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RiceKitten -> RE: Envy (2/17/2006 6:46:24 PM)
So, in your mind, does this make him a flaming hypocrite? Also, between us, don't you think "the silent treatment" is a bit juvenile? Here's my quickline advice: You're young --- if you feel devoted to this master, play ball on his diamond for a trial period, say for one to two months to see if you can resolve your issues and be more happy. If after this you are still disastified, exercise your options. As a general rule, its best for 18 year olds to keep their options open, gain experience and self knowledge, and develop your own sense of self as priority number one. [/quote] Well the silent treatment it seems has the desired effect, He is the only one ever on my mind (not speaking of things like when I converse with someone or the like). Yes, I know I am young, but with him, when he is tender and holds me I feel so safe, and there is nothing from the outside world that can touch me, and I rather like the feeling. I dont think he is a hypocrite because he tells me he doesnt think of them that way, and often jokes about how its sad they fawn over him but will never get anywhere. I understand keeping my options open. But I have known him for over a year(not including our together time), and we have been together for around six months, and the relationship started as vanilla. Maybe I sound very guilble and niave but I trust him completely.

RiceKitten -> RE: Envy (2/17/2006 6:50:11 PM)
quote: I try to tell myself that I'm being irrational and there's nothing to worry about. However, that's not fool proof. When I fuigure out somthing better, I'll let you know. ;) Thank you. Hopefully I can convice myself. quote: In my opinion, that's silly and childish. He should be trying to talk you through things, helping you mentally and emotionally. There's many better ways he could have handled that situation. It got the desired affect. And normally he does. He is very patient with me and talks me through alot more than anyone else ever has.

brightspot -> RE: Envy (2/17/2006 9:59:15 PM)
quote: Vanilla Posts: 6 Joined: 2/17/2006 Status: offline Master and I have been together for some time, but recently our relationship is long distance. I know Master can do what he wants, and I've accepted that. But when he mentions other women ( as in them showing intrest in him, since he has not gone outside our relationship) I get extremely jealous. Do I even have a right to? (Thanks in advance and sorry if this seems like a silly question) You are 18 and you will get jealious! Yes , you have a right to! It's not a silly question. What matters is how you handle your jealously. Usually it is something that transpires when there is a lack of honest.... straightforward communication, about your feelings, wants, beliefs, and devotion. Sharing honesty and in depth and open communication is worth it's weight in gold! Start Talkin' with your Hearts! *Brightspot

cloudboy -> RE: Envy (2/18/2006 5:27:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RiceKitten Maybe I sound very guilble and niave but I trust him completely. You just sound like you're in love. Love kind of dictates its own course. Try to maintain some sense of independent self --- and make sure you set goals for how you want to develop as a person. Its good to know that you need others or in this case a significant other, but its even more important that you develop self awareness and confidence and trust in yourself. Good luck and please remember, your whole life is in front of you. O one last thing. A jazz musician once said this to me: "Isn't funny how lucky you are that those old relationships didn't work out."

ownedgirlie -> RE: Envy (2/18/2006 8:41:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy "Isn't funny how lucky you are that those old relationships didn't work out."[/size][/color] Not to veer off subject, but i LOVE this line! i have told Master it is as though my entire past was just a path that led me to him. i would go through all of it, all over again, to be where i am today.

RiceKitten -> RE: Envy (2/18/2006 11:06:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy quote: ORIGINAL: RiceKitten Maybe I sound very guilble and niave but I trust him completely. You just sound like you're in love. Love kind of dictates its own course. Try to maintain some sense of independent self --- and make sure you set goals for how you want to develop as a person. Its good to know that you need others or in this case a significant other, but its even more important that you develop self awareness and confidence and trust in yourself. Good luck and please remember, your whole life is in front of you. O one last thing. A jazz musician once said this to me: "Isn't funny how lucky you are that those old relationships didn't work out." You have no idea how much you made me smile.

taliaTW -> RE: Envy (2/18/2006 6:56:23 PM)
I'm not really sure why I am jumping in on this thread. I hope I don't regret it. I seem to be in the minority on this one. One of the most ironic things about BDSM or D/s is that despite the inordinately abundant, absolutely fantastic realm of possibilities available in a relationship, we are constantly limited by ourselves. Not sure that sentence is going to make sense to anyone but me. I am going out on a limb here, but in my opinion, no one gets 100% of what they need from one person. This is not to mean exclusively sexual needs, before anyone jumps on that bandwagon. Follow me here... If her Master "gets something he needs" by knowing that other women find him attractive, what is the harm in that? If that is his need, he is obviously not going to get that particular need from kitten. I think her Master is showing great trust in her by confiding and sharing this info with her. I think myself lucky that other females find the man who CHOSE to own ME, physically attractive. Why do we as females have to associate appreciate for another female, as a threat? Why do we allow it to hurt us, when there is no harm done? We get things we need from lots of different people in our lives. It doesn't mean that we are going to lose someone, nor does it mean we are any less for it having happened. Maybe I think differently than other people. We need to remember that the dynamics of one couples relationship doesn't dictate what other relationships should be. For any of us to say that her Master needs to be reminded of anything...may not follow the agreed upon power exchange between the two of them, and it is irresponsible to cross that line. Just my thoughts, talia tali thanks her Master for His guidance, but mostly for His collar.

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