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RE: Its so sad... - 7/4/2009 1:30:04 PM

MisterP61

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I am just going to say that I have not found anyone. I am really not exactly looking hard either... My profile says it simply: "These would be just words to most. If you want to know Me, then do so by interacting with Me".

To Me I will not give up because on a website I could not find anyone. I have had play partners, so that is a non issue. I know that when the time is right it will happen...period. I also do not look too hard because I am in the military and the moving makes it hard. I am also not looking for a person to love...I have that with LadyPact. all these little things make Me less attractive to most potentials out there, so I will keep learning and perfecting skills and wait for the time to come, but I will not give up.

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/4/2009 4:43:41 PM

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My best friend signed me up here, did the original profile and everything, if she joined she wanted me to follow, while she lost interest here, I didnt, I discoved the boards, which in my opinion makes it more likely for a potential match because you get more of an idea of a person through their posts.

I was never looking in fact I was avoiding it at all costs.

Then I met BlackPhx and poenkitten when I came down for a wedding (greedy and Pirate) offered to help her out since she was doing the majority of cooking and stayed with them.......while I wasnt looking and BP had more of an ideal in his head...guess what, we clicked instantly...I am now living here as the third in a poly relationship and couldnt be happier.

BTW except for posts from poen I knew nothing else about them, I didnt even read the profile till after I got here.

To me some of the cream of the crop is right here on the boards and not on the other side. I think posting humanizes (is that a word) the person that has a profile on the other side.

I always say....stop looking and it will drop in your lap....never though it would happen to me but it did.

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/4/2009 8:37:23 PM

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I know I've been on this site for only a few months, but I was ready to give up after looking for that Someone Special for literally years. During my searching is when I discovered bdsm. Let's just say I kissed a lot of toads, had a few very short-term situations, and learned quite a few lessons along the way. Then, Sir came along, quite by accident, after I'd totally resigned myself to probably being single forever. I thought, "OMG. Wow. This can't be for real." I didn't believe it til it came right up and slapped me in the face.....there was no getting around it, it was going to happen. So, I know sometimes it seems hopeless, I thought it was, but there is always hope.

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/5/2009 5:09:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ZenDragoness

Reading such a melancholic and philosphic opening post in the morning is great CdM.

As somebody to whom the seeking is foreign i am not qualified to answer the question, because along my life path i met the most extraordinary people by pure chance.

But i have noticed that people who are seeking, often find in times of retreat or respite or after a calming period.

Like my old singing teacher used to say: Often when people due to travel or other personal reasons take a break with teaching but sing on for themselves in the meantime, coming back i notice a definite developement, often crossing a bridge we worked on for some time.

this is where im at and thank you ZD for putting it so beautifully.

i have retreated into myself a little, withdrawn from it all a little, but im still here, just paddling in the shadows and the shallows.

oddly enough during this time ive 'met' some amazing people on here that im sure i would not have interested even a year ago. we morph and change and as we do we come into closer alignment with other people.

im not sure when this silence of mine will go away, but im just going with it.

a couple of times ive thought about going vanilla, but i reject the idea almost immediately.

in the end im perfectly happy with my life right now im just not all that sure where its going, but then again who is.

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/8/2009 4:08:06 PM

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simple question : are you committed to what you're doing as lifestyle, as your life? & are you ready- really really ready for what you seek? OK- that was more than one question.... I havent read any of the replies, only the op, but will get to them later. But I'd be suprised if noone in the last 3 pages has questioned your committment.

I also said this in another recent&similair thread : I'm not big on those folksy sayings but sometimes when you're not actively looking, thats when it happens. It did to me. My door wasnt closed tight, no, but I definitely wasnt looking for a relationship at that specific time, nor was she, but thats when it happened. & I have determined that when my search wasnt being successful in the past it was because I wasnt ready. Learn about yourself so that you can see yourself& know yourself........

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/8/2009 4:12:51 PM

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ok - I'm not ina good mood.......

but- I will say that finding someone isnt the only reason to be on this site........

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/8/2009 8:13:46 PM

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Loneliness is always tragic when we see those alone and who need to be with another. Perhaps too, because some of the cravings we experience in this lifestyle can be so intense, it makes that emptiness feel even greater. There have been many a time, i have wondered, would i still be alone, if i were vanilla? I doubt it. I have often thought of hanging up my subbie cuffs for good, and heading back to seek a more mainstream relationship. But why? Just so i won't be alone? I learned a long time ago, being with the wrong person is far worse than being alone. As well i learned a long time ago, a submissive is who i am -- submission not being only what i do.

When i have been inside of a D/s relationship, i have found aspects of it which i realized for me, i simply can not compromise on, and aspects i have never experienced to the same degree inside of a more mainstream lifestyle. Two of those being respect and trust. i will hold out for my Dom...or i will perhaps eventually die as a single subbie. If that be the case, i was brought into this world, spanked -- i might just ask the attending doctor, to give me a spank going out !!

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/9/2009 10:52:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: abuddingdom

simple question : are you committed to what you're doing as lifestyle, as your life? & are you ready- really really ready for what you seek? OK- that was more than one question.... I havent read any of the replies, only the op, but will get to them later. But I'd be suprised if noone in the last 3 pages has questioned your committment.

I also said this in another recent&similair thread : I'm not big on those folksy sayings but sometimes when you're not actively looking, thats when it happens. It did to me. My door wasnt closed tight, no, but I definitely wasnt looking for a relationship at that specific time, nor was she, but thats when it happened. & I have determined that when my search wasnt being successful in the past it was because I wasnt ready. Learn about yourself so that you can see yourself& know yourself........

A quick note, the OP was not about "Me" but about others who we have seen lately give up the ghost as we say--your post is honorable, and yes one would hope that the bugler always sounds charge and someone is always carrying the banner--however--each life is different, each charge up San Juan hill fraught with its unique set of challenges, negotiations, thrusts and parrys and each ability to withstand the rigors, the disappointments, the letdowns. Your post is indeed a valid one, never ever give up on what you believe in and that is inspirational--and perhaps that is what I intended this thread to be all along--a chance to brush off the dust, to see that there is companionship, there is community, there is --can we call it--hope?

Welcome, we look forward to many more from you and your enthusiasm.

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RE: Its so sad... - 7/9/2009 2:47:21 PM

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Thanks, CatdeMedici -I was ina hurry & not only did I not read the replies(as I mentioned) but I also didnt do a good job of reading your op. I essentially shot my mouth off without checking facts & when I was ina shitty mood to boot. When I came back today & read your op again & followed the thread I checked out your profile& thought -"I was questioning HER comittment? Nice going....." . I'm suprised I didnt get , um, redirected by some of the regulars......

My pretty one's been pretty busy last few days& I dont think she's seen this, but I predict that she'll have a good laugh when she does......

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