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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Due to many and extensive business travels I have been away from the boards for awhile and the "old Timer" posters know my threads are normally controversial and this one is sure to be.
In looking down the subject lists I see the absence of many regulars posters and a ton of new folks so this may be even more active than I anticipate.

In the past when Cyber comes up there is always alot of negative comments re; it not real, its fake; I need to touch skin etc, etc.
It is granted that there are many, most I suspect, that simply cannot get their mind to bend around the concept; but those that can are fortunate as a fill in until realtime can happen.

For my part when I mentor new folks coming into the path, I encouage it as a means of determining personality traits, sexual proclivities and a glimpse into real time with that other side of the slash.

What sayeth you pro or con and why?

CP

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ORIGINAL: MaamJay

I agree. While undoubtedly it's not "the same" and My urge to cyber has diminished with My uptake of real flesh experiences, it was still a good way to start, a way in which I safely worked out some of My limits as both Domme and sub, by mentally exploring things in a very vivid way. I also made mistakes as a Domme which were able to be worked out, rectified and I learned from them without physically harming anyone which was a good thing!

At the moment I have a sub male who is on the other side of the country whom I have met and played with in the flesh once, will probably do so again soon when We get there, but with whom I am enjoying a bit of online play. It fills the gap, imperfectly perhaps, but better than nothing. And I recall some very deep, intimate moments in cyber where the feelings were quite overwhelming, perhaps even moreso being entirely mental without the flesh getting in the way. (You know, the aching joint that nags you and gets in the way of entirely floating off into space).

So I don't knock cyber, but I do encourage folks to move into meatlife from it eventually, don't get locked behind the computer screen and never come out.

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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I agree. While undoubtedly it's not "the same" and My urge to cyber has diminished with My uptake of real flesh experiences, it was still a good way to start, a way in which I safely worked out some of My limits as both Domme and sub, by mentally exploring things in a very vivid way. I also made mistakes as a Domme which were able to be worked out, rectified and I learned from them without physically harming anyone which was a good thing!

At the moment I have a sub male who is on the other side of the country whom I have met and played with in the flesh once, will probably do so again soon when We get there, but with whom I am enjoying a bit of online play. It fills the gap, imperfectly perhaps, but better than nothing. And I recall some very deep, intimate moments in cyber where the feelings were quite overwhelming, perhaps even moreso being entirely mental without the flesh getting in the way. (You know, the aching joint that nags you and gets in the way of entirely floating off into space).

So I don't knock cyber, but I do encourage folks to move into meatlife from it eventually, don't get locked behind the computer screen and never come out.

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

The major com for me is that it's too damn easy.  It's a life without laundry.  I can look like Brad Pitt and have a fifteen inch cock

I agree with you, CP, regarding using it as a preliminary to RL.  Just make sure that they turn off the puter and get to RL.

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The major com for me is that it's too damn easy. It's a life without laundry. I can look like Brad Pitt and have a fifteen inch cock

I agree with you, CP, regarding using it as a preliminary to RL. Just make sure that they turn off the puter and get to RL.


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

*shrugs*

People can be down on cyber if they choose. It got Carol and I to where we are now. So I'm personally pretty happy with it.

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shrugs*

People can be down on cyber if they choose. It got Carol and I to where we are now. So I'm personally pretty happy with it.

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

Due to many and extensive business travels I have been away from the boards for awhile and the "old Timer" posters know my threads are normally controversial and this one is sure to be.
In looking down the subject lists I see the absence of many regulars posters and a ton of new folks so this may be even more active than I anticipate.

In the past when Cyber comes up there is always alot of negative comments re; it not real, its fake; I need to touch skin etc, etc.
It is granted that there are many, most I suspect, that simply cannot get their mind to bend around the concept; but those that can are fortunate as a fill in until realtime can happen.

For my part when I mentor new folks coming into the path, I encouage it as a means of determining personality traits, sexual proclivities and a glimpse into real time with that other side of the slash.

What sayeth you pro or con and why?

CP

This is an old timer's question.
When the world was whites only there was a question about black and whites... now it's mixed race for the most part so the question doesn't arise.
Then there's gender... the most interesting friends i have are people and many of them are in transition. I fond it helps not to define someone by what hangs between their legs.
Then there is age... i hang well, like a pheasant. When i fall off the hook it's time to broil me but i'm still hanging in there.
There's only a difference when we make the difference the main concern.
So i'm getting to know someone in another continent at the moment. Yahoo is more convenient than an eleven hour flight. He'll taste the same no matter how i het to know him first.

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This is an old timer's question.
When the world was whites only there was a question about black and whites... now it's mixed race for the most part so the question doesn't arise.
Then there's gender... the most interesting friends i have are people and many of them are in transition. I fond it helps not to define someone by what hangs between their legs.
Then there is age... i hang well, like a pheasant. When i fall off the hook it's time to broil me but i'm still hanging in there.
There's only a difference when we make the difference the main concern.
So i'm getting to know someone in another continent at the moment. Yahoo is more convenient than an eleven hour flight. He'll taste the same no matter how i het to know him first.

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ORIGINAL: ZenDragoness

From my experience i can not cyber. Although i love to write, i require at least a phone call. I have to feel
the voice.

For the D/s part i can imagine does cyber work quite well. For the S/M part it is simply beyond me.

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From my experience i can not cyber. Although i love to write, i require at least a phone call. I have to feel
the voice.

For the D/s part i can imagine does cyber work quite well. For the S/M part it is simply beyond me.

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ORIGINAL: DavanKael

Imo, it's interactive masturbation. 

Davan