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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 6:32:35 AM   
RealGirl4One


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Status: offline 		Peppermint.... could be some people might try to improve themselves and get answers to why their email is never responded to.

Thankfully, I am not "new" into this because if I was the downright hate and animosity evident throughout most of the replies I've read thus far would send me running for cover.

Happily, I know not everyone is represented by most of these responses thus far.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 6:33:58 AM   
RealGirl4One


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Status: offline 		JuliaGreenleaf.... thank you for a sane reply in a convoluted world. Bless you!

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 6:38:58 AM   
RealGirl4One


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quote:



They're fake, or 12 years old, or married, etc. This your first dating site? And you think it is a good idea to present yourself as short fused. Can you say sub?


No antipode, this is not my first "dating site". Geez, I didn't know thats what this was, I thought it was a means to meet alternative lifestyle folks, I guess I didn't know it was just a "dating" site.

Actually, I've been around long enough to see your mug on another "dating site".

I'd like to see you present your case for a "date" and what kind of response you get, and please, spare me the fiction.

I'm not presenting myself as someone who is "short-fused" I present myself as someone who (regardless of "position") requires someone exceptional to be allowed into my life. All the wankers, some of whom are obviously in evidence here, won't get to first base, which is as it should be.

Weeding through the chafe.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 6:39:44 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealGirl4One

Peppermint.... could be some people might try to improve themselves and get answers to why their email is never responded to.

Thankfully, I am not "new" into this because if I was the downright hate and animosity evident throughout most of the replies I've read thus far would send me running for cover.

Happily, I know not everyone is represented by most of these responses thus far.


The vast majority of those who have little or nothing in their profiles, never read a single word in the forums.  Threads that are intended to guide them and make them better people with more responses are completely worthless to those who don't read the advice. 


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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:08:38 AM   
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It is a blessing to see their honesty -- that they are empty and have nothing to share with any other person.

You are quite right in your assessment Aldompdx.... they have nothing to say if they write me with nothing then they are worthy of nothing.

Thank you for your astute reply.

< Message edited by RealGirl4One -- 7/7/2009 7:10:30 AM >

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:29:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: windchymes

quote:

ORIGINAL: RealGirl4One

Is there anyone out there who can tell me why so many males who would be potential doms write little if anything on their profiles. And in spite of the fact that they are so selfish with information why they might write me or anyone else they would like to talk to / negotiate with asking for and/or demanding more information when my profile is filled with information?

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude. I realize that not all do this but in my experience it is about 1 out of 10 who actually write something.

Anybody help me out here because it is putting me in a bad mood.




Because if they put too much information about themselves, their wives might find out.

Thank you, that is a possibility I should have considered.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:31:33 AM   
RealGirl4One


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ORIGINAL: greenearth21

OR.......as RedMagic said...they aren't looking. Just because they don't have anything on their profile doesnt necessarily mean they are fake, married or what ever...but it easily could be. It's just a profile...dont let it get to you. If you find someone of interest...chat them up and see where it goes.

I get the whole "you are a fake" or even worse simply because I have little...if I may call it that, on my profile. Just happens that I'm not actively seeking anyone...AND people look it over because they assume something...but it definetely cuts down the number of stupid emails.

Find something worth pissing you off and not because billy john and steve don't have anything in their profile. Dialogue, love

If you read my question then you would realize that they must be looking for something or they would not have written me. By writing me they state an interest in knowing more.

If it is as you say that they are not looking then they must have been consfused when they wrote me wanting to know more.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:33:53 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		My profile isnt blank, but it does state quite clearly that I am married.  I'm not looking for anything, but I occasionally will contact someone to comment on something they've posted here, or their profile/journal.

Just because someone contacts you doesnt mean they're interested in 'getting to know' you.


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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:38:44 AM   
RealGirl4One


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ORIGINAL: LadyLynx

LOL. this isn't just what Male Doms do, seen the same with male subs,Female Doms and every other combo in btween.

I personally prefer that people take the time and effort to fill out their profile..especially if it says something like "I hate filling these out, but going to anyways" because that shows their willing to put their best foot forward. That being said......I am not going to not get to know someone if they have nothing in their profile, or a pic.

I also participate regularly (or as much as I can.) in my local community events, meet people and have fun.

That is a reasonable approach that you have. I agree, if someone merely says they don't know what to say that is one thing but to suggest that they don't need to perhaps because they view themselves as a dominant person then it reveals that they would never be considered by me for anything other than blocking.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:39:54 AM   
RealGirl4One


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

My profile isnt blank, but it does state quite clearly that I am married. I'm not looking for anything, but I occasionally will contact someone to comment on something they've posted here, or their profile/journal.

Just because someone contacts you doesnt mean they're interested in 'getting to know' you.


It was indeed part of their correspondence, obviously, that they wanted to get to know me or else why did they write wanting more information.

You did not read my statement.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:42:28 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		well, if your responses to them are anything like the response you've made on this thread, I can understand them deciding against offering anymore info to you.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:42:31 AM   
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Just because someone contacts you doesnt mean they're interested in 'getting to know' you.


