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overfiend -> my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:30:43 PM)
So my wife likes to be tied up a lot but she says not all the time, and it seems to be the best way to get her wet, we have some problems with that area.Even though she's turned on. What do I do?

alphamaleslil1 -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:32:15 PM)
KY?

beargonewild -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:32:54 PM)
Maybe see a doctor about that problem?

sirsholly -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:33:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beargonewild Maybe see a doctor about that problem? betcha thats one of those times she doesn't want to be tied.

DesFIP -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:34:20 PM)
Use lube. And although bondage is wonderful, sometimes I need dreamy, romantic, loving sex also. If I need lube, it doesn't mean he did anything wrong, just means I need lube.

Wantstocontrolu -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:37:40 PM)
Being tied up "ALL" the time is unrealistic and in the rhelm of fantasys. I am "assuming" that since your wife does not want this you are not in a M/s relationship and you are not the"M" Your question leaves a lot of unknowns as in how is she tied down, is it more of a control issue that gets her "wet" or is it the physical restraints.

beargonewild -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:37:47 PM)
Yes that will help if the woman isn't producing enough natural lubricant.

sirsholly -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 1:38:48 PM)
there are some medications, even the holistic type, that can cause those issues.

Aylee -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 2:01:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: overfiend So my wife likes to be tied up a lot but she says not all the time, and it seems to be the best way to get her wet, we have some problems with that area.Even though she's turned on. What do I do? Make her dinner Rub her feet Be loving BEFORE wanting to "get it on." Use lube Go down on her Snuggle Massage Talk to her Reduce stress for her

littlewonder -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 2:47:54 PM)
Women don't always want sex one way. Sometimes we like soft, gentle and romantic. Other times we may want it rough, other times we might or might not want pain involved or bondage. How about finding out what she likes other than bondage? Talk to her, try different things, experiment together, have fun and laugh together. Nothing will get a girl wetter faster than showing you care and paying attention to her.

overfiend -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 4:55:50 PM)
I do all of these things, and when I say "all the time" I mean sometimes its a no but she still wants it spontanious. She's hard to read sometimes.she likes it when I just grab her and do as I wish, and she rolplays well which as I said makes her hard to read situations could be bad and nobody wants that. And the romantic aspect is maybe not perfect but I do try different things all the time. The sex everytime still working on denial of selfgratification:)trying being the key word!

RedMagic1 -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 4:58:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Nothing will get a girl wetter faster than showing you care and paying attention to her. ... and then grabbing her by the throat and slamming her into the mattress.

sirsholly -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 5:02:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Nothing will get a girl wetter faster than showing you care and paying attention to her. ... and then grabbing her by the throat and slamming her into the mattress. Red...you are such a romantic!

LookieNoNookie -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 5:05:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: beargonewild Maybe see a doctor about that problem? betcha thats one of those times she doesn't want to be tied. I'm thinking SirsHolly may be on to something here. (It's a gut feel OP.....but I'd strongly recommend going with it).

frazzle -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 5:11:43 PM)
Silly suggestion, i know. But have you thought about asking her???

overfiend -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 6:07:12 PM)
Yea I've asked her but we know the issue for wet is a physical thing and I try to send her to the docter but she always makes an excuse.and the spontanious stuff and bond, sometimes I get it but mostly I'm not a mind reader. I think she's just shy and not used to these things yet. But trial and error cannot happen without trial. She doesn't give me straight answers when I ask , allot of I don't knows. :(

SirMIkeSD -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 6:09:39 PM)
Then you have a communication issue you need to deal with first. Start there and once you get some decent answers you can address the dryness. Mike

OsideGirl -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 6:15:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Nothing will get a girl wetter faster than showing you care and paying attention to her. ... and then grabbing her by the throat and slamming her into the mattress. Well......I just plotzed.

RedMagic1 -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 6:31:20 PM)
Well, I'm glad I could be of service, Mistress OsideGirl[;)]... but totally for real, I was trying to make a point to the OP, which I think he didn't get. It's the combination of sensuous giving-a-crap and TOTAL NEANDERTHAL YOU'RE MINE BITCH that drives (a lot of) women wild. Only a fetishist likes the same sex thing every single time. Also, overfiend, if you stress about your wife's wetness, she'll have a harder time getting wet. Just go, "We're doing this my way," lube her up, and have at her. Talk about how to do things better, before and afterward. During, dom the crap out of her.

windchymes -> RE: my wife says she doesnt want to be bound all the time, (7/8/2009 6:40:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Well, I'm glad I could be of service, Mistress OsideGirl[;)]... but totally for real, I was trying to make a point to the OP, which I think he didn't get. It's the combination of sensuous giving-a-crap and TOTAL NEANDERTHAL YOU'RE MINE BITCH that drives (a lot of) women wild. Only a fetishist likes the same sex thing every single time. Also, overfiend, if you stress about your wife's wetness, she'll have a harder time getting wet. Just go, "We're doing this my way," lube her up, and have at her. Talk about how to do things better, before and afterward. During, dom the crap out of her. Just a side note that the female has to WANT it that way.....[;)] For the OP, it's like, if you ate your favorite food every night, you'd get sick of it after awhile, no matter how much you liked it. If it feels like "oh, he's tying me up again so I can get wet", trust me, she's not going to get wet.

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