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gentlemanprince -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 1:43:28 PM)
Fourteen months ago, I met my lady in a CM chatroom. Neither of us was looking, but to me she stood out from the other Dommes in the room like a searchlight compared to a candle. After a rocky start - she thought I was pushy - we started chatting virtually every day, sometimes for hours. We met in real life three months later.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 3:16:45 PM)
Almost 4 years ago (it'll be 4 in July), I posted a message on Paddles' yahoo group message board. MasterK responded and we got to chatting. We met a couple of weeks later on a trip to New York I had already planned, and hit it off. I moved here about 18 months ago, and have been wearing his collar since January 30th of this year.

VampiresLair -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 3:27:21 PM)
Fox and I met on here in October of 2007. I emailed him the very first day he joined, just to say hello. We chatting on here, and moved to IMs the same day. The very next day we were both bored and decided to meet and go out to the park to entertain ourselves. He has been mine since, and I collared him later that same week. Funny part is, neither of us were looking for anyone when we met. We are getting married October 18th of this year, and there will be a good number of CM people in attendance there. DV

SummerWind -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 4:09:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 He's gotten better at quoting... What she said....

Joseff -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 4:34:48 PM)
I met debbie in a bar in Huntington WV. Closing in on 18 years ago.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 6:04:32 PM)
Met my husband through the introduction of mutual friends, when I was eighteen. It's been twenty years, and he is the other half of me, father of my sons, and ground of my life. We both worked out our dominance over time, and now we're both here. My girlfriend was dating a friend of mine when we met, and we were friends for several years before it got to romance, because she was dealing with untreated bipolar. Now that she has that under control, things are different. Nicely. (grin) I met all of the boys on Collarme, except for Beast, who is a mutual friend through another hobby. Imagine my surprise to walk into a lifestyle party and find him there, looking for a domme! Five years of friendship meant we were very easy with each other at once, and it is going very well.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 6:16:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nickinpdr I'm new to both collarme and the bdsm community in general. I'm looking to meet a nice girl who just happens to be a sub, who's kinks mostly mirror my own and yeesh, the odds are a bit staggering, aren't they? I mean, normal dating is hard enough let alone dating with an additional criteria eliminating a larger percentage of the population. :) That said, every time I a profile with "DON'T FUCKING EMAIL ME, I'M COLLARED/IN A RELATIONSHIP/TAKEN/etc" it actually gives me a lot of hope. Two people (at least!) found each other. How fucking awesome is that? Instead of being like a lot of people (I'm assuming) I'd rather learn from you than get ticked off about it - if you are in a relationship, whatever your preferred terminology, or have been in one in the past - please, illuminate me: where did you meet your partner? Was it online, or off? If offline, how did you go about finding other singles in the bdsm world? Oh, I live in Los Angeles, so any info specific to LA would be amazing. Good luck to all the others out there looking, thanks in advance to any with advice. -nick The two best relationships I have had, I met online. One was on here and one was on Match. If I am ever looking again, I will for sure go the online route. I will probably be looking on eharmony though, it's more my taste at this point in my life. There are good ppl on all sites, it's just getting past the crap to find them.

Zechriel -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 6:37:19 PM)
Good evening! Daddy and I met on alt.com Funnily enough, I was spying on a Dom that had me under consideration, trying to gfigure out what was truth and what was lies. We got started talking-as friends and he made me smile. Soon we were talking thru yahoo and finding out he was in the next town over. We have been together for 14 months now, I see him about 3x a week for chores, talks, and massages. And it is funny that we met when we did as we were both having physical problems that normal, healthy BDSM-ers would have automatically wrote us off. But we understood each other and could finish the other's sentences-amazing! I used to live in SoCal-pretty much all over. You can find some great people and gigs there. And if not, try Sandy Diego, lol. Pick up a magazine or newsletter in the downtown adult bookstores near the bases. Make connections and it will just blossom. Good luck! Love, Zechriel [sm=couple.gif].

