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RE: Disrespect - 6/28/2009 8:51:18 AM   
PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Submissives receive quite a bit as well.
 
Really?  I've only ever received one, advising me that my latest pic made me look like a slightly psychopathic, gay elf.  However, since I felt this to be an accurate and balanced observation, I didn't really mind.




I get lots of them, personally. I received one the other day, informing me that there is a misuse of terminology in my profile, and that obviously I'm not as smart as I like to have other people think I am. Did I change it? No. Why not? Is there a misuse of terminology in my profile? Yes. Why is it still there? Because I'm a writer, and sometimes writers like to play with the usage of words in sentences to have fun with the language.

But yes, I get snarky comments all the time. But I also get very interesting, fascinating comments as well. So, I could focus on the bad stuff and complain all the time, or I can ignore that crap and focus on the really cool stuff that comes through and be happy that I'm here. I choose the latter. Mainly because latters are good for climbing things.



As with lovingpet, littlesarbonn, I'm baffled by this.  Does this mail come from (people who present themselves as) femdoms?  Like lovingpet's profile, yours shows that you're not only intelligent and thoughtful, but quite a warm sort of person.  Maybe sarky comments come from those who think you both are soft targets.  But, I guess, the main thing is you've both just had bad luck.  I don't know.  Like I say: overall, I'm baffled. 

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RE: Disrespect - 6/28/2009 8:56:38 AM   
PeonForHer


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Aylee
OMG!!!!  You should SO be on the cover of Terry Pratchett's Lords and Ladies! 


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Venatrix
Oh, ouch.  And some people think *I'm* sadistic?


May I gently remind both of you of the "slightly psychopathic" bit of that lady's description of me?



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RE: Disrespect - 6/28/2009 9:01:41 AM   
VampiresLair


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Status: offline 		Consider those who have nothing nice to say as making your job easier weeding them out. Some people have a bad day and look for someone elses sandbox to piss in. If you actually get your feathers ruffled over it, then they get what they want. They want a reaction, it makes them feel better about themselves.  Everyone has an opinion and sometimes some people arent smart enough to keep them to themselves. If you let ever Dom, Dick and Hairy bother you then you are going to give yourself a complex. If you dont actually know someone, then their opinion doesnt mean jack to you. Unsolicited opinions are fluff in an attempt to get a reaction. With you, it worked. With others it doesnt. The people sending it dont care if you actually pay attention to what is said, just if it upsets you.

I got one the other day inquiring if my gender was a mistake and if I were actually trans since I look too butch to be female. My reply was that it was correct last I looked and I thanked him for his concern. He never wrote back, though I am sure had I given an outraged and ranting reply it would have been an interesting exchange.

Get over it, the ones who send stuff like this arent the ones you want to worry about anyway.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/28/2009 9:33:16 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

For the OP: I do think one has to develop a thick skin, unfortunately.  People will be ugly because they can be ugly, with complete impunity - that's the nature of the internet. 


Yes, exactly.  That was the point of my remark to LadyHib.  It just takes ten seconds to take your frustrations out on an innocent bystander.  Though I'm sure "innocent" is a word not often used to describe LadyHib.


Were there witnesses?  Video?  I am totally..... well... NOT GUILTY, anyway!

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RE: Disrespect - 6/28/2009 9:38:50 AM   
lovingpet


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Submissives receive quite a bit as well.
 
Really?  I've only ever received one, advising me that my latest pic made me look like a slightly psychopathic, gay elf.  However, since I felt this to be an accurate and balanced observation, I didn't really mind.




I get lots of them, personally. I received one the other day, informing me that there is a misuse of terminology in my profile, and that obviously I'm not as smart as I like to have other people think I am. Did I change it? No. Why not? Is there a misuse of terminology in my profile? Yes. Why is it still there? Because I'm a writer, and sometimes writers like to play with the usage of words in sentences to have fun with the language.

But yes, I get snarky comments all the time. But I also get very interesting, fascinating comments as well. So, I could focus on the bad stuff and complain all the time, or I can ignore that crap and focus on the really cool stuff that comes through and be happy that I'm here. I choose the latter. Mainly because latters are good for climbing things.



As with lovingpet, littlesarbonn, I'm baffled by this.  Does this mail come from (people who present themselves as) femdoms?  Like lovingpet's profile, yours shows that you're not only intelligent and thoughtful, but quite a warm sort of person.  Maybe sarky comments come from those who think you both are soft targets.  But, I guess, the main thing is you've both just had bad luck.  I don't know.  Like I say: overall, I'm baffled. 


Actually, I don't get nasty mail at all which is fine by me.  Unless, of course, you include DarkSteven's perfectly evil messages this morning, but I digress..... 

lovingpet

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RE: Disrespect - 6/28/2009 10:00:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


May I gently remind both of you of the "slightly psychopathic" bit of that lady's description of me?



Indeed Peon, how dare she say "Slightly"  

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RE: Disrespect - 6/29/2009 10:25:07 PM   
justme1980


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Status: offline 		Well I have looked at the OP's profile and I see nothing bad about it

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RE: Disrespect - 6/29/2009 10:29:46 PM   
flogger


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I do not expect ANY one to respect me. Especially on here. Seriously.
LOL this phrase makes my stay here worth it.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 12:45:44 AM   
DemonKia


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lol

Okay, this reminds me of the time some dom'ly type cmailed me to tell me he thought I look like Aileen Wournos (a serial killer in Florida) . . . . . I politely cmailed him back to enquire whether this was a turn-on for him (it wasn't clear from his one-line cmail) & he sent me a pissy, offended reply & blocked me. That was fucking funny, but not in the way he thought it was gonna be, I suspect. I refuse to give up my power by taking offense at intended insults, & that can really screw up the insulters . . . . .

