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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 11:01:49 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		i'm still not clear on the OP's question...how do you do what exactly? are they referring to BDSM activities in a house with children, lifestyle protocol, an everyday D/s exchange, what?

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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 11:07:17 AM   
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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 11:22:10 AM   
MistressNatasia


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Status: offline 		I created a space beside my bed where it can not be seen from the door to my bedroom. I put metal braces on an opposite wall (which I have not used yet) and I can place my submissive there in any position- order them to be quiet/gag them if need be-This space can not be seen from outside my bedroom either. And of course there are sleep overs. hehehe

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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 12:21:56 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		When my daddy lived with his brother sister in law and the two kids, the kids always went to sleep with some kind of music, and if the music stopped the lil boy would wake up come find you  and announce the musics stopped will you start it again.
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ORIGINAL: lally2
other tricks are to put a story tape on when they go to bed and maybe do stuff downstairs where theres more empty space between the rooms that divide you.


Bwahah.  Except when this backfires on you when they are teens and they 'absolutely cannot go to sleep without listening to their music'.  It's great when they are 5 and its incywincyspider.  When they are 14 and it's Slipnot at full volume...
Believe me, we know from experience....
 
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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 12:27:18 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		That's how it is around here, always has been, in fact we wandered into their rooms and sat down on the bed and all hung out for a while quite regularly. But when the door was closed, then it was time to respect that they wanted to be left alone.
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I knock on the doors of the young adults that live here......and they knock on ours. It's a matter of respect and privacy, simple and basic.

If our door is open , ajar, or unlocked it's fine to wander in. In fact .... very welcome.



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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 1:52:42 PM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

i'm still not clear on the OP's question...how do you do what exactly? are they referring to BDSM activities in a house with children, lifestyle protocol, an everyday D/s exchange, what?


I wasn't either. But having written posts saying that my womb-escapers know, understand, accept, and are ambivalant toward D/s style relationships.......the only thing that won't be wiped out with a warning is what I've written already.

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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 3:24:41 PM   
Valicnkitten


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Status: offline 		it was alittle bit of everything really and i wanted to say thank Y/you to E/everyone who has given me some advice. i honestly will say i was expecting to be reprimanded alot after the first response. so thank Y/you A/all....

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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 4:07:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

i'm still not clear on the OP's question...how do you do what exactly? are they referring to BDSM activities in a house with children, lifestyle protocol, an everyday D/s exchange, what?

How do you read Gor novels and watch Star Trek videos without the kids finding out????


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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 9:50:24 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It was never difficult for me. Locked doors, playing after she was asleep. The d/s was the easiest. She saw my relationship as just a traditional old fashioned relationship...man as head of household. These days she's pretty oblivious and off in her own little la la land and could care less. Hell, I painted my walls a bright orange and a year later she looked at me and said...."when did you paint the walls?"...so yeah...most kids aren't even paying attention whatsoever.

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RE: for those with children - 7/1/2009 10:51:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChasingOblivion

Hence the reason I have none.


Me, too! Never wanted them, never had them.

ETA: This could become a problem for me in the future, though, because Josephine has a UM. Hopefully he'll be away at college by the time I move down there, though.

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RE: for those with children - 7/2/2009 2:35:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was tempted to make a similar thread to this recently...but my questions had more to do with polyamory. there comes a time when junior is around 11 or 12 when he realizes that the attractive 21 year old house keeper is there for more than doing the dishes. have any of you grown up in situations similar to this (or are raising children in a similar situation).

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RE: for those with children - 7/2/2009 2:55:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: variation30

I was tempted to make a similar thread to this recently...but my questions had more to do with polyamory. there comes a time when junior is around 11 or 12 when he realizes that the attractive 21 year old house keeper is there for more than doing the dishes. have any of you grown up in situations similar to this (or are raising children in a similar situation).

Extended family, reconstituted family, beanpole family, poly family... yes, nut it's the traditional nuclear family which is getting hard to find even around these parts.
IMO the nuclear family is soon to be resigned to the figments of sociological imagination and religious fundamentalism.


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RE: for those with children - 7/2/2009 3:06:50 PM   
DominaAmy925


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Status: offline 		Treat it the same way you do when you are having sex.....be creative ...and if you can't keep him quite just have a seat on his face, the feeling of someone screaming into you is great and no one else can hear it.
I have two beleave me I know what your saying.

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RE: for those with children - 7/3/2009 6:13:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: variation30

I was tempted to make a similar thread to this recently...but my questions had more to do with polyamory. there comes a time when junior is around 11 or 12 when he realizes that the attractive 21 year old house keeper is there for more than doing the dishes. have any of you grown up in situations similar to this (or are raising children in a similar situation).


Mine know that my pet is NOT my boyfriend.  The younger one calls him my teddy bear. *laughs*
The older one is 18 and not as clueless.  In fact, I've discussed poly with my 18 year old so he won't think its odd if he sees me with someone else.

It is difficult to get time with both of them out of the house.  Believe it or not its the older one that is ALWAYS around *sighs*  If I kept sex to the times when they weren't in the house, I'd be a nun.
We have white noise machines and window air conditioners in each room.  When the younger one goes to sleep, I ensure that BOTH are on in his room
We don't get to really 'play' that often because that IS kept for the times when both of them are not home...or when we are out.

Both of the boys know that my room is off limits unless I give them permission to open the door AND I've got a lock on it just in case.
The toys are kept in toy-boxes or hanging in places that cannot be seen just by walking into the room.

he kneels for me in greeting every day, since this has been going on for 2 years, it is quite normal in my house and nobody even blinks.

Good luck.



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RE: for those with children - 7/3/2009 6:20:40 AM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		Another solution is get a room.
(In fact it would be cheaper for me to just quit the house and live in a hotel nearhere and have the teens in their own rooms.)
Food at the end of a phone, as much bath water as any woman could use, MTV or whatever and an internet connection.
I also get expenses paid hotel rooms when I travel to lecture.
Hotel rooms are great because there is no cleaning up afterwords and I love the look on the receptionists faces when they wonder what the hell I was doing all night.
The youngsters also get freedom at home which I think is absolutely essential.


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RE: for those with children - 7/3/2009 10:36:23 AM   
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RE: for those with children - 7/3/2009 10:56:13 AM   
Whenready


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Status: offline 		All bedrooms in the house are private here. But prinsexx has the right of it. Book a room. Mind you, that's no guarantee either. I once had reception call to "make sure everything was all right....".

Alternatively, gag play, or better still...

Taxidermy....

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RE: for those with children - 7/3/2009 11:32:43 AM   
LdyWintershade


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Status: offline 		Well, I think that I went somewhere else when I first read the OP....so this may send us off on a tangent, or perhaps I should just start a new thread?  Anyway, it is the same for vanilla couples with children as well.  There are a few more concerns regarding noise level and an added complication if the children walk in on you....but other than that, use common sense and discretion and you should be able to enjoy each other....as much as anyone w/ kids can.
As for my aforementioned tangent, I think I'll go start that new thread...it's a separate topic.

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