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RE: Dominants and feelings... we aren't made of steel a... - 7/4/2009 10:43:52 AM

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Cat your choice you can allow this to eat up inside or take an action. The action can be to work it out between you and her. The action to walk away end it now. If you perfer to allow someone eles sub to keep eatting you away from the inside then I would suggest you look at why her actions have taken such a deep toll on you personaly. It sounds like more is going on then you may realize. I hope you find a soultion that works for you. Mistress Nancy

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RE: Dominants and feelings... we aren't made of steel a... - 7/4/2009 10:46:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

hmm, I will prpbably get crucified here for being too soft--but something odd happened to Me today and it left Me feeling, well--hurt--

I have a submissive friend of Mine, we have been friends for, wow, almost 5+ years--I have mentored, supported through a bumpy journey, been a sounding board and a shoulder. Never once have I talked about, laughed at her or been less than supportive--so today she says, " you know when you told Me that xxx sub had done xxx, i snickered, i didn't tell you, of course, then i told Master and i snickered, then when i thought about it, i realized that it was pretty arrogant and not in keeping with my new self journey." So ok, well yeah she fessed up--but My feelings were hurt, what else has been laughed at or made fun of over the years? Ok we all don't have to love what our friends do, but isn't there some...loyalty?

Because I am a Dominant, am I supposed to let everything roll off My back? I wonder, as I supported this person, have I not been as supported?

No, you are not supposed to have any feelings at all. Dominants do not feel. Ever. They are machines. Machines with penises. Big ones. And they're all over fifty years old.

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RE: Dominants and feelings... we aren't made of steel a... - 7/4/2009 2:15:56 PM

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Cat - the young lady has a lazy idea of 'friendship'. It is my theory that you have a very high sense of stewardship and you expect (not unreasonably) those you choose as friends to have the same. Its startling and disappointing when it turns out they do not reciprocate in kind.

No - not EVERYthing should be shrugged off. I spent some time in the recent past cleaning toxic people out of my life because I was asking that same question wayyyyyyyy too much.

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RE: Dominants and feelings... we aren't made of steel a... - 7/4/2009 3:53:22 PM

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to me, that either shows a horrid lack of respect, or was an ackward way to applogise. no way to know really, altho your hurt feelings are totally understandable. when youre over that, ild really suggest a talk with the other about it to find out one way or another. till then... well, there's no telling really.

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RE: Dominants and feelings... we aren't made of steel a... - 7/5/2009 7:39:17 PM

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Cat, I've been in similar situations. I've come to accept the fact that some of us are far more responsible than others. It hurts me to have someone laughing at me because I try so hard to do everything just right, keep integrity, stand by people, etc. I know I screw up sometimes, and I don't mind laughing at myself when I do, but it really hurts me to find out that not only did someone else laugh at me but then had a laugh with another at my expense.

I decided since there is nothing I can do to stop it that it was most healthy for me just to deal with the fact that it happened and to realize that they were less mature than me. They needed to build themselves up in comparison. Acknowledge the hurt and then get past it. Hugs.

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