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RE: Dom mad...now what? - 7/10/2009 11:55:39 AM

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If i pissed Master T off, i try to make Him happy again...Give him that special something or do something nice for Him...hate it when He is upset with me.

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RE: Dom mad...now what? - 7/11/2009 11:41:10 AM

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If i pissed Master T off, i try to make Him happy again...Give him that special something or do something nice for Him...hate it when He is upset with me.

I do try to make him happy again, but I'm still learning what makes him happy so I don't know all the tricks yet. So I suppose time will tell.

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RE: Dom mad...now what? - 7/14/2009 6:21:05 PM

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I used to have a Dom that would bottle up his emotions only to completely lose it over something trivial. He even lost it and hit me in anger at one point. He did not like me talking over problems with others either. - Because he knew everyone would know he was Fcked up in the head. I was always trying to please and to go along to get along. You need to ask yourself is trying to control you in an unhealthy way? Could his "moods" cross over to abuse and manipulation? Is his behavior really making you happy? Are you doing things to TRY to get a rise out of him? If he is truly angry at you and chooses to sulk about it instead of discussing it with you - he is being the child. I grew up in a household where it seemed I was walking on eggshells everyday - I do not care to repeat that with anyone in my adult life.

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RE: Dom mad...now what? - 7/15/2009 8:26:24 AM

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So I have walked the block here, but haven't been around it. Still learning and growing blah blah blah and all of that. So I'd like some advice from the more experienced. I seem to be agitating my Sir quite a bit and then I feel...guilty, sad, and angry and several other dwarves. So I'd like to know what others do when they've pissed off their Doms.

i understand your frustration. The fact is there's no manual, no formula. You can only be who you are and grow as you grow. If you have a sincere desire to be pleasing to your Dom, you'll eventually find a way to do that. If, what you want is your own wants and needs catered to, then you'll realize that too and perhaps find yourself with a Top, rather than a Dom.

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RE: Dom mad...now what? - 7/15/2009 9:00:35 AM

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So I have walked the block here, but haven't been around it. Still learning and growing blah blah blah and all of that. So I'd like some advice from the more experienced. I seem to be agitating my Sir quite a bit and then I feel...guilty, sad, and angry and several other dwarves. So I'd like to know what others do when they've pissed off their Doms.

I'm not sure why You seem to be agitating your Dom "quite a bit," but I've "pissed off" Sir once.....it was my fault, as it was early on in our relationship & we were testing limits. I felt really bad, apologized, and cried.....disapproval just kills me.....He gave me a "red ass" for it, and afterward I got hugs and it was over with. I think you kind of need to look at why you might be pissing off your Sir frequently. Maybe it's just a learning curve and you two need to talk more?

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RE: Dom mad...now what? - 7/15/2009 4:47:39 PM

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Greetings

Say you are sorry you have upset him and ask him to sit down and talk with you about what is wrong. We on the forum can not really give that much advice on this. It is between you and your Sir, and only you can fix problems in your relationships.

Good luck

I wish you well

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