MissJanice2 -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 6:52:23 PM)
*I met my slave/fiance on my own personal message board on MSN.* *We got together and went to a Munch, and we have been engaged for five years.* *Respectfully,* *Mistress_Jan*

vasha -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 8:55:58 PM)
offline, rl. if i haddnt have crashed my car, ild have not met Her. see, She was the safe call/backup call for the woman i was driving to the airport. the one who was so keyed up to meet her potentional new slave she made ME nervus enough to miss a signal. CRUNCH! i was seriously ratteled. bad. she was worried bout the meet, so called a friend. actually she was more worried bout the meet then bout how ratteled i was, or about my car, repairs, how ild get to work .... i guess everyone has their priorties. anyhow, my (not at that time yet) Ma'am drove to the airport... the guy was a no-show, so drove back. She helped and calmed my shattered nerves, drove me and the other woman ware we each needed to go. She helped me out a lot through that... emotionally and otherwise. the other woman, (the one I was driving) didnt offer to help at all in any way, nor didnt see again, and honestly i dont miss.

slavekal -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 9:29:36 PM)
My current Mistress I met at the first fetish party she ever attended.

girlygurl -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 9:35:58 PM)
We met on Alt nearly three years ago. I made the initial contact [:)]

Andalusite -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 9:57:53 PM)
I met my Master here on CM about 3 months ago. We met in person about a week after the initial e-mail, with a few more e-mails and a couple of phone conversations in between, dated for 2 months, and I have been his girlfriend and slave for a month now. [:D] I also met my last boyfriend/dominant online, though on a different BDSM personals site. I met my previous boyfriends through vanilla circumstances, and told them about my BDSM proclivities around the 3rd date. I didn't have anyone turn me down or freak out at me over it.

NewlySingle329 -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (6/30/2009 10:18:55 PM)
I saw his profile here on CM. I emailed him a few friendly & complimentary emails. He initially was hesitant to respond due to the 4 hour distance between us. But I kept at it with the friendly emails ... <grin> which progressed to IMs then phone calls ... (hours on the phone) ... then a meet and that's all she wrote!! We have been together since October 2008. He is awesome and we feel blessed to be so compatible! We have just the right mix of "vanilla" and kink.

LyraLaLaurie -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (7/1/2009 2:40:43 AM)
My sci-fi class at school. Yes, we're still laughing about it.

