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thetammyjo -> RE: What you "see" - Is that an accurate measurement? (2/20/2006 11:07:23 AM)

When I lived in NYC I did go to dungeons and to parties that TES threw -- they were there, easy to get to, not that expensive, and when I had a partner I felt safe. But it was a very different way to play that at home in private (not just cause of the equipment but also the atmosphere).

Here in Indiana no real clubs any more that I'd care to go to at least through I've been to a few. At conventions and events when I do go I find that people who know me through my writing or via a workshop at the event (or a previous) one ask when I'll be in the dungeons. I tend to go early and I've noticed folks show up to watch me. I'm not sure why cause I personally don't think my public play is terribly showy or amazing.

This passed GLLA I didn't go to the dungeon for two reason -- very tired after 2 workshops and working the book store and it was at another location. So I turned Fox over to the guy I work with/for at the bookstore and Fox went and got to do some topping at the dungeon.

I do find public play to be very different than private and if I'm tired I'm just not in the mood to put on a show which seems to happen when I play in public. Again, not sure why folks watch me when I play in public maybe its a "does she really do this?" sort of question.



kyraofMists -> RE: What you "see" - Is that an accurate measurement? (2/20/2006 11:17:20 AM)


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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

I watched a scene much like this recently. The sub was fighting back when she would get pissed off at something the Dom did. It was hilarious to watch at first. There was another sub next to me just going off about what kind of physical danger she would be in if she did such things to her Mistress. But then, as the scene progressed I was pulled into the dynamic between them and it was HOT. Really hot.

I do know there is at least one sub I would allow this from, and also one that I would not under any circumstances. So I guess the relationship between the Dom/me and sub has a lot to do with the nature of the play.



It is really hot. I do not always fight back and I find that if I don't I am more drained and tired afterwards. When I do fight back I am energized and ready to go for more. The intensity of play is not much different, just my reaction to the play.

kyra



Submotive -> RE: What you "see" - Is that an accurate measurement? (2/20/2006 11:26:29 AM)

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Sorry but I see the public scene and people in it like I do any social circle---just because you aren't there doesn't mean you have no redeeming value--<smiles>


Have one for me Ma'am (a martini that is). LOL - here here, i agree wholeheartedly.



Wildfleurs -> RE: What you "see" - Is that an accurate measurement? (2/20/2006 11:37:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

I understand that the advent of the play parties and munches is a rather new phenomenon. How new? Anyone know?




People getting together to play or watch others play isn't remotely new. There have certainly been leather bars with areas in the back to play since the 1960s. And there were clubs in NYC in the 1970s.

Munches have been around since the early 1990s from what I can tell. My munch was started in 1998.

So neither munches nor play parties are recent concepts.

C~



KnightofMists -> RE: What you "see" - Is that an accurate measurement? (2/20/2006 11:59:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists


.... His rule during play is that there are no rules. Last night I knocked him on his ass more than once, kicked him and took a swing at him.... This is just how he and I play; it is very primal and can be quite disconcerting to those who are not aware of it. However, this does not reflect my behavior towards him outside of play.

Knight's kyra



Slight qualification to this Rule that kyra has communicated. My Rules is specifically for the bottom.... As a Top ... I have lots of RULES! Number one Being.. HURT, But Do not Harm!

My bottoms have a very specific rule of not rules... I want them to be free responding. I want them to get to the basic instinctive reactions of fight or flight. I don't want them to think... I want them to just respond and act fluidly. I will in the course of play impose rules upon them, the more they fight the more I impose to maintain control. But I always allow a loop hole... cause I do love the fight back *G*



IronBear -> RE: What you "see" - Is that an accurate measurement? (2/20/2006 3:21:54 PM)

I can dig this sort of play. However for me it has to happen pre collering and has to be winner take all! She places her freedom on the line and I place my life on the line. Rules of engagement are, she has access to weaponhs such as clubs and knives but no firearms and I have no weapons.. I win, she is my property for life as spoils of combat (sword rights) which is recognised in many Asian countries. Ohhhhh the rules? [:-] There is God and there is me. Guess what? God just left the house and there are no rules..... I'll play this game but there will be less that 1% of potential kajirae who will qualify to start the game with me.



MissHarlet -> RE: What you "see" - Is that an accurate measurement? (2/20/2006 7:42:21 PM)

I also am a very private person ... one of my best friends ( a female dominant) often told me no one would ever know I was real as I didnt attend play parties or play casually or in public.

I however, did what was right for me. The number of times I have played in public I could count on one hand.... yet ... I am assured by many that I exude dominance lol what ever the h*LL that means.

At times I have enjoyed watching others play and have learned much from it.

Now after all this rambling I will get to the point .... I have never made an assessment of who was real and who was not based solely on watching them play.

Some are very skilled in the use of "toys" yet in my VERY private opinion are TOPS not Dominants. Yet they make their submissives happy so to me that is all that counts.

For me the mindset and conduct of individuals make them " real" to me. Not how often or well they play in public.

Watching people play in public only tells me that they need partners who also enjoy or tolerate public play. Some who enjoys that would NOT be a good match for me and vice versa.

Just my opinion and we all know what opinions are worth <wink>



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