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CatdeMedici -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 5:52:23 AM)

All of My potentials, I met through here---no they didn't work out, not because I met them here, but because our life situations did not mesh--some I did meet in real time, others did not make it that far. The current one "under consideration" ( ok I had to... :>)  ) I met here, though we had trouble getting schedules coordinated to "invest" --we are at that point and will be meeting when he comes to the beach this summer--things are looking... cautiously up.



everhope -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 6:27:58 AM)

we came to each others attention here on the forums over a year ago. i moved to florida this past Feb to serve the ResidentSadistSir and i am still beyond content.

btw...i moved from so cal and there are many good socials, events and dungeons to meet people in the flesh.



RumpusParable -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 7:00:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: nickinpdr

if you are in a relationship, whatever your preferred terminology, or have been in one in the past - please, illuminate me: where did you meet your partner? Was it online, or off? If offline, how did you go about finding other singles in the bdsm world?


My main partner, my spouse, I met as co-workers in the Army back in 1996.  A couple of my play partners here I've met on collarme.  Previously I had a wonderfuld domestic servant and play partner that I met here, too.  I've met various play partners and a couple other short relationships through the local scene here and in Augusta, GA.

But mostly, for the majority?  I've met partners through just normal meeting people... friend introduces us, start talking in the grocery store, dance together at a club, are taking a class together and hit it off, etc.

Frankly, I've never hit it off with anyone who wasn't into BDSM to some extent.  Hell, to be honest, I've never *known* anyone that wasn't into D/s and or BDSM to some extent... I've only known people who either were or who I don't know well enough to know one way or the other.  So, I just meet people and when it comes up I tell them my interests honestly... while we haven't always matched up, it's never been a negative and has often been a match/positive.



Mercnbeth -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 7:04:47 AM)

this slave lived 180 miles north of LA, He in Redondo Beach when we met online through a BDSM Personals site called "BDSM Personals".  no clue if they still exist.
 
there was no point in signing up at sites like match.com or eharmony, because this slave had decided already never to enter into another intimate conventionally styled relationship.
 
however, if this slave was a guy or a dominant female, she might have ventured into LA clubs/dungeons/munches alone as a way to meet folks.
 
best wishes to you!



OsideGirl -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 7:35:44 AM)

Master and I were introduced by mutual friends while at the LA social. We were friends for 2 1/2 years before we actually dated. We got to see quite a bit of each other at the socials and hanging out at the Lair.



curiousINct -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 7:48:39 AM)

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That said, every time I a profile with "DON'T FUCKING EMAIL ME, I'M COLLARED/IN A RELATIONSHIP/TAKEN/etc" it actually gives me a lot of hope. Two people (at least!) found each other. How fucking awesome is that?


lol, great attitude. We met through CM in August, in person in Sept.

good luck [:D]



CalifChick -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 8:17:58 AM)

We met thru another site.  He had been out of my area for a couple of years, and had recently moved back.  He was dropping short notes to almost everyone on that site from our town (a couple dozen at the time).  He knew most of them, but we had never managed to meet (were never at the same events).  I dropped a short note back, and didn't think much of it, adding him as a "friend".  A few weeks later when he started doing some "interesting" things to his profile (which showed up on my "friends activity" feed), I wrote him another note to tease him about it.

We talked on the phone that night for better than 2 hours, then met two days later for an hour-long coffee date that turned into 3 hours and only ended because I absolutely HAD to go to my afternoon job.

Cali




Juliannadelion -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 8:20:38 AM)

I met my Lord and Master here. We just celebrated 9months of living together and are planning on getting married in the very near future.

I've never been happier or more in love in my life and I wake up every day thankful that we met.

I wish you the best of luck.



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 8:32:45 AM)

We haven't met any of our house members online. All of them came out of activities that we (one or more of us) participated in, and only a couple of those had anything at all to do with BDSM/authority-exchange/fetish activities.

The thing is to be doing things you enjoy -- getting out and meeting people, and opening discussions about their interests and yours, and, at least for us, gradually exploring open-ness to certain things that we hold dear, like, as an example, large poly/communal households, certain fetishes, and authority-exchange/Victoriana/noble-household protocols and structures.

Of course, we're very slow about things, and probably more laid-back/patient than many folks, and some of us eschew combining romance and authority-exchange, so we may not be a "model house" for very many people seeking partners.

Dame Calla



sweetsub1957 -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 8:49:48 AM)

Sir and I met here on collarme.  I saw in my "Viewed Me" that He had peeked at my profile, so I peeked at His. Next thing I knew I got an e-mail from Him.  We started e-mailing, then talking on the phone and IMing.  Then we met in person and continued to see each other.  Now I'm wearing His collar. 
[sm=hearts.gif]



DomImus -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 8:56:28 AM)

We met on IRC about three and half years ago. I hung out on IRC for about two and half years before I met her. You have to be patient no matter what venue you employ to meet people.



