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CreativeDominant -> RE: why?? (6/30/2009 7:23:47 AM)
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ORIGINAL: triskelia
why do we obey?
I'll bite, from the dominant perspective...
From the cynical side of me...from what I have observed with several submissives with their dominants, because it gets the submissive what they want from the dominant.
From a slightly less cynical perspective....because the orders they are given are easy and/or require little in the way of actual yielding. They are something that the submissive is not that heavily invested in having control over and this can range over a wide variety of things, depending on the submissive...e.g., being told what to wear for a first or second or third date. Giving control of the orgasm over to a dominant whose main interest is play. Beito fix dinner.
From the still-a-small-amount-of-cynicism-left perspective...because it ing told s in their nature to obey, as long as the orders being given match up to the level of the dynamic established...and aren't too hard.
From the neutral perspective...some submissives are wired in such a manner that they obey almost any dominant. Other submissives are wired in such a manner that while they will not obey everyone in terms of more complex or more demanding or more intimate commands, they will obey those that do not demand a lot and appeal to the submissive's obedient aspect and exhibit her submissive nature without necessarily entangling her in relating on a more personal level to the dominant giving the command. Some submissives are just hard-wired to obey when the person doing the commanding is someone they respect. The level at which they will obey depends on the relationship with the dominant that they are interacting with...they could be a former dominant who still commands respect and a certain amount of obedience from the submissive, they could be a dominant friend whose counsel has always proved beneficial in the past, they could be the dominant who has spent time and care guiding the submissive.
From the observant, participatory dominant perspective...For some submissives, the obedience brings pleasure and satisfaction because it pleases not only their submissive nature but pleases the dominant who has given the command. For some submissives, it gives them a rush in much the same way that giving the command and having it obeyed gives the dominant a rush. For some submissives, the more restrictive the list of dominants becomes as the commands get harder, the pleasure in obeying ever-intensifying commands(in terms of level of difficulty, level of trust, etc)becomes a bigger rush because the yielding is more difficult to accomplish. Struggle begins to occur and overcoming this struggle for this specific dominant or that specific dominant or their own special dominant is a heady rush and an example of their responsibility to, and shared involvement in, whatever relationship they have with the dominant who gave the command.
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