*takes up my conductor's baton and attempts to lead us all in the CM hymm of the day*

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRdqTo6Pvh8&feature=PlayList&p=771EEF2BA791992B&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=50

Perhaps happiness and harmony don't work well in this kind of thread...


< Message edited by lronitulstahp -- 7/7/2009 7:45:10 AM >

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:42:34 AM   
RealGirl4One


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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

quote:

ORIGINAL: RealGirl4One

Is there anyone out there who can tell me why so many males who would be potential doms write little if anything on their profiles. And in spite of the fact that they are so selfish with information why they might write me or anyone else they would like to talk to / negotiate with asking for and/or demanding more information when my profile is filled with information?

This is VERY ANNOYING not to mention rude. I realize that not all do this but in my experience it is about 1 out of 10 who actually write something.



let me see if i understand this clearly. you're allowing a virtual stranger to upset you because he requests information about you, that you're free to deny and elects not to share the same when you view his details? if you're that bothered by it you could choose to place a note on your profile to invite those that have not introduced themselves via profile to do so when they contact you. or you can opt to ignore those as some do, or simply cool your heels and ask questions instead.

in a perfect world everyone would be transparent but people have varying reasons for doing so or choosing to behave differently and they aren't always underhanded. furthermore, merely having things spelled out in your profile is no guarantee that would be suitors will abide by what they've read, assuming they read at all. i know this from personal experience.

in the end your time on collarme is what you make it. if you allow people who have little to no bearing on your real life outside of this medium to alter your mood and make you become surly who's fault is that? what's even sadder is the energy you're investing in something that completely out of your control. you cannot control what they opt to put in that white space, but you can control your response to it always. best of luck.

porcelaine

I guess I was, at least in your view, wrong to expect sensibility and reciprocity of purpose. What was I thinking?

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:43:56 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		great link, Tulip!!  LOL

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:44:28 AM   
lronitulstahp


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OP, perhaps if you really applied the power of postive thinking not only to your posts, but in your profile as well, you'd attract better quality people. Honestly, from the things you said on this thread i assumed you to be a co-ed on break from Uni. i was totally surprised to see the age in your profile.

There are jerks who call themselves Doms, yes. There are all kinds of douchebags using D/s as a means to use and mis-treat others....that's a fact.(there are predatory "submissives" too)  But i have found that complaining, whining, taking on a defeatist attitude never helps. Why let the fucktards have the upper hand? In being a positive, upbeat, unsinkable person...you win. i always tell my children "Be the hero in the story of your life."

i am sorry you felt that you've been slighted...but wipe the dust off your feet and move on. Don't play the victim....or you might become prey.
Good luck...

< Message edited by lronitulstahp -- 7/7/2009 8:13:31 AM >

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 7:44:59 AM   
RealGirl4One


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

quote:

Just because someone contacts you doesnt mean they're interested in 'getting to know' you.


*takes up my conductor's baton and attempts to lead us all in the CM hymm of the day*

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRdqTo6Pvh8&feature=PlayList&p=771EEF2BA791992B&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=50

Perhaps happiness and harmony doesn't work well in this kind of thread...



Wrong, obviously the fact that they wrote me wanting to KNOW MORE meant they wanted to get to know me or did I miss something?

Far be it from me to expect a PRESUMED master/dominant to act in a reasonable and forthright manner.

Being a slave, a submissive or a bottom does not mean that one accepts whatever vermin comes along.

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 10:29:35 AM   
Arpig


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Being a slave, a submissive or a bottom does not mean that one accepts whatever vermin comes along.

But it does!! Haven't you read chapter 7 of the manual yet?


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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 10:52:28 AM   
peppermint


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Wrong, obviously the fact that they wrote me wanting to KNOW MORE meant they wanted to get to know me or did I miss something?


The majority that write to me and want to know more are whankers.  I know that as the very first line in my profile tells them I am a collared submissive who lives 24/7 with her Dominant.  Yet, I get tons of mail from people who never bothered to read that line wanting to know more about me.  Many want to meet up on Yahoo IM so that we can chat and see where our relationship might go.  Yeah...they want the relationship to go to me posing naked on my cam and showing them what they really want to know more about, and them whanking at their computers while their wives are sleeping in bed. 

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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 5:25:16 PM   
JstAnotherSub


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Status: offline 		i read as much of your profile as i could, but i started nodding off before i was even done with your bitching about the mods here.

if you expect anyone to write as much as you have, you are in for nothing but disappointment i suspect.

the thing that amazed me was your age.  i expected you to be a youngun who just needed some time to mature and learn.  the fact that youre in your mid 50's and react to things the way you have on the forums and in your profile.....well.... id say work on you before you even try to understand others behaviors.



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RE: Profiles - 7/7/2009 8:39:57 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		Actually, I want them to contact me and just ask....is that too much to ask? And to my way of thinking I can put anything on that profile..doesn't mean it correct...But by talking to me your able to make intellenge and meanfull decisions . Sure, someone could fake even that..but once you met in real life..its hard to fake that...Huntertn

ps who stole the spell-check?

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