your talking about. i suppose im one of the lucky ones, cuz nothing is better than trying to keep him in the mount and choke the hell out of him. even though he ALWAYS wins somehow . . . .

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