abuddingdom -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (7/1/2009 7:39:03 AM)
Funnily enough I just spoke of this in another thread acouple days ago m but I'll give a better detailed account here.. A couple years ago, brand new to the lifestyle, I put up my CM profile. Did the usual exchanging of emails, some I made 1st contact & some not. I saw my pretty one's profile one day & was struck by it - the intelligence&self awareness of the words & the beauty I saw in the pic. I emailed her&never heard back. Some time later I went to a local play party & there she was, with her master of several months. Funnily, I couldnt place her- I just knew, for certain, that I knew her from somewhere. I didnt feel right in any direct approach , as her attention & obvious mindset was on Him, but it was really bugging me trying to figure out from where I knew this woman . At one point she spilled some food on the floor & I handed her some napkins which forced eye contact & I was hoping if she recognised me from somewhere the SHE might say something but I saw no recognition as she said "thanks". At sometime during the evening it hit me who she was - she'd obviously impressed me, you know? I'd emailed her many months, maybe even as long asa year ago, & forgot about it after no reply but she was still there in the memory banks. When I went home that night I got on the machine & searched her out, though I couldnt recall her screename. I found her, & her profile satrted out with the word "Taken!"...... I wasnt able to get to parties or munches forafew months & I pretty much- but not completely- forgot about her, again. Sometime diring these few onths I deleted my profile. I explianed this in the other thread also, but essentially , over the year & a half that I'd been going to munches & parties&even playing someI was figuring out that even though I'd been topping for almost 4 decades I wasnt prepared for D/s, & D/s was calling me. I'd been in 2 relationships long ago which were very much D/s but there was no community, no reading materials, no guidance(no internet) & the D & s words never even were conciously thought & I ended up in a pretty long&unhealthy marriage which eventually imploded. I realized I had no business having a profile & no business seeking a partner until I'd figured out what my dominance consisted of(& how to seperate the sex&kink from it) so I deleted it, knowing I'd be back here one day. Afew months after THAT, I walk into a local munch one fine Spring evening & there she is again- this intriguing woman who unbekownst to me would soon be my pretty one - & the only empty chair in the room is right next to her. Found out within minutes that she was free- newly, like 2 weeks free . I told her most of the above, &, funnily, though she had no recollection of me at that party- ouch!! - she vaguely recalled my long ago email to her. I emailed her afew days later, & we exchanged several emails for a week or so & we met up one day. Went for a walk, then for coffee, then for some falalfel. Fresh off &somewhat drained from an intense M/s relationship she wasnt looking for anything(she didnt want a "D" flag stuck in her ass is how she put it to me),& she had some trust issues. But -she knew she needed to submit &she wasnt closed off to the right thing if it came along. I felt similair - I was coming off something too, nothing like what she'd experienced but it had been a long&somewhat intense & a bit draining story in its own way, & I was still trying to establish my own "D" style(but, in retrospect, how do you do that ina vacuum?) We started spending LOTS of time together, I got Dom fever & we butted heads over D/s issues, & I still havent figured out what kept her with me for those first few months but attatchment grew, & grew, & grew some more.A little less than 5 months after that munch we went 24/7 live-in, & 12 months after that munch - the one with the empty chair next to her - I put my collar on her. she obeys &serves&takes care of me &we anchor each other as best as we can, & the attatchment continues to grow. I'll tell her to reply to this thread whan she gets to it - she's at work now & today's her birthday, so she may not get to it forawhile. But comparing notes on this topic should be interesting...... Oh - is "funnily" a word, & did I spell it correctly?

ownedslavesweet -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (7/1/2009 8:12:05 AM)
Phew, first post here! Finally lost them forum V plates. I met my beloved Master on World of Warcraft, believe it or not.... We had just met in the online gamer sense, and had just heard his delicious voice. I cheekily called him Sir in a private message, in a testing semi vanilla kind of way, and the results were even better than could have ever been expected!! It was such an amazing coincidence meeting that way, nearly three years ago. I feel completely blessed every day I am privileged to serve him. lyss

leadership527 -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (7/1/2009 9:16:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nickinpdr please, illuminate me: where did you meet your partner? Was it online, or off? If offline, how did you go about finding other singles in the bdsm world? Well, I found her at a work function. We liked each other. Then we talked a lot. Then one thing led to another. It was all totally vanilla. My personal guess is that if I needed to search again, I'd be way more likely to find a compatible partner in the same way again.... the vanilla world.

gypsygrl -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (7/3/2009 9:14:38 AM)
Sir pretty much told the story of how we met and I don't have a whole lot to add. Except that we had coffee first then went for a walk then had falafal. And he gave me a purple crystal that he had in his car. We had arrangements to get together about a week or so after that walk, but he stood me up which was fine because I was pretty ambivalent about getting involved again so it didn't bother me much when he didn't answer his phone. I forget how it came about that we did get together again. Its true that I do remember his c-mail to me and I remember noticing his screen name and thinking how honest it was. I think the reason he didn't respond was that his profile was too wordy (I have a hard time sitting still long enough to read things) and I figured that he was a bit too heady for me. He comes accross that way in writing, but not in rl. Profiles create distortions because of the medium.

MasterMatty -> RE: Where did you meet your current partner? (7/3/2009 6:44:10 PM)
We meet inline for a Foo Fighters/NIN concert // Got talking for the whole concert but never exchanged numbers afterword's // But would luck/fate would have it she was able to find me on Myspace(which is weird cos I cant even find me on Myspace) and we got talking from there ended up going out Meeting people in pubs is so not the way to go anymore, random people are better found in random places, or at a friends kinky party =D -M

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