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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/21/2009 9:02:07 PM

HeavansKeeper

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What is it about submissive/bottoming males that doesn't connect in the brain to allow them to understand that this really isn't a big deal? Why can't they seem to realize that the fact they are willing to bend over only lumps them in with a hundred others, willing to do the same? Do they really think this makes them special in some way? Are we supposed to be impressed somehow?

Lady Pact, perhaps I can offer insight into the horny mind of the adult male homo sapien sapien. You see, my people come from a long line of NEVER buying/purchasing/bartering/trading/exchanging/negotiating with sex as a currency. Not even a discount on bagels... Zilch.

To us, the concept of using sex (something we enjoy) to get other services/goods provided for us (another thing we enjoy) is a double whammy of awesome. Do you know how great I'd feel if a pretty ladyclerk said to me "That's... $21.76... $5.00 if you go down on me." I'd have to petition the government for a new zipcode to store my ego.

It's a sexy fantasy... I've no doubt you've seen ample boytoys come out swinging with their fantasies and such. Forgive them, for they mean no harm. To these men, sex is a service, and offering a service is a viable means of introduction.

I am no different. I think it's a sexy fantasy. I own My Pet, body included. To be crude but efficient, she sucks what I tell her to suck. I still make her offer blowjobs in exchange for goods and services from me. She struggles with the concept, because in her eyes "He already owns me... He can already have that at the drop of a word... What weight does it carry to give someone something they already have...?" And she's 100% right. But it still sounds sexy.

Forgive my people... The idea that our favorite sport... our time honored tradition... our national pastime is just a passing fancy to you is hard to swallow.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/21/2009 9:05:02 PM

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I'm surprised how few pick up that they'd get so much farther if they offered to tune the car and mow the lawn or fix the toilet. There's a lot of butts that can be spanked, but how many subs offer to re-roof the house or build a table? Also, don't they realize that with so many people acting like sacks of mashed potatoes, eager to submit to anyone who is willing to put up with them, that they'd stand out and be appealing to have their own principals, opinions and a strong will? If your looking for a dominant to take you, shouldn't you be offering them something to take, even if it means a challenge for them? Really, what's the fun in playing a game that's easy to win?

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/21/2009 9:10:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: Tinkerer

I'm surprised how few pick up that they'd get so much farther if they offered to tune the car and mow the lawn or fix the toilet. There's a lot of butts that can be spanked, but how many subs offer to re-roof the house or build a table? Also, don't they realize that with so many people acting like sacks of mashed potatoes, eager to submit to anyone who is willing to put up with them, that they'd stand out and be appealing to have their own principals, opinions and a strong will? If your looking for a dominant to take you, shouldn't you be offering them something to take, even if it means a challenge for them? Really, what's the fun in playing a game that's easy to win?

Yes, absolutely. Someone on CM has kindly offered to me and my cat the use of his house when my move back to the UK comes through, whilst I look for a flat. That kind of help *really* separates the so-so from the fabulous. If his bum is wanting a spanking when I'm there, I dare say I'd be amenable. I want to emphasise that I might be amenable anyway, it's just that when someone helps you out, it changes your perspective. A lot.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/21/2009 11:15:43 PM

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This is especially the point. The fact that some think it is some kind of major offering to allow someone else to beat them when it isn't all that fantastic. I'd compare it to a female's opportunities to get laid. How many females do you know that couldn't go out and get some any day of the week if they were so inclined? If you don't have any fingers left on the hand you started counting them on, I'd be shocked.

Someone saying that they are willing to let Me spank them is something that I see in a similar way. A willing bottom isn't that hard to find. I tend to think that's why the majority of femdoms prefer those who offer that as well as something else. Service, submission, and a dozen other things come to mind, rather than someone who just bottoms.

Now, don't get Me wrong. Bottoms are great and without them, there wouldn't be any play at all. Still, I think they should understand the concept that, if all they want to do is bottom, many tops are going to go for more than that alone.

Edited for clarity.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 8:36:54 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

Perhaps they feel because they are big he-men that we dainty china doll ladies should be thrilled at the fact that they would allow us to spank them.

Personally I can spank mine anytime that I want, I just reach up and grab him by the hair and bend him over and whack his ass until I feel like stopping. But then again, he knows Im not a dainty china doll lady

~Lashra

It's an honest mistake, Lashra. Your photo makes you LOOK like a dainty china doll lady :)

p.s. I've always loved that photo - very classy !

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 8:40:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

Lady Pact, perhaps I can offer insight into the horny mind of the adult male homo sapien sapien. You see, my people come from a long line of NEVER buying/purchasing/bartering/trading/exchanging/negotiating with sex as a currency. Not even a discount on bagels... Zilch.

To us, the concept of using sex (something we enjoy) to get other services/goods provided for us (another thing we enjoy) is a double whammy of awesome. Do you know how great I'd feel if a pretty ladyclerk said to me "That's... $21.76... $5.00 if you go down on me." I'd have to petition the government for a new zipcode to store my ego.

It's a sexy fantasy... I've no doubt you've seen ample boytoys come out swinging with their fantasies and such. Forgive them, for they mean no harm. To these men, sex is a service, and offering a service is a viable means of introduction.

