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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/15/2009 2:13:52 AM

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Ask him how he would go about getting you ready. If he's genuine, this will make him show that he knows what he's doing and is not a "cram it in as quick as he can" type.

And if he's just a HNG (that 10" dick makes me wonder), he'll get off on telling you.

Absolutely...he needs to explain to you exactly how he plans to ready you before doing anything. There is definitely prep work (mine went on for 2 weeks!) yes....LOTS of lube, but the feelingcan be amazing if done right. His size shouldn't be much of an issue if he knows what he's doing. Trust me.

And yes, a nice glassof wine beforehand can help if that's your thing...

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/15/2009 8:25:15 AM

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I recommend starting with a soapy finger in the shower. Just the thought of deliberately taking a foreign object and trying to insert it was enough to make me start tensing up immediately. But hey, you're already in the shower, the water's warm, you're soapy, your hand is down there anyway, what the hell... You can start with one finger and then work up to more as your comfort level increases. I think using a finger helps you become more aware of your own anatomy also. Having an experienced partner that you can TRUST is paramount also.

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/15/2009 8:48:25 AM

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I a fetish that he has that I have never done personally or have had done to me ... and it scares me to death ... anal sex ...

... but I keep thinking that its going to hurt .. ing to be able to enjoy something like this .. and how? ...

I CANNOT BELIEVE SOME OF THE ADVICE THUS FAR!!!.obviously from some who have NOT HAD anything in THEIR ASS!!!....

#1 this is not a fetish..fetish is an erotic attachment to an inanimate...
object or a body part nto considered sexual..it is a preference
#2..IT IS NOT as easy as a little finger or small butt plug stuff to get ready!!!
#3 this guy has given HER NO advice or shown he knows dic about his dick or how to do this..RED FLAG!!!!!= guy who talks to gals on line to get what he wants...to ram ass and rip it

IT TAKES TIME TIME TIME...
the sphincter needs to be softened and relax...the opening needs to be prepared...yes and you NEED TO KNOW THE PERSON..
and you need arousal..so need to KNOW THE PERSON..
and you need ot control it ..yes..to push back a little at a time..to steer..NOT BE RAMMED..

LOOK !!!I am sewn from asshole to breakfast as they say..
..from an inept thought he knew it prick..so take it from me..
it is not as simple as a little prep..

I am livid when I hear about women worried that they can't "TAKE"/endure?suffer? it..
or men saying "She couldn't take it"
as if they have some great wand..
its like putting a fence post in a pinhole for the inept..thoughtless bastards..
ok guys!!!...you first with the CUCUMBER...show the gals how...

** I took/take 2-3 weeks prep for my boys...with homework for them in order to make this a erotic and pleasurable action

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/15/2009 9:16:31 AM

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Subtract 2" for Internet Inflation

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/15/2009 7:55:03 PM

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Subtract 2" for Internet Inflation

women all over the world can't add becuz all their life
they are told 6" is 9"....shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/15/2009 10:23:33 PM

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Fast Reply...

-Relax
-Practice
-Have fun :)
-Lubricate
-Use an ENEMA beforehand!! (I know most of us like it dirty, but not that dirty! lol)

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/15/2009 11:37:45 PM

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anyone mentioned lube?

lol

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/16/2009 3:06:46 PM

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Please, 10 inch dick and wanting anal sex has wanker fantasy written all over it. Have you actually met the guy in real life and seen the raging python yet???

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/16/2009 5:54:49 PM

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*cracking up at "raging python."

. . .and has anyone mentioned.....LUBE?

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/16/2009 6:26:48 PM

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Raging pythons luv lube!

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/16/2009 7:42:42 PM

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-Use an ENEMA beforehand!! (I know most of us like it dirty, but not that dirty! lol)

an enema completely evacuates the bowels...

anal sex is in the rectum( unless "hard"core")

.............little is stored there...its on its way out by then...

A simple "ass" douche there would suffice..(
shower attachments availble in drugstores etc)

and to those who said "use a SOAPY FINGER.."
NOOOOOOOO..
this causes infection ,irritation and may cause bleeding...

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/16/2009 7:47:08 PM

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If he wants you to enjoy it he will take his time with you and go slowly,men tell me that once they get over the fear and realize that the other party is going to enjoy it too makes a whole lot of difference,foreplay helps ALOT! Good Luck

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/19/2009 12:00:00 AM

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GYPZYQUEEN is generally correct.

Yes, you must communicate your feelings and lack of experience in this area.
RED FLAG -- Only an inept master will fail to provide a healthy and stimulating course of training to prepare you.
It would also be very wise to establish "new" things like anal as hard limits, until you have gained confidence in this person with personal interaction over a significant period of time. Trust is more often misplaced than it is breached!

For more information, consult the ANAL ADVISOR at PUCKERUP point COMmercial.

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RE: Needing Helpful Advise - 7/19/2009 9:44:40 AM

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LOL Focus, right on!
I had visions of her working herself up to take one of those huge horse butt plugs in the ass and meeting a guy who was too small to get passed the cheeks.
10 inch.. yeah..
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ORIGINAL: SweetHonesty28

Okay ... I feel a little weird doing this on here and really exposed .. but ... I need a little help ...

I have been talking to the same Dom for a while now .. and we have gotten to know each other well ... and though I do trust him .. there is a fetish that he has that I have never done personally or have had done to me ... and it scares me to death ... anal sex ...

This man is rather gifted ... being ten inches ... (holy-crap!) and I am not sure I will beable to give him that or even how to enjoy it .. the thought of it ... oh dear god ow .. but he continues to tell me that I would enjoy it ... I am not closed minded to it ... but I keep thinking that its going to hurt .. espically with something that .. umm large? .. lol So ... um ... How is someone who has never done this before ... scared to death ... going to be able to enjoy something like this .. and how? ...

Ten inch dick? Anal fetish?

Be a sport and humour me here 'cause my HNG alarm is making quite a racket...! So when you say "we have gotten to know each other well" but that you have been *TALKING* to him for a while etc, have you actually been in the same room as him and seen this alleged mammoth trouser snake for yourself?

Because if you haven't, the suspicious cynic in me thinks you're getting all apprehensive about entirely the wrong thing! But if you have then my apologies for the disruption and semi-hijack and I'll let you get back to the real advice.

Focus.