I find there is a (rough) correlation between how I'm feeling about myself & whether the predators are making their attempts at me, here on CM as in other aspects of my life; in that above Aileen Wournos example I was in a very low mental space at the time, & the guy who sent the message definitely 'felt' predatory to me (I looked at his profile *shrugs*). & in criminology there is some evidence that predatory types have some abilities / skills in detecting weakness, emotional as well as physical.

&, yeah, people definitely read these message boards & reply, people other than the obvious other posters here. I've noticed some of that trying to take advantage of perceived weakness in postings here. There've been threads I've started that got me a few nasty cmails 'inspired' by what I'd revealed in my OP . . . . *shrugs & laughs* . . . . . I hosted a call-in talk-radio show for a few years & nothing online comes close to that for singeing the short hairs *snicker* . . . .

More specific to the OP & the discussion that's emerged in the thread: I kinda wonder how many ostensibly submissively-identified men feel comfortable with their desires, & how many misbehave & act out from their discomfort with their desires . ... .

Oh, & Peon, you know I think you look like an impish gamine way more than that other . . . . .

< Message edited by DemonKia -- 6/30/2009 12:46:37 AM >

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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 4:03:14 AM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		Oh, & Peon, you know I think you look like an impish gamine way more than that other . . . . .
 
What are you tripping on, Kia?  That's a surreal observation!  What sort of gamine, anyway?  A pheasant, or a partridge, maybe?



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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 4:51:05 AM   
DemonKia


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Status: offline 		lol, Peon, the street urchin kind . . . .

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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 6:18:29 AM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: DemonKia

Oh, & Peon, you know I think you look like an impish gamine way more than that other . . . . .


You just had to say this, didn't you?  Now he'll be doing his Audrey Hepburn impersonation, and we'll be treated to endless renditions of "I Could Have Danced All Night."

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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 6:35:22 AM   
blondagebabe


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Status: offline 		I attempt to treat all people I encounter with a basic level of courtesy.....here, at a restaurant, when I'm out on my daily walk. I don't do that out of respect for them, but out of respect for ME. It's my standard, and I am well aware not everyone adheres to it.

I agree that for the most part, you get the respect you give. I am however, intrigued by the OP's  implication that dominants *deserve* more respect than submissives.



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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 6:48:12 AM   
DemonKia


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Status: offline 		Well, especially if that's how you riff off it; holy fuckin' hell, that's funny . .. . *snorting & bellowing laughter* . . . .

The question then is, do ya think he can dance with Astaire, backwards & in heels? Ya know, since he's nearly as pretty as Ginger & Audrey & that French ballerina . . . . . . *snicker & smirk*

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

You just had to say this, didn't you?  Now he'll be doing his Audrey Hepburn impersonation, and we'll be treated to endless renditions of "I Could Have Danced All Night."


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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 8:06:15 AM   
SthrnCom4t


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Status: offline 		StoneFox - Actually, if that happens to me, I find it helpful. I can put them on IGNORE/BLOCK right from the start. If I'm feeling particularly generous with my time, I write them a one-liner back telling them I appreciate their introduction.

Life is too short to be annoyed by the stupidity of other people. If that were the case, most of the time, I'd not have any time for other things.

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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 10:03:18 AM   
Ambyant


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Status: offline 		I've received only a couple of nasty initial messages in the few years I've been a member here.
Blocked without even looking at their profiles.
However, is it also disrespect for an initial message -  one liner offering (with I suppose, the greatest eagerness) any kind of off the wall , overly tmi  activitiy they are fetishy about?
      These would be not listed anywhere in My profile, and indeed, some specifically Declined in My interests or activities listed in My profile. 
I've blinked in surprise and deleted/blocked.  oh, and I thought starting a FUNNY thread with just the one liner, no names.
  Do you think that would be alright?    ala 'texts from last night'?
Because if you can't laugh at it.. it's still lurking somewhere for the next person.


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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 11:14:33 AM   
Lashra


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Seriously though...what makes people say to themselves "She can't live without my snarky, rude, or even downright vulgar opinion...which She didn't ask for but damnit, I'm gonna give it anyways!" ?!?? LMAO!!


Honestly I think they are bored. Think about it, people who act like this probably go unnoticed any other way. So they act up in a disrespectful way in order to garner some attention.

Most of the ones I get are NOT from submissives, but rather male Doms who do not acknowledge females as Dominants or are seeking to be "discreet" submissives on the side. I just delete and move on, their opinions, wants, desires are of no concern to me.

~Lashra


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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 12:19:26 PM   
Kyoki


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Status: offline 		Boy, I should slap some tits on myself, wear some leather, and call myself a domme. Obviously I'd be respected by everyone if I'm a domme. Right?

... Right? D:

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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 12:25:28 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: Kyoki

Boy, I should slap some tits on myself, wear some leather, and call myself a domme. Obviously I'd be respected by everyone if I'm a domme. Right?

... Right? D:



Pictures please.


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RE: Disrespect - 6/30/2009 12:25:47 PM   
LadyPact


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