IronBear -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 8:59:59 AM)

Neets and I met at a joint birthday bash for her and one of her girl friends. She thought I was taken and I thought she didn't like me. I still spent part of the evening tossing pieces of balled up pieces of paper napkins down her cleavage. We got together two days later and have been joined at the hip since, married after 6 years which was 8 years ago this coming September. I still remember her waist long fiery red hair and deep inviting cleavage.
[:D]



Lashra -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 9:12:47 AM)

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Was it online, or off? If offline, how did you go about finding other singles in the bdsm world?


I met him playing an online game called Star Wars Galaxies, he at the time was a Master but separated from his slave/wife. He soon realized he was on the wrong side of the whip and crossed over onto the submissive side. We've been going strong for 6 years now.

You can meet people most anywhere and it usually happens when you aren't looking.

~Lashra



variation30 -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 9:30:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: nickinpdr

I'm new to both collarme and the bdsm community in general. I'm looking to meet a nice girl who just happens to be a sub, who's kinks mostly mirror my own and yeesh, the odds are a bit staggering, aren't they? I mean, *normal* dating is hard enough let alone dating with an additional criteria eliminating a larger percentage of the population. :)

That said, every time I a profile with "DON'T FUCKING EMAIL ME, I'M COLLARED/IN A RELATIONSHIP/TAKEN/etc" it actually gives me a lot of hope. Two people (at least!) found each other. How fucking awesome is that? Instead of being like a lot of people (I'm assuming) I'd rather learn from you than get ticked off about it - if you are in a relationship, whatever your preferred terminology, or have been in one in the past - please, illuminate me: where did you meet your partner? Was it online, or off? If offline, how did you go about finding other singles in the bdsm world?

Oh, I live in Los Angeles, so any info specific to LA would be amazing.

Good luck to all the others out there looking, thanks in advance to any with advice.
-nick


a facebook group.

the stories of how grandpa met grandma are going to get a lot simpler for the coming generations.



maia09 -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 9:33:07 AM)

We actually met on Craigslist personals - Ha - go figure. 



dreamerdreaming -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 10:29:05 AM)

Online. But I wasn't looking. When you are truly happy with being single, that's when someone comes along...
                     Because confidence, genuine happiness, and a positive attitude are extremely attractive traits.

So, enjoy being single! Then it won't last long.



DesFIP -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 10:56:29 AM)

On bondage.com back when free users could email. He got lucky in that I was still in my answering every email no matter how inane. Today I would pass up a profile as empty as his. He sent me a one liner, I looked over his profile, had a question and sent him a two liner. Within three days we were sending multiple page long emails several times a day.

He talked me through figuring out how to add AIM to my computer and we started chatting, then phone numbers, and met about a month in. That was seven years ago.



Rhembein -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 11:16:11 AM)

We met here on CM.

Good luck to you! :)



MistressSunny -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 12:37:57 PM)

I met my Dom on a dating site. I was in a kinda sad/weird/dangerous situation.

I was living with a Dom who was not the best man? in the world. He had control of EVERYTHING. I had no chance of leaving even though I was miserable. He had control of my money, and I had no way of getting away. With UM's involved ( not his ) it was complicated. Well he decided that this particular night he wanted a 3some, sent me on a local dating site to find someone for a quickie and I got chatting to a guy. After a few hours of chatting my then Dom told me ot go and pick this guy up from his place ( as he didnt drive ) and bring him home fo some fun. So I did. OMG...The second I saw him I was head over heels. Before he even got in the car I was in love. Before i even spoke to him. He had NO idea of the BDSM side of me. He thought he was just coming over to get his end in ( safe sex of course) and that was going to be that. Well we all got into bed after a few hours of talking and explaining about the BDSM, all I basically did was lay looking into my now hubby's eyes. Ex Dom was going for it but I dont really remember anything other than looking into his eyes. He called my ex Dom the next day and asked if I could be his play thing...now while this sounded crass at the time he had a plan. He was stroking ex Doms ego, and ex Dom said yes. So I was dutifully sent ot his place to see him and he met me at the door with fowers and told me he did not want sex or anything else with me, that he just wanted ot talk. Which we did.... for HOURS... He could see I was unhappy and scared, and had decided to help me. He gave me access to his flat, phone and internet to organise somewhere for my UM's to go until I got organised, a new house and a job, then he helped me move and we have been together ever since. All in all it took 3 days from meeting my wonderful man to him having me moved out. Not only is he my Knight in shininy armour he is my best friend, lover and a wonderful Master and now I can add father to my 3rd UM.



Born2BMasochist -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 12:57:34 PM)

My husband works with him and introduced us as friends. We started going out to lunch together and He introduced me to everything and made me realize that i have been like this for years and it was a missing piece of my life.



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