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SweetHonesty28 -> Needing Helpful Advise (7/12/2009 10:56:09 PM)

Okay ... I feel a little weird doing this on here and really exposed .. but ... I need a little help ...

I have been talking to the same Dom for a while now .. and we have gotten to know each other well ... and though I do trust him .. there is a fetish that he has that I have never done personally or have had done to me ... and it scares me to death ... anal sex ...

This man is rather gifted ... being ten inches ... (holy-crap!) and I am not sure I will beable to give him that or even how to enjoy it .. the thought of it ... oh dear god ow .. but he continues to tell me that I would enjoy it ... I am not closed minded to it ... but I keep thinking that its going to hurt .. espically with something that .. umm large? .. lol So ... um ... How is someone who has never done this before ... scared to death ... going to be able to enjoy something like this .. and how? ...



SteelofUtah -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/12/2009 11:36:59 PM)

Start Fingering your Ass and you will learn that the Sphincter Mussle relaxes and as the old saying goes......

You can Fist An Asshole. No Cock can Compete with that.

He may need to be more patient but if you WANT to please him you may want to START finding out what your Abilities ACTUALLY ARE.

Start with a finger. Move to a Slim Vibe. Move to a Plug. Move to a Larger Plug.

In the beginning if you are not patient with it it might hurt a little but nothing worse than taking a Large Poo.

If you want to Please this Dom you will have to work on it.

That is all there is to it.

Steel



realtuffdom -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 12:47:25 AM)

Have you talked to him to tell him your concerns? I've discovered that a long conversation over Icee's from Wal Mart always help to set the right stage for the next step in a relationship.



dragonsblood1979 -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 12:58:34 AM)

computer is broken but still wanna make friends im on friends now but leaving for home in a week any help?



ranja -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 1:33:47 AM)

The most important thing is to actually like it, to be aroused about it
Do not shove things up any hole in order to stretch anything, but rather get your self nice and dirty and totally lubed up and do nice depraved dirty things to yourself and you will feel no pain at all, just enjoyment...if it hurts STOP and wait till you get nice and hot about it again



ChasingOblivion -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 2:54:06 AM)

Speaking as someone who has a fair amount of experience "defying the laws of physics," so to speak,  I have three pieces of advice for you. Number one, follow Steel's advice and practice. Number two, RELAX. When you tense up, it's going to hurt. Number three, when all else fails, use more lube. You'll be fine, just try not to over-think it.



UglyTruth -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 3:47:10 AM)

Follow the rest of the advice above, and when you feel like you're ready for him, you start out on top. That way you're in control of how much and how quickly it goes in.



Focus50 -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 4:25:08 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetHonesty28

Okay ... I feel a little weird doing this on here and really exposed .. but ... I need a little help ...

I have been talking to the same Dom for a while now .. and we have gotten to know each other well ... and though I do trust him .. there is a fetish that he has that I have never done personally or have had done to me ... and it scares me to death ... anal sex ...

This man is rather gifted ... being ten inches ... (holy-crap!) and I am not sure I will beable to give him that or even how to enjoy it .. the thought of it ... oh dear god ow .. but he continues to tell me that I would enjoy it ... I am not closed minded to it ... but I keep thinking that its going to hurt .. espically with something that .. umm large? .. lol So ... um ... How is someone who has never done this before ... scared to death ... going to be able to enjoy something like this .. and how? ...


Ten inch dick? Anal fetish?

Be a sport and humour me here 'cause my HNG alarm is making quite a racket...! So when you say "we have gotten to know each other well" but that you have been *TALKING* to him for a while etc, have you actually been in the same room as him and seen this alleged mammoth trouser snake for yourself?

Because if you haven't, the suspicious cynic in me thinks you're getting all apprehensive about entirely the wrong thing! But if you have then my apologies for the disruption and semi-hijack and I'll let you get back to the real advice.

Focus.



angelikaJ -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 4:52:10 AM)

For future reference I recommend reading Anal Pleasure and Health by Jack Morin.



DarkSteven -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 4:54:53 AM)

Ask him how he would go about getting you ready.  If he's genuine, this will make him show that he knows what he's doing and is not a "cram it in as quick as he can" type.

And if he's just a HNG (that 10" dick makes me wonder), he'll get off on telling you.



wandersalone -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 4:59:14 AM)

I am with focus on wondering if it is actual 10 inches or um computer-measured 10 inches.  Apart from the other already good advice you have received I would possibly slow down a little given that you have just left an abusive relationship.

I wish you all the best





slaveluci -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 6:00:22 AM)

A lot of folks are seeming to fixate on the "10 inch" part of your description. It's not THAT rare, at least in my experience. Thankfully, not THAT rare at all[;)]

luci



UglyTruth -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 6:19:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

A lot of folks are seeming to fixate on the "10 inch" part of your description. It's not THAT rare, at least in my experience. Thankfully, not THAT rare at all[;)]

luci


I'd like to hang out with you more often.



SirMIkeSD -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 6:25:03 AM)

You say talking to him, have you actually meet him everyone has a 10 inch dick online.

Mike



SteelofUtah -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 11:27:19 AM)

I have a 10 inch dick.

I also have a Bentley

And a Mansion.

And I own like a Grip of Bicthes.

And At night I sleep on a Pile of Money and Keep all the rest of my money in a Huge Vault and Swim in it all the time.

And I got three nephews and their names are Huey, Duey & Louie

My Brothers name is Donald and he's a Sailor. Hard as hell to understand.

Steel



Kalista07 -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 11:38:16 AM)

i have to completely agree with Luci here....  10 inches is NOT that rare...However, in hindsight it's a damn shame the bastard was a lying sob..Because it was the best sex i've ever had!!!!!!

Kali
who's grateful that HE does not read the boards.
[sm=dancer.gif]



MissDiandSirHugh -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/13/2009 3:54:16 PM)

SweetHonesty You have the right to say that this is a limit for You just now and are happy to talk more on the subject as the two of You develop the relationship and as it does develop can ask Your Dom to not only tell You what He would to get You prepared to receive Him but say You are willing to let Him and Your self explore this area with the use of Fingers and small plugs for some time and so form these times discover if its something You are wanting to take as far as he does or even after one or two times find it is not for You and so has to be a hard limit no matter what.



cagliostro -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/14/2009 10:12:47 PM)

Use plenty of lubricant. Unlike vaginal sex, there is no natural lubrication whatsoever. Work from small objects to larger and larger objects. Your first impulse is liable to be to push whatever it is back out. I assume your unaccusomed to anal play, so the only thing you've ever done is push things out of that orafice. Be aware of their shape during insertion. Plugs generally have a flared head and a flared base. The flared base keeps it from slipping inside, and the flared head will cause a moment of larger dilation. Anal beads are bumpy for lack of a better term, so you'll feel repeated dilation. Be aware of what to expect, it'll help you control your responses. If you're a g-spot girl try to angle things so that during the sex you get more pressure on your g-spot. I'm told it works quite well. Also, you'll find that girth is more an issue than length. If he's hung like a pencil you won't have much trouble. Of course, he'll have to control depth more conscientously. But as far as the penetration, girth is more difficult.



GreedyTop -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/14/2009 11:33:16 PM)

some great advice here...

and in case it hasnt been mentioned *grin*...LUBE!! there's no such thing as too much lube.....



Sunnyfey -> RE: Needing Helpful Advise (7/15/2009 1:23:56 AM)

I'm not into anal,. because of medical issues. But, I would tell this guy, exactly how you feel about this. He'll understand and be nice to you, or he's a prick and wont care. I know that sounds a little jaded, and it is, but really babe, you have to think of your own safety and be proactive about it



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