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Esinn -> RE: What is sexy? (7/16/2009 10:25:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: daintydimples
*just smiles at Esinn
I'm sure I am not the oldest poster on this forum, but I do harbor the delusion that I have acquired a certain amount of wisdom in my 55 years. That wonderful zing you get when in a certain person's presence is not something you can qualify, or quantify, or define, it just IS. Pretty much everything else in a relationship is negotiable, but you can't manufacture that zing.
As someone (I am not retrieving who now) once said: A butterfly is a wondrous thing. But if you catch it, and kill it, and stick it on a board, it's not a butterfly anymore.
Some things are not *supposed* to be over thought.
As always, JMO.
Sometimes meat must be butchered to stimulate our taste buds. Rose Petals barberized to bring the scent of love. Sometimes the spanking of a bare ass plays more of a role than sexual satisfaction of a Top -Esinn (I like that might be my new sig) :D
Considering context of above: If your butterfly collector did not have the courage to ask himself is this how one understands or demonstrates true love? Then he is to remain captured in this mindset. Possibly the butter fly was so beautiful and captivating to him to pin it is a book was all he knew. Only when he identifies why this is can he seek other solutions.
Sexual conceptualization if the intent is honesty and understanding can be a 'magical' process - there is great satisfaction and pleasure to be derived from knowing the truth. Sex therapists echo this. Some might tell you the Tantric school of thought has preached this since Christ.
I choose to enjoy who I am; it is something I chose to unlock and explore. During this trip because of this understanding I have been able to make changes or push myself when I knew it was needed.
Any self-respecting psychologist would caution you about the power you loose if you do not truly desire to understand your core values. Knowing and understanding is a core tenant of most major schools of philosophy I have been introduced too as well.
(Below is clarification / re-hash of above points and not necessary to read)
I do appreciate your new wording and the fact you did not consider it metaphysical. I mostly say that because of your cutesy analogy. To which I feel compelled to respond to with some quotes:
"The person who does not know themselves is a person I can never truly know" - Esinn(I anticipate the objections to what degree of knowing though Esinn.. - gah see above....)
"To Thy own self be true" - Someone smarter than Esinn
"Question Everything" - ditto
All I hear is in this community is how important it is to be maintain constant dialogue with your partner, to be open and honest. To be coherent, observant and alert(I see some objections - gah)
I see no reason we should not demand the same with ourselves. Upon request you offered me up a book title. I will be different and suggest you pursue some research on, "core values, human sexuality, physiology and psychology."
Start Here:
http://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Your-Cells-Beliefs-Control/dp/1591795222 Understand, I do not seek to reduce this to a meaningless pinned butterfly or a weak chemical reaction in the brain. I do wish to remove much of the mystery it does not deserve, I wish to rescue such logic from the shadows. As I said the truth has ability to stimulate and reward us all. Deception has the ability to offer us something negative.
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