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Question about sex - 7/7/2009 8:35:30 PM   
autoRelease


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Status: offline 		Now that I have your attention lol ... I'm a totally new sub and I'm trying to put more detail in my profile. I'm interested in sex as as type of punishment or humiliation. Is there a name for that?  I thought of putting down "power sex" but I don't know if that would include rape scenarios which I don't want. What is the best way to express this?


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RE: Question about sex - 7/7/2009 8:48:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		I see sex as something most would want and not as a punishment.  There may be a sex act that could serve as a punishment in that someone might not like that act, but I would worry about using it as a punishment as it could all backfire in some pretty serious ways.

I keep thinking that half (or more) of the submissive men I know would love to be punished in such a way! lol But that just isn't punishment! lol

Maybe you could explain a bit more on how you are looking at this?

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RE: Question about sex - 7/7/2009 8:56:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Are you saying that you want to engage in sex where your partner "calls all the shots"?  As in, he/she doesn't care if you get off, and does what he/she wants to do, without regard for your enjoyment?

I understand that; not a rape but more of a forced participation where you do not control what happens.

Is that what you're describing?

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RE: Question about sex - 7/7/2009 10:40:15 PM   
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RE: Question about sex - 7/7/2009 11:19:38 PM   
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RE: Question about sex - 7/7/2009 11:32:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sex for punishment? 

A sexual act that you do not like?  Would that qualify as punishment for you?



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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 9:25:09 AM   
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Fuckishment?


LOL.. i adore you stella!

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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 2:08:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: autoRelease

Now that I have your attention lol ... I'm a totally new sub and I'm trying to put more detail in my profile. I'm interested in sex as as type of punishment or humiliation. Is there a name for that?  I thought of putting down "power sex" but I don't know if that would include rape scenarios which I don't want. What is the best way to express this?



No, there isn't a code word for it.  I think the way that you explained it here is just fine.  You are excited by thoughts of submitting to sex as a form of humilliation or punishment.  I put that the way that I did because I get the impression that you haven't actually experienced it, you just like the thought of it.  If that's so, it's probably a good idea that you make that distinction to your potential partner, so that if the reality isn't as thrilling as you thought it would be, neither one of you has to be worried that you did it wrong.

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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 2:12:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stella41b

Fuckishment?

10 points.


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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 2:28:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		you mean like being assigned to 'glory hole' duty for a night at the local book store as punishment, or a more basic, rounding up a few dozen 'good men' and sitting in a kiddie pool for a Bukkake session?

Similiar to a spanking, some would see either of those as a reward.

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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 2:28:47 PM   
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Fuckishment?


LOL!!!
 
Stella, you are a woman outstanding in your field.

Now if we could just get you to come back indoors...



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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 4:35:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NewlySingle329

Are you saying that you want to engage in sex where your partner "calls all the shots"?  As in, he/she doesn't care if you get off, and does what he/she wants to do, without regard for your enjoyment?

I understand that; not a rape but more of a forced participation where you do not control what happens.

Is that what you're describing?


Yes that's it exactly.But I don't want to be an object either... there has to be some sort of personal interaction involved.


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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 4:39:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: autoRelease

Now that I have your attention lol ... I'm a totally new sub and I'm trying to put more detail in my profile. I'm interested in sex as as type of punishment or humiliation. Is there a name for that?  I thought of putting down "power sex" but I don't know if that would include rape scenarios which I don't want. What is the best way to express this?




Ejaculation.
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Once it;s done it's end game.


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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 8:21:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do know here what you are talking about, i have had the same yearnings at times.
These feelings often inside of me, come from when i have a guilty conscious, have been disciplined or punishment, but for me i don't feel it had the effect it should have; i feel i deserved more.
Then, while still having these feelings -- and it could be hours later, there has been intimacy.

In any case... perhaps when i try to explain it to others, my term for it simply is : sexual punishment. It however can also fall under the more widely known term of 'Orgasm Control", or "Chasity" these are all areas where you will find sex or forms of it are used for discipline and or punishment.

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RE: Question about sex - 7/8/2009 8:57:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like objectification myself but I don't consider it a punishment.  Being treated as a sexual object for their own pleasure.  Sex as punishment usually means you watch them give their 'attention' to another gal when you really want it.  Or ordering you to bring yourself to the point of orgasm but stop several times a day. 

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RE: Question about sex - 7/9/2009 8:40:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		ok that sounds like internet hype there were is all the creativity gone sex sex sex i tell ya lol

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RE: Question about sex - 7/9/2009 5:18:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: devilsgoat

I like objectification myself but I don't consider it a punishment.  Being treated as a sexual object for their own pleasure.  Sex as punishment usually means you watch them give their 'attention' to another gal when you really want it.  Or ordering you to bring yourself to the point of orgasm but stop several times a day. 


It is different for me because I'm trans. Since I'm not comfortable with my body sex is like a punishment. I certainly do not associate it with love at all. But thanks for explaining.

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RE: Question about sex - 7/9/2009 7:42:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx
Ejaculation.
Ask any girl.
Once it;s done it's end game.

Not in my experience, but it depends on the guy.

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RE: Question about sex - 7/9/2009 8:44:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		You mean people have SEX in bondage? I was always just Tied, Gagged or Cropped. But then again, I enjoyed every minute of it, without the SEX. Sex just might mess it all up. Is C&BT considered SEX?

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RE: Question about sex - 7/9/2009 9:07:45 PM   
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I'm interested in sex as as type of punishment


you're doing it incorrectly.


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