I am no different. I think it's a sexy fantasy. I own My Pet, body included. To be crude but efficient, she sucks what I tell her to suck. I still make her offer blowjobs in exchange for goods and services from me. She struggles with the concept, because in her eyes "He already owns me... He can already have that at the drop of a word... What weight does it carry to give someone something they already have...?" And she's 100% right. But it still sounds sexy.

Forgive my people... The idea that our favorite sport... our time honored tradition... our national pastime is just a passing fancy to you is hard to swallow.

LMAO- now THAT was funny !!

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 8:45:23 AM

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Honestly I think one of the big issues is the condescending use of language. How many femsubs do you think are approaching heterosexual male dominants with a line about how they will "let" him spank them? It's just an unbecoming attitude in a submissive of either sex, quite frankly. A girl who said she would "let" me spank her would get the same response as a boy who tries that line--a brush-off.

Learning how to speak politely and seductively to power is part of the secret to relating to dominants of either sex. It's probably easier for women because our society makes SOME effort to train them in submissive comportment, but yeesh, folks. A little charm goes a loooooooong way.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 9:22:54 AM

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~Fast Reply~
"Oh, but i'll let You spank me." Let You!? What's this "let You" crap!? Wwe all know about limits and so on, but saying you'll "let" a Dominant do something.....now that's extremely bad manners, innapropriate and, like ShaktiSama said, "an unbecoming attitude" if you're trying to make a good impression! That sounds like a poorly disguised "do-me" type. s-types that say that have a lot to learn.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 10:19:36 AM

GYPZYQUEEN

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Do they really think this makes them special in some way? Are we supposed to be impressed somehow?

and then there is the " I will lick you"
wow how original..never had that before..

GQ

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 4:23:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN

and then there is the " I will lick you"
wow how original..never had that before..

GQ

Maybe it was a typing error, and he meant "I will like you ? "

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 5:39:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsFlutter

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

Perhaps they feel because they are big he-men that we dainty china doll ladies should be thrilled at the fact that they would allow us to spank them.

Personally I can spank mine anytime that I want, I just reach up and grab him by the hair and bend him over and whack his ass until I feel like stopping. But then again, he knows Im not a dainty china doll lady

~Lashra

It's an honest mistake, Lashra. Your photo makes you LOOK like a dainty china doll lady :)

p.s. I've always loved that photo - very classy !

Her photo does make her look like a dainty china doll, doesn't it? Unfortunately, that image was somewhat marred for me when she posted, once, about how resting a man's testicles on a fence then whacking them with a mallet inculcates a satisfying submissiveness in him.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 5:59:18 PM

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Instead of "On your knees, bitch!" it's "Put me on my knees, bitch!"

Seriously, some bottoms are very respectful, and can be very much worthwhile, IMHO. However, the usual approaches here left a lot to be desired, when I was looking for a possible submissive or bottom partner.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 6:19:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

What is it about submissive/bottoming males that doesn't connect in the brain to allow them to understand that this really isn't a big deal? Why can't they seem to realize that the fact they are willing to bend over only lumps them in with a hundred others, willing to do the same? Do they really think this makes them special in some way? Are we supposed to be impressed somehow?

You have tits.

We (males) want (your) tits.

Unless we gain approx. 25% body weight....we can't have tits.

For the record....our tits are nowhere near as intriguing as yours.

Yours are, by definition, then therefore....much better.

(Really hope that helped).

< Message edited by LookieNoNookie -- 6/22/2009 6:22:39 PM >

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 6:21:58 PM

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(Sorry....forgot one highly important issue; show us your tits).

(Said, of course, naturally.....in the most submissive of ways).

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 6:52:05 PM

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I don't think a lot of sub males can sort out a) Goddess/Boss/ worship from b) ordinary respect for a human, Anda. To be fair, some dominants can't work out the difference either. They'll believe their own unhinged piffle about 'having Natural Power' and 'emanating those Dominant vibes'.

I'm only able to provide b) these days because the other sort of 'respect' just keeps feeling sillier and more unrealistic by the day. Paradoxically, I also know that a) will be there, even stronger, as a result of my directing it in a very focused way rather than scattering it everywhere.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 7:02:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

You have tits.

We (males) want (your) tits.

I'd be happy to give you mine, if I could. I've always wondered what it would feel like to sleep on my stomach.

< Message edited by Venatrix -- 6/22/2009 7:03:16 PM >

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 7:12:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

You have tits.

We (males) want (your) tits.

I'd be happy to give you mine, if I could. I've always wondered what it would feel like to sleep on my stomach.

We should do a study.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 7:13:44 PM

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Hmm. I've always wondered what it'd be like to mount my cycle without having to worry about 'adjusting my clothing'.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 8:53:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

You have tits.

We (males) want (your) tits.

I'd be happy to give you mine, if I could. I've always wondered what it would feel like to sleep on my stomach.

It's an overrated experience.

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RE: Oh, but I'll let you spank Me - 6/22/2009 9:42:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Maybe it was a typing error, and he meant "I will like you ? "

well I had that before but he never made coffee how I like..
Espresso beans..ground fresh....full basket for 2-3 cups of coffee...yum
xxxxxxxxxxx to you